How do you prove?

[ILoveLucy21]

Hello everyone!

I've noticed in some of the hardship letters used by members that they mentioned that all of the USC's family is in the U.S. and it would therefore be a hardship for him/her to live outside the U.S. since he/she has no one there.

Has anyone used this argument and if so how do you prove it (what kind of evidence do you use to prove that all of your family lives here)??

Of course this will only be one of my many arguments, by no means the only one :)

[everything4love]

This is usually not a thing that many can prove. I think the consulate just has to take your word. I had a recent death in my family so I provided the obiturary that listed all my family members and the cities they live in.

[Ginger]

Of cause you can prove ( or at least support it). We had most of our family members to write a testimonies, where they were telling what a hardship would be for my hubby if I am not in the US, how would it be affecting their lives, as well as closeness of the families. Those letters were notarized and we attached it to our package of supporting documents. If you want- you can add pictures. This is YOUR life so I believe that you should do as much as possible to support your testimonies. Do not assume that officer would believe you, try to prove EACH word you put in the waiver.

[MistyB]

Why dont you have your family submit a letter? Tell them to put their SS#'s and address on it. All they have to do is check. That's what we did.

[Lulu]

photocopies of their passports can show they are USCs, and copies of drivers licenses to show they reside in the US. Letters/affidavits would work too, but for the most part, unless they are showing hardship to the USC, that is unnecessary.

But most people, (including me), don't go through all that. If you are swearing that the info in your waiver is true and signing your name, they'll just have to take your word for it.

[ILoveLucy21]

Thanks for the replies everyone, that was very helpful! No one besides my fiancee knows about my legal situation so that's why I didn't think about having his relatives write letters. However, I could consider making a list of names, relationship to the USC, place of birth, and SS# of at least a handful of important people in his life.

[ILoveLucy21]

some pictures would work as well, great idea!

[Ginger]

I love Lucy, what you can do, is to make a photo collage. For example, in a sheet of papers attach 2-3 pictures, underneath each write: “ with cousin Betty, James and Mary on Thanksgiving party 2005”, “My Birthday, celebrating with hubby’s family”,…..

I understand your point not wanting to get his family involved. But you guys have friends, right? So his and yours friends can write a letters, his co-workers/boss can write a letter, pastor of the church, your mailman (if you are in a very friendly relationships with him). It is my believe that as more evidence as better.

Our Lawyer did not think that editing pictures to the waiver was a good idea. One of our hardship points was that due to the stress my hubby gain an enormous amount of weight ( and we are really talking more then 100 pounds). We have decided to send a pictures anyway. One the sheet of papers I have attached 2 pictures- one made after we married and other made 1 month ago (on the moment of submitting papers).

People in immigration are good with psychology. Sometimes what you cannot describe in the paper you can clearly see in the pictures or in person. You guys cannot be in front of the adjudicator so why not to send pictures?

Please do not get me wrong, I am not encouraging you to send all your family album, but for example, if you have a baby and claming a hardship that your husband is very close with him/her, why not send a picture that was made in the hospital in 5 minutes after the baby was born? I think that men who was present at his baby’s birth certainly proved already that he wants to be in that child life and should not be separated by the system.