pls help!

[lyn21]

hello to all! i have to say first that this forum is so very helpful to me. once i posted a question and was able to find it, and now i cant find it anymore. perhaps i dont know how,:bounce: i just want to ask anyone who can help me about my case. my story can be really so dramatic, confusing and frustrating but i know im the one to be blame.

im sorry if i didnt post it to the right topic because i dont know how to post yet, so i click on where i can find new thread. sorry!

my name is bianca lyn my nationality is filipino but now i am using u.s passport. how? i dont know i was a kid when my mom applied for me. but grew up in the philippines and china complicating huh! well anyway i met a guy through a dating website year 2005 sometime in sept. i went to travel in the philippines to see the guy. he is very nice to me and i fell inlove with him, he was so poor i didnt know about it. we stayed in the hotel for 6 months. i knew he didnt want me for money because he tried to help me with everything he can and his family was very loving and nice to me.
3 months being together we decided to get married it's just civil married.
i was kind of mad because he told me he will take care of the photos and videos. after the wedding none of them was recorded and screwed the rolls of the film i dont know who. but anyway im very happy with him so i let it go.

then we went to the embassy in manala or manila. and then i was told that i needed to go back to california and file for him here. i have to leave him and follow the procedures. he was kneeling and begging to stop me because he said that we just got married and he was afraid that i may forget him and simply really forget him and that i may not want to go through the hassle of bringing him here. i was so sad when i saw him so i called my friend here and asked what to do because i want to go back here if thats what it takes.
suddenly one my friend told me that her sister in law crossed the border in mexico so they told me to contact the coyote to ask if she can help me about him.
i wanted him to be safe and not to be scared. so the coyote asked me 3000 bucks and the only thing he will do is to sit in the car and i pick him up in san diego. i told my husband about the plan and he said he's ok with it.
the problem is he dont have a transit visa in the united states. no direct flight from manala to mexico. so i went to the travel agency if they can find a country who dont require transit visa. yes there is HOLLAND Amsterdam.
so i bought a ticket for both us from manala-amsterdam-mexico city.
even in the mexican embassy i needed to lie and tell the consul that we are going to mexico for honeymoon. :bleh: it wasnt easy to get it tho needs a lot of requirements. im not rich i borrowed money from my credit card and mother. so there we are in mexico city spending time together for 15 days. and then i went to get a ticket to tijuana , when we arrived in tijuana airport they hold him for a while because im american citizen and he is not so they are probably smelling something. finally we made it safely. we spent a couple of days in tijuana so he get to know places we have been visiting.
lets say he crossed the border already. after 3 months of staying here he was feeling bad for himself that he is not working, so another friend of mine bought an id for him and a social security. he applied to be a cook he was working for a year. i filed taxes together etc. i always consult a paralegal about his case and im always advised to wait for the law unless we dont care if he go back to manala. now after the immigration bill reform was kinda disgusting for me. i went to the lawyer to ask if he can adjust his status without going back. by the way i told him to stop working and just open a business whatever he likes. i care for him i dont want to be caught or deported.
tha lawyer said he cant adjust status here because he dont have legal entry, getting married here again wont help at all. the lawyer said file the I-130 and wait. but today i went to visit my friend who is a lawyer too but criminal lawyer specialized deportation told me not to file yet the I-130 because she wants to study his case.
is there anyway as in anyway that i may pay anyone to help him adjust his status here without going back. i offered a lawyer 20,000 dollars excluding his fee and service but refused because he said he cant do anything about it.
pls i dont know what to do anymore, my plan is to terminate my relationship with him because i felt bad and guilty for him because im the one to be blame with everything, he cant drive and go anywhere we want because he is very scared. i told him i will give him some money to start his life in the philippines but he dont want to, he wants to stay with me but i know it;s hard for him what his status is, i just dont know what to do.
im frustrated because no matter i want to pay just to fix his case, still not possible.
im mad because why is it that i didnt follow the law,
i know im the one to be blame and i cannot forgive myself if something happen to him.
im just hoping somebody who has the same case with me who have succeeded could share their story. any suggestions,advice will be appreciated.
thank to you all., you guys are great and very honest.:shy::shy:

[pen1137]

lyn-

here is your initial post:

http://immigrate2us.net/forum/showthread.php?t=419

so you are a USC? i got kind of confused when you said that about the US passport...

