Lost Control

[roquediaz]

Hello everyone, I just need to vent to you because I feel so alone in the world. As most of you know that I fell sick in March and just about every week I am in the hospital and it is sickening. My transmission in my car failed and now I can't get any answers as to when I will have my husband back. I can't deal with this anymore so to take away the pain I have turned to the bottle. This is kind of embarassing what I am telling you but I need to tell someone. The last time I went to the hospital it was by ambulance an since I can't have my children with me in the hospital and as many times I have been there; the state was called and they took my chiildren into protective custody until I can get better. So now I don't have any family with me and I am going nuts, that is when I started drinking. I don't get drunk but I sleep better. I talk to my husband about once a week and he tells me I need to get better, but how when this affliction is for life? I just need some support I am in tears just about 20 hours of a day. I am fighting every arm of the law now. They don't want to keep the kids from me they want my health stable or my husband here to help me. How can I force Immigration to move faster? I am just tired and don't know what to do anymore.:mad: :cry:

[pen1137]

please stay strong til someone more informed on the expedites can help you!

surely you can submit your medical records to the consulate or thru your senators to get this moving.

you're in our prayers and just keep hanging on!

[Dorothea]

roque, you should definitely find out about expiditing, seriously!
and don't drink too much, it will give them another reason to keep your kids away from you. You will get through this...

[aprilstorm]

Hey there friend. Hopefully someone who has had their case expedited will see this post and can give you some answers. I am so sorry that your children were taken away and that you have gone thru all this. Send all your medical records and also something saying that your kids can come back if your husband was here..the agency should give you something saying that. I know how hopeless and alone you feel. We are here for you. I know that only talking on the internet is not the same as having someone right there but sweetie just let us know when you need us..we are only an email away.:)
I know that saying be strong makes you want to throw something ( it did me :wink:) but that is what you have to try and be..it's not easy that's for sure. Please don't think you are alone..we are here.

[ce&ll]

I agree, you should find out about having your husbands case expedited! You have several harships that you are facing. Prayers for your family!

[karissa]

Definately figure out how to expedite your case!! It sounds like you really would have a strong case for an expedite. We will keep you in our prayers!!

[roquediaz]

I went through both of the Congressmans' offices and immigration states they can't expedite his case due to an issue. They won't explain the issue so I took another step and sent the problems to the Omsbudman, and the wonderful President Bush. I don't know what else I can do. I have lost it completely. :ill:

[Miaele07]

Hang in there Roque were praying fo you.

[zamarrone]

When did your husband turn in his waiver? You need to send all your info to Warren ASAP. I'm sure he will help you out.

[Laura]

They filed a month or two ago, through the Pilot Program, but were put in the backlog. If I remember right, it might have had to do with a misdemeanor on her husband's record, but it's hard to know.

Roque - hang in there... stop drinking, get your kids back, and then worry about your husband. Honestly, there may not be a way to make immigration move faster, so the best thing is to work on the things you have more control over -- your health, getting your kids back, not drinking so much, etc. We all know the difficulty of being separated, but his approval in some months should be a light to look for at the end of the tunnel.

I know that is not what you want to hear, but there's not much else to say. Good luck and most of all, stay STRONG and do not give up!!!

[meesh]

Thank you for sharing your struggles with us. There's no reason to be embarassed. Even the strong fall weak at times. If your husband were here, he would be your rock. I'm so sorry that your children were taken away. That must be so hard. Remember that no one can ever replace you; you are their mother. This sounds like it might be rock bottom, but this is an opportunity to focus on taking care of yourself. You've probably been busy taking care of everyone in your life, but God is going to take care of you now. Your situation will improve. I think that the recent developments in your case would qualify you for an expedite. When your husband is home, I hope that you are even closer than before, with an even stronger marriage. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

[needhelpfast]

Hi Roque,
Hey listen, you have friends here, don't give up!! Protective services have placed your children in foster care? Do you have a friend or family member that is willing to help you right now until you get better?
I am actually a social worker and I work with protective services quite regularly. I know that PS would much prefer that your kids be placed with a family member vs. strangers. Do you have anyone who would be willing to do this for you? PS will even pay for the cost of their care in the interim. Just a thought, call the PS worker in charge of your case, explore alternative options for your kids with her. Also, have her write a letter stating that you can get your kids back when you are better or when your husband is home. Sounds like you have an extremely strong case, where is your imm case being processed? I would get the name and telephone number of that person's supervisor and notify by phone of the urgency. Fax the letter in to the supervisor and see if that does anything, it should.

We're here for you ok? We may have never met you, but we are like a family because we can all relate!! Make some calls.
NHF

[luvmyjth44]

I'am so sorry to hear about your kids I know God will help you to get thru this and also bring your husband home to you
Take care and God Bless You