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mami.rodriguez
11-18-2007, 04:50 AM
Hey y'all...let's just say my situation is getting worse by the day...

I lost my job yesterday...over parking!!! Can you believe it!!! The place where I work has a small parking lot, with just enough spaces for the workers...well we had some visitors on Wednesday, and since I come in at a wierd time, I had to drive around and around the parking lot to find a space...By the time I walked in and punched in, it was 10:02. I sent an email to my boss right away and let her know what had happened. Thursday, I knew the visitors would be there, so I went REEEEEEEEALLY early...around 9:25, and drove around and around and around. I finally found a spot, and when I punched in, it was 9:57. I knew that my work was trying to find a reason to fire me, so I took pictures of the full lot from EVERY angle, and was taking pictures of the clock in my van as I was driving around the dang lot. Sure enough, 10 minutes after I walked in the door, my boss came and asked if we could talk...she walked me into the HR office and told me that I was fired. I didn't make a stink about it, and they claim that I have a history of tardiness...3/4 of them are for 1 or 2 minutes when parking is an issue. The other couple, I was late 1 time by 8 minutes because I got pulled over because I was driving my husband's car, and there is an officer here that has it in for him...well he saw the car, and I was going around a curve and touched the white line. He stopped me and was trying to get me for a DUI...made me take a breathalyzer and everything!!! ME!!! I DON'T DRINK HARDLY EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was pi$$ed and mouthed off to him, asked him if the last beer I had had, which was about 2 months ago, would show up on his little machine thingy...and then asked him if he was disappointed that I was driving the car and not my husband...:angel: Needless to say, then he decided to check EVERYTHING! Maybe I should have shut my mouth, but man that officer gets to me, ya know? Anyway, I called them 20 minutes before I was scheduled to start and let them know that I was going to be late.

The other time I was late, I overslept. My therapist put me on Clonazepam and some other thing like that that starts with a T...not Toradol...can't think of it now...but they worked good to help me sleep!!! Anyway I woke up at the time that I usually leave for work, threw in my contacts, got dressed, and brushed my hair on the way to work...I was probably 10 minutes late, but again I called them on the way and let them know what had happened... In my book, I was late twice, both times I called them and let them know...I had a valid reason (not the best reason, but valid anyway) for being late...but they have been on my case since I asked them for the week off for our interview... Now I don't have to worry about taking time off...but I DO have to worry about how we are going to get to Juarez and find a place to stay for a week...Not to mention the "error in scheduling" fiasco.

You've heard about the camel, right??? well his back is about at his breaking point...I don't know how much more of this I can handle.

I just needed to vent, and I am REALLY grateful that there is a soap box here...

I know that everything happens for a reason, but COME ON!!! This is a little too much.

Another thing...I know that based on the affidavit of support, my husband can't ask for public assistance...but can I go and apply for me and my kids without it hurting our case? I won't do anything that would stand in the way of my husband's waiver, but the kids have to eat!

Klame1983
11-18-2007, 05:08 AM
I am really sorry to hear about your situation. Maybe it's a blessing in disguise! It's hard to think of how it could be a blessing, but later on you'll probably better off working somewhere else. I had a job like that. They counted every single minute! I finally quit the stupid thing and found a waaaay better job where they're not strict at all on your quantity of time spent on the job, but rather the quality of work you do.

About the public assistance thing, I worked for an immigration law firm before and you and your children are entitled to ask for public assistance if you need it. We had a lot of situations like this and the attorneys always told them to go and ask for it. We never had any one's case hurt because of it.

Regardless, I wish you the best! Just take a deep breath and try to relax. Tomorrow will be another day.

mami.rodriguez
11-18-2007, 05:12 AM
Thanks...I hate asking for help, but I am not sure that I will be able to find another job as quickly as I need it...

"Yeah...I can start tomorrow...but by the way I need to take a week or two off in the very near future..."

I wouldn't even hire me!!!!!

Hopefully CDJ comes through and gets us an appointment soon, so I can just not worry about time while I am down there...I don't have to stress about being back to work on Monday...and I have LOTS of time now to finish research for my HSL... Money will be tight for a while, but God is on my side. I also went and applied for unemployment, so we'll see if that gets granted or not.

kitkat1
11-18-2007, 05:44 AM
You know what? Maybe this is just what you need. A break to focus on your HSL and the time to find a job where people are not let go simply because they were late a few times. If you were fired, you will definitely get unemployment. And public assistance is no issue since it's for you and your kids, not your husband. Everything DOES happen for a reason - maybe in this case it's to remove the stress of your job so you can focus on this process. Hang in there!

tasksgirl
11-18-2007, 06:19 AM
WOW that is picky.. it must have been for another reason it can't be for being 1 minute late.. is that an office job?? They act like retail or something..

Do you still have the affidavit of support covered?

Don't worry - Everything has a reason..

starlynnb
11-19-2007, 07:35 PM
When my husband left and we were put into backlog I went for assistance and filed bankruptacy. I asked my immigration lawyer and she said it wont hurt your case. Get all the assistance you need. So as of right now I get WIC it helps with formula and food for my kids. There also is food stamps out there and medical assistance. I have also applied for daycare assistance and I am approved but need to find somone with an opening. I have also filed BK it helps me out financially and now I am able to make it with my husband gone. I curently live with my sister and that helps. I have also applied for housing assistance and I am on the waiting list. I thought I would share this with you. ALSO make sure you fight for unemployment!!!!!!!

mami.rodriguez
11-22-2007, 05:24 AM
OK Guys...pray for me this next week...I have my interview for FS on Tuesday...can't bring myself to apply for welfare, but I will accept Food for my kids...but the case worker I was assigned to is trying to tell me that the ENTIRE household has to apply together...which is BS because my husband doesn't have a SSN to apply with...but it looks like I am going to have to sit down and go over the entire immigration process with her and let her know exactly what is going on...

I have also been putting in tons of applications for ANYTHING I can find...so please pray that I find a job... Thanks for the uplifting comments and support...you guys are great!!!

Losing my job was a blessing in disguise...I am not so stressed out any more (still stressed, but not as much) and have a LOT more time to do things with my kids and sit down with my husband at night and just spend time together without me cleaning house or cooking...TIME is such a gift!!!

Have a happy Thanksgiving, everyone!!!

nineten
11-22-2007, 10:13 PM
I'm very sorry about your job loss which can be devastating.

I wouldn't be ashamed to apply for anything that I'm eligible to receive. Taking care of you and yours is of utmost importance. Push forward and accept anything you can get. Churches will also assist. Some have food cabinets for passing out to those in need and often on an emergency basis.