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[Pinkpig]

Lyn21,

Are you a United States Citizen?

Yes or no?

[lyn21]

yes i am usc. i am using a u.s passport to be clear, i got it when i was 6. but my mom didnt like to liver anymore so we went back to the philippines. but then because i have my family in hongkong china, my mom would take me there i went to study there for a while but i was very stubborn so they sent me back to philippines. i have my other family here so i started coming here when i was 18 with my mom to spend time here with my family, i decided to work and live here. right now my mom lives in france with my dad and brother. i am 100 percent sure that i am usc. why? because i can vote here.
but as i told u my story about my husband's case. i just dont know what to do anymore. so thats why guys im asking help from all of you. i know that you guys are very nice and really sharing information.

if there's any question pls let me know what i can do.
i havent file anything yet for him. here or in manala, nothing as in nothing because all the time when im about too file the I-130 im always told not to it yet. the waiver thing gosh! i cant think of any reason too. thanks a lot!

[angela256z]

OK So you are a US citizen that grew up in the Philippines? You were born in the US or gained naturalization through your parents? You need to file the I-130 get it done now to avoid the increase in fees. He will have to return to Manila. You need to have a very strong hardship letter because I have heard that Manila has a very low approval rating. Since he did not enter the US in a legal way he can not adjust his status while in the US. You should try going to Laurel Scott's chat next wednesday, but I believe what I have said is the only thing that you can do. The I-130 process only works if you are a legal permanat resident or a USC.

[lyn21]

i guess that it was a big mistake of letting him to cross the border. it was a mistake. the only option is to file for him the I-130 and wait till they approve it. no matter what they will deny his application so from now i need to ask a lot of loans and getting more stress and stress so i can have one reason for extreme hardship. and then if he cant really come back here for more that 10 years., i guess we need to open up a business there or probably reside there forever.

i think you guys solve all my problems already.
since his visa in mexico is expired, can he come there and extend it again and just pay a fee. let's say he will be able to get the visa. do you guys think that we could file for him there and wait there even he is not mexican.
i was thinking of renting a small hotel there for a year and simply i cross the border myself to see him, what do u guys think? is it possible?

it's a lot of money but i can find my way perhaps ask my mom again with a big interest. i wish it's possible. honestly i dont know what to do anymore,im really stress. is the wiver harship stuff is about me or him?
i am working, earning good, we have house, we have car, i can drive, im healthy, we dont have baby, im not pregnant, so i cant think of extreme hardship because they will tell me that i can go and see him. as a 21 year old girl, i also have a clothing store. do u think if i tell the consul that he needs to help me to take care of the business will be enough reason.
i have one in the mall, and 1 in swapmeet. so i dont know actually.
what if i annull our marriage there and then file a fiance visa, wil it help?
hahah i dont know what im thinking, it's ok im just going to ask him what he wants. thanks to all of you.
guys you are the BEST!:thumbup:

[ratito921]

you're already married so there's no reason to go and annul it and try to start over again. There's no short cut to this or an easy way to do it. It's simple, you can file the I-130 wait for approval then wait for his appointment in Manila, which he will be required to go to. At that time you will submit a waiver of hardship. As the others have told you Manila doesn't have a very high approval rating.

Or you can just continue like you're living at the moment and hope he doesn't caught and pray that they change the law to benefit your situation.

I would personally talk to Laurel Scott because waivers are what she does. She can tell you what your options are.

I hope you can get this mess straightened out but the "easy" way went out the window the moment he entered illegally and stayed past 180 days.

[lyn21]

may i know who is laurel's scott? how can i get in touch with her? i know a lawyer who is immigration lawyer but specialized deportation some stuff like that, i think it's criminal lawyer but about immigation. but you know what guys she is not a help at all. she even told me to ask my husband to cross the border and be caught so then i can come and pay the bail and then apply a visa for him. i didnt do it because i dont know why he should do that, besides he is not going to be taking care of in mexico. he is not mexican they may probably contact the united states and let them handle it or he might be in custody for a period of time while checking his background and contact the philippines consul or gov. i dont know.

