breathe in - breathe out

[imisshimmuch]

Upside down, boring, horrible, depressing: My life now. My life since I've had to fight for the love of my life to be able to come back. Having said that, being a woman of faith, I have to believe, and most of the time I do (sometimes I'm weak) that things DO happen for a reason.
We were probably taking each other for granted. We needed time apart to grow, to appreciate one another. Life is a big test. This is a big one so far, but nothing is impossible. Nothing is.
It helps to have this faith, and honestly without I think I would be in my bed crying day in and day out, basically giving up on life, on love, on what's right.
But no, that's not what we should do , and I'm so happy to know so many woman, and men, that are going through this, are not giving up. It's quite inspiring.
It scares me to death to think that I will sacrifice all this time, this money, this energy, and that the end result will not be an "approval". That someone will say i'm not suffering ENOUGH. That really scares me......I try not to think about it.
OK - enough I'm done - words to live by, THIS TOO SHALL PASS :thumbup:

[Melissa_31375]

I second that, to me it's not about the time, it's not about the $$ because we can replace the $$ and replace the money years we will share not being afraid to live our lives. But Im too worried that after all this, they say NO....thats what Im so scared of.

[JULERCK]

I feel the same way! We have to continue with our life in order to bypass this situation. we need to be all strong, especially for our kids.

[cindy101]

So many people have told me that someday this will all be just a fading memory- doubt it!

It is awful living with the fear that my own personal pit of despair (life) will not seem miserable enough to the person adjudicating our waiver... You're 100% dead on about that.

But... like you, I have to hold on in good faith that something positive will come out of all of this. That I will cherish my husband more, and have an even stronger family than before my husband left.

[aprilstorm]

Big :hug:

[Cynthia]

:ditto: :hug:

[MARIPLAY]

I hope to share your views in the future ..but right now i feel torn ..in every possible way.

[chilanga]

So many people have told me that someday this will all be just a fading memory- doubt it!

It is awful living with the fear that my own personal pit of despair (life) will not seem miserable enough to the person adjudicating our waiver... You're 100% dead on about that.

But... like you, I have to hold on in good faith that something positive will come out of all of this. That I will cherish my husband more, and have an even stronger family than before my husband left.

Actually, it can be a faded memory... if you let it be one. The challenge when this is all over will be letting this experience go. It's been a hard road for my husband, my guess is mostly due to the amount of time we were separated. When it was all said and done, we spent 3 years apart. When he came back, he had a tough time letting it go. He was allowing it to become an obstacle to his everyday life because he was so hung up on missing out on so much time with us.

Things are getting a bit better, but it's still a challenge.

[cindy101]

Wow Chilanga... That just made me so sad for you, and scared for me! I will work very hard to let this go, I don't want it to follow me forward (when/if it ever is over)!

[imisshimmuch]

At first I was like that too, my mind raced at all the possiblites, of the unknown, but with time you'll see the path, and though its a hard path to take, I'm sure that in the end it will be well worth it.

I think that would be normal for some time to think of the time missed with your family, but not for too long. He needs to focus on the now, the present and the future