Was it all for nothing?

[MistyB]

I look at my signature and it really irks me. I busted my butt getting this waiver together for my ex. Now I really feel like I did it all for nothing. I worked so hard on it. All the time gathering evidence. All the words I tried to find to make our argument stand out. All the dealings with an attorney, the stress, the upset, the overall wonderful exhuberant feeling of being approved.

I know our other members that have experienced a divorce upon being approved know exactly what I am saying here. How in the world do you deal with such a giant letdown?

[Chula]

So your divorced now? I didn't know. I am however sorry you went through that! It is frustrating and it hurts alot. It's alright to get mad and upset becasue like you stated you worked hard but your payment will come you will be blessed in other ways. You take care!

[slubberry]

At least now that your back home, you could go to your family for support.


If that doesn't help, Go rent a Saab, then drive through the nearest IKEA. Afterwards, get some candy and porno.:bounce:

[blueblue]

Misty,
I'm sorry you are going through a divorce. It is never easy, even if you hadn't had the immigration BS.

You can say that feeling that you did it all for nothing about everything that went before. Divorce always brings that feeling of failure somehow. But that is the pain and anger and maybe a bit of betrayal you are feeling. You have to look at the good things that came out of it and learn what you can from it.

At least you got to meet all of us! But, even better you have 3 beautiful children, you are finally home with them, their dad is nearby so they can have a relationship even if the marriage ended. I hope that you and your husband will work through your issues and come to some kind of balance for the kids sake and for yours. There is life after divorce. It takes time.

Take care.

[MistyB]

I guess I am feeling a bit of self pity today. I do feel like a failure. I mean if I cant succeed at a 10 year relationship, then what can I succeed at?

My family is a non issue. They suck. Enough said about that. They hated my ex husband anyway and never gave him a chance. They were part of the problem. A small part but a part in any event.

Chula, I am not divorced yet. The papers havent even been filed but it's coming soon. He said he wanted to talk to me this weekend. It has to be about that. He has a new girlfriend.

I do feel betrayed. I stood by him and helped him and got nothing in return.

[USnoiva]

:( Keep looking up, Misty. Things will get better eventually.
Too bad he doesn't have to remove conditions. Then you could return him like a bad purchase. hahaha
Although, the kids may not like that.

[egonzalez1975]

MistyB

I am sorry to hear that you are going through that. Sometimes we do the best we can do but when something isn't meant it's just not meant. Every day will get easier and easier. I felt the same way with my ex-husband and was devastated when we divorced but now I look back and realize that had it not happened I wouldn't have the absolutely wonderful and tolerant, I might add, husband that I do.

Just hang in there because there are better things to come!!! :wink:

[maekju]

Hello Misty,
I'm very sorry you're going through hard times. I know your feelings. My first marriage ended in divorce after being married 24 years. You did what you had to do. I hope you and your husband can work things out. Just think, if it hadn't been for your husband you wouldn't have had the opportunity to help out all those you did including myself.
Hang in there and keep your head high. Good times will roll again.

[MistyB]

Hey Maekju! Long time no see..

Yes I know you are right. It's just so hard to see the positive in something that feels so wrong, kwim? We wont work things out. It's pretty obvious because he brought his girlfriend to my house on Sunday to pick the children up. When next we speak I will tell him to stop bringing her. It's very disrepectful to me.

I guess I just dont understand how he can throw 10 years away like it meant nothing. I feel like with everything we went through to be here together, meant nothing.

[mamacita]

I am so very sorry this has happened to you!
Your ex husband needs to have at least the respect you should have as the Mother of his children not to bring his girlfriend to your HOUSE!:(:huh::

You will be rewarded one day in the future with a better person who will love and respect you and the children!

Hang in there my Amiga, God will show you soon!

Take care,
Mamacita:thumbup:

[ratito921]

Misty I'm really sorry to hear about you and your hubby.

Didn't you live out of the country for a LONG time while waiting for a miracle?

I'm so sorry. Just stand strong. If you can make it through that you can make it through anything. Karma will bite him in the ass. So don't even waste your time on him if that's the way he's going to be.

Stay strong for yourself and your kids. And do what's right by you and don't even worry about him.

[Pooh79]

Misty I am truly sorry this has happened to you but do not feel like a failure. You did not fail he did. He failed to see what an awesome wife he had. Take care and chin up things will get better.

[aprilstorm]

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. It will take you some time to not feel this way and that is understanderable..I know I would have felt the same way. You hang in there the best you can and if you need us you let us know.

[MistyB]

Feeling better today....I just want you to know that I wont be talking about him on my myspace page in case he checks that.

I guess I am on a roller coaster. One day like today I am ok and the next I am a little sad. :o

[Chula]

I get like that too you will be fine. You take care!!