[pen1137]

lyn-

laurel scott- http://visacentral.net/ (well worth the consultation fee!)

i'm not sure of the residency requirements in MX-hopefully someone will chime in- but i believe it's possible to get that residency and file through there.

good luck!

[lyn21]

mr. pen,

thanks for the scott website, i got everything i need even though i knew it already. but still it makes me understand more to stop being makulit heheh., i knew i have to send my husband home. which is i dont want to :bleh: now im trying to find a way if he can adjust his status in mexico or any other country. why is philippine citizenship is very difficult. thank you guys!:thumbup:

[ratito921]

It is my understanding that because he is from the Phillipines he will have to return to the Phillipines to adjust status. He is a citizen there. He might be able to go to a different country and wait but that is the country you will have to adjust status through. There's no short cut to get him here legally.

[pen1137]

hey, ratito, isn't there a residency thing? maybe i'm thinking dl, and perhaps i'm losing my mind...:confused1::eek1:

[ratito921]

hey, ratito, isn't there a residency thing? maybe i'm thinking dl, and perhaps i'm losing my mind...:confused1::eek1:

I'm not sure, but from what she has said she snuck him in through Mexico so he never came on a visa. And he's been here a while so I don't think there's anything they can do in country. Maybe somebody else knows. I'm confused too! :dontgetit:

[lyn21]

perhaps of so many language i needed to learn, my english never become so clear, im sorry about that.
yes he is a filipino citizen, i snuck him through mexico. i applied a mexican tourist visa for him from the philippines. and then he crossed the border in tj. he is totally called the EWI. i really did talk to a lawyer many many lawyer. i get the same information you guys have given me. but the lawyer said that it is very low chance to get approve my waiver. if that so that he failed to get the approval he will be stuck in manila. thats why im finding out a way to adjust his status here which is not possible right now, or any other country that he can get a visa. perhaps asian country will not be difficult. i dont know what to do anymore.
i did talked to a consul here in u.s. she is the sister of my friend she told me that she cant do anything because he didnt have a legal entry, she will be question in the future why she issue visa to him so he may adjust his status.
i offered the lawyer a big amount of money so she can bribe the officer to stamp my husband's passport to have visa here so he can have legal entry but everybody are so scared. pls guys i need a good advice. help me what to do.
i tried to get pregnant almost everyday we are trying to make it faster so it can be one of my reasons, but still nothing happen, we have been together now for almost 3 years. no baby yet.
im financially stable, emotional, physical so what kind of basis should i put in my waiver nothing. for sure he will be denied. thank you so much guys and to ratiato:shy: hope all our problems will be solved soon.
by the way should i vote republican or democrat? i was thinking individually now instead voting a party. i have `0 people with me who will vote and will listen to me to which party and person should they vote. let me know which one. but i feel like clinton for the president. sorry to those who dont agree.

[cherrycandy001]

I'm not 100% sure but I thought I read something somewhere that if you both go and live in Mexico for a year that you can get your case through Ciudad Juarez Mexico...however I am not sure. I recommend that you go to Laurels chat on Wednesday morning at 11:00 a.m central time and talk to her. http://www.visacentral.net/ I'm sure someone will chime in about it...

[lyn21]

thanks! i appreciate it. if my husband applied for a tourist visa in mexico. but his visa got expired like a year ago. can he come to mexico and pay the over stay and extend his visa again. can i do it myself so he dont have to cross the border, i tried to search mexican embassy in mexico but they always give me u.s embassy in mexico. do you know the website of mexico.
they only gave him 3 weeks visa, we just said we want to visit mazatlan. then we take it from there. bangkok doesnt take philippine case. i have been thinking about the possibility of staying in mexico. the lawyer always tells me that the only thing i can do is to file th e I-130 which is i believe it;s not a big deal to do. im concern about the next step. i dont know what to say, jus pls would you be kind to help me to find the mexican embassy, the chat requires java, i dont think i have it. thanks a lot again.

congratulations! you are now USC.

[cherrycandy001]

Thank you however I am not a USC I am a permanent resident.
I will try but I am not too good at that and my computer is kind of a jerk with sometimes...however I am sure that if someone knows they will say something. If I am able to attend the chat on Wednesday morning I will try to ask Laurel about your case
-Candy

[Laura]

Lyn - you definitely need to talk to a lawyer, but really, you should get the idea out of your head that there is some way to buy or trick your way out of this. Considering you are a USC, it would have been a relatively short and painless process to bring him to the U.S. legally the first time with a fiance or spouse visa. I'm not trying to be rude or mean, but honestly, your only option now is to attempt the I-130 followed by the I-601 waiver.

Probably the majority of people on this site have weathered the I-601 process, and most have survived in one way or another. But, if you want to be together in the U.S., it's going to be a long, tough road, no getting around it.

Manila is a difficult consulate, so if he is able to get residency in Mexico that might be a way to go, but he would actually have to live there, and that might be extremely difficult as I imagine he doesn't speak Spanish. Maybe you could go together and it would be an adventure?

Anyway, considering residency in Mexico so that you can file through Ciudad Juarez would be a great thing to discuss with Laurel. Although processing through a consulate like Manila will also require an excellent lawyer. Laurel specializes in the I-601, which you will have to file for his illegal presence after they initially deny his visa.

Good luck and keep asking questions.

[lyn21]

this time i will listen to you, i guess i cant get around! you are really right! thank you for telling me that. candy thank you too. and i will really appreciate it if you can ask laurel about my husband's case.
the lawyer said that she will review his case, but then Sh*t she havent call me yet for any news.
does anyone knows how can i apply for my husband to get resident card in mexico, does tourist visa wont work. and does any one knows how much will it cost.? they say rich country in europe might work for him. perhaps my mother who lives in france with my dad could invite us to go there and he will take it from there. no? possible?
dont worry guys! i know im being so annoying, im sorry in advance, but this is the place (forum) where i can express what i think and feel, and get some ideas from different people who are having problems about immgration.
yes i definetely know that i need to file the I-130 and then the waiver because for sure he will be deny, thats whyim trying to find any other way to get him somewhere that is so close to me to see him. like mexico in tijuana, it's jsut 3 hours driving from where i live.,

[cherrycandy001]

I think in order to get residence in Mexico he just has to live there..and you have to wait a year before you begin the process but I am not sure. You really should try and get to a different computer at a library or something to chat with Laurel because your case is complicated and I'm not sure I could give her all the details

[lyn21]

does any one know the website of mexican embassy, anyway candy you are so nice, thank you.

[ratito921]

this isn't a government website for Mexico but it does have some information and should be able to get you started. http://www.mexperience.com/liveandwork/immigration.htm

Also you said you're in California, but I'm not sure what part, but it might not hurt to check with your nearest Mexican Consulate there. They should be able to answer your questions about residency.

You could also try the Mexican Embassy in Washington DC http://portal.sre.gob.mx/usa/index.php?option=displaypage&Itemid=111&op=page&SubMenu

[lyn21]

san bernardino county, a lot a lot of mexicans heheh. maybe there's embassy of mexico around my area, i will do so. thanks for the website i havent gone there yet, i decided to reply first,

lets not talk about immigration, my husband dont seem so worried about his status or deportation or getting caught,
today he talked to me about a possibility of working at the hotel.
i told him they might check him there and he may just be disappointed if he fails. he said he knows someone who can give him a fake id to apply for a job.
by the way last year another filipino that we know lead him to get a fake resident card and fake social just to get a job. he told the employer about his case and they hired him. however we joined taxes together last year. it wasnt me who want to claim his taxes, it was him because he wants to use the money to send to philippines. so we went to an office who do the taxes.
i asked if it's possible to claim taxes even if he dont know if someone owns it. the lady said it's fine. so we did and received the check. the lady applied a tin number for him and irs sent it to us. from that moment i didnt let him use none of those fake id's. it seems to me he wants to do it again to get a job.
any advice? do u think he will have a problem later on for claiming his tax despite that it wasnt real?
am i responsible in the end when he get caught? am i going to be in jail? i dont want to huhuhu