How do you deal?

[DeBenny]

Hi Everyone!

I was inspired by djones9714 thread.

How does/has everyone dealt with their stress/"depression" of going through this process?

How has the EWI dealt with theirs?

I know that my mind just races with different possibilities. My husband sometimes does not want to talk about it.

[nsoto]

I have completely gone insane...lmao...Actually I have been working 6 days a week over a year, and keeping busy with our son. It's harder around the holidays, that is usually when I cry!

[princesa]

I have spent a lot of money going down to visit. I have cried a lot and started taking anti-depressants.

My husband usually either sleeps, cleans house or goes with his sisters to "party". I think sometimes he doesn't really want to think about it or deal with everything. He is ready to come home though.

[DeBenny]

I too have become a work-aholic and I am trying to keep myself busy. All of this is like a bad car accident you cant help yourself but look type of a scenario. I cant never help myself from thiking about it. :sad:

[milliesmom]

debenny, is your husband still here in the states with you?

[aprilstorm]

I cried and cried and cried!!!!! There were many times I thought about giving up and just moving to Mexico with him. Then I found this wonderful site and I still cried and thought about moving but all these great people understood what I was feeling and they let me know I wasn't alone. They held me up when I felt I couldn't do it anymore....sent me hugs when I felt like I may not get another hug again.....jerked me up by my boot strap when I was starting to loose it....but no mater how sad, crazy I sounded..they knew why I was that way and they didn't turn their back on me......they gave me an ear to talk to, advice when I wanted it and sometimes when I didn't :) but most of all they gave me friendship......Ellie, Alica, Gina, Rhonda, Pooh, Madrika, Elly, Melanie, Alicia from NY, Natalie, shastameja, manda, pinkpig, cynthia, winkyeye, Ramos, Ramos Mom and Cisco ..these were my first pals here and at one point Kitkat gave me some good advice...made me stop and take a good look at what I had become again.... A whinny scared little girl who wasn't getting her way and I didn't like it not one little bit. My husband was gone for close to 3 years and I was getting depressed and worried. And as the days went by and nothing happened I started the "God why are you doing this to me..I've never hurt anyone..I would give all I had to someone else" but I felt I was being punished for something..and I had a lot of bad things happen in my life that I thought maybe GOD thought was my fault...maybe that's why I was being punished. Then Kitkat talked to me and I took a good hard look at myself. I had enough to deal with dealing with immigration and I didn't need to be a whinny brat!!!!I also took Ramos's advice and I started praying to St. Jude I prayed every morning, as I was driving, in the store, in the bathroom...ect....everywhere I got the chance I prayed to St. Jude... after awhile I started to have a peace inside me and so I stopped going to the mail box everyday and even though I would continue to get on the site I waited for awhile before logging on.....I would talk to my neighbor, play with the grandkids, read a bit then get on for a short time..I stopped waiting for the letter to come and when I did all that ...BAMB there it was!!!!
But I was only able to hold on because of the new friends I met here.... because no one in my non immigration world knew or cared what I was talking about. You find out who your true friends are through something like this...and sometimes it's a shocker!!!!! The person you thought was your best friend ....was until she founds out your little secret ...so it makes you look at every one differently.
Just stay strong and remember you have the best crew here..........I2US at your service!!!!

[DeBenny]

Yes... we havent even started the process for many reasons:shy:... and it has me a nervous wreck so I cannot image how I would be when the waiver process begins...

I just want to get ideas of perhaps helping me and others be more at ease (or atleast a little).

[DeBenny]

I cried and cried and cried!!!!! There were many times I thought about giving up and just moving to Mexico with him. Then I found this wonderful site and I still cried and thought about moving but all these great people understood what I was felling and they let me know I wasn't alone. They held me up when I felt I couldn't do it anymore....sent me hugs when I felt like I may not get another hug again.....jerked me up by my boot strap when I was starting to loose it....but no mater how sad, crazy I sounded..they knew why I was that way and they didn't turn their back on me......they gave me an ear to talk to, advise when I wanted it and sometimes when I didn't :) but most of all they gave me friendship......Ellie, Alica, Gina, Rhonda, Pooh, Madrika, Elly, Melanie, Alicia from NY shastameja, pinkpig,cynthia and winkyeye. Ramos and Ramos Mom and Cisco ..these were my first pals here and at one point Kitkat gave me some good advise...made me stop and take a good look at what I had become again.... A whinny scared little girl who wasn't getting her way and didn't like it not one little bit. My husband was gone for close to 3
years and I was getting drepressed and worried. And as the days went by and noyhing I started the :God why are you doing this to me..I've never hurt anyone..I would give all I had to someone else but I felt I was being punised for something..and I had a lot of bad things happen in my life that I thought maybe GOD thhought was my fault...maybe that's why I was being punished Then Kitkat talked to me and I took a good hard look at myself. I had enough to deal with immigration I didn't need to be a whinny brat!!!!I also took Ramos's advise and I started praying to St. Jude I prayed every morning, as I was driving, in the store in the bathroom...ect....everywhere I got the chance I prayed to St. Jude after awahile I stopped going to the mail box everyday and even though I would continue to get on the site I waited for awhile before logging on.....I would talk to my neighbor, play with the grandkids, read a bit then get on for a short time..I stopped waiting for the letter to come and when I did all that ...BAMB there it was!!!!
But I was only able to haold on because of the new freinds I met here because no one in my non immigration world didn't know or care what I was talking about. You find out who your true friends are through something like this...and sometimes it's a shocker!!!!! The person you thought was your best friend was until she founds out your little secret so it makes you look at every one differntly.
Just stay strong and remember you have the best crew here IUS at your service!!!!

Thank you for your testimony! I appreciate it... I know that this is going to be the test of our lives. I will and must have faith!!!!

[KellyKS]

Hi Everyone!

I was inspired by djones9714 thread.

How does/has everyone dealt with their stress/"depression" of going through this process?

How has the EWI dealt with theirs?

I know that my mind just races with different possibilities. My husband sometimes does not want to talk about it.

Most of the time I just try to take one day at a time. I know what ends up happening was meant to be. I just hope that what I want to happen is what happens.

Doesn't make much sense I know. But 3 years ago my 8 year old son died. That totally gave me a different way to look at life. Going through this immigration stuff is very stressful, especially with everything else I am doing in my life. I have a new baby, two other daughters, will be going back to work full-time (since we will be needing the money), volunteer for a group I do and am in college part-time. I gotta keep going through college or I will never get done, plus I will have to repay the loans six months after getting out whether I am done or not.
But I know if I can make it through the death of my son, I can make it through the immigration process. Probably with lots of crying, but it can be done.

I think my husband just doesn't really want to think about it. He tries to work alot and does things around the house and with the girls and myself to keep busy. He doesn't really seem to want to talk about it much. I think that when he talk about things it seems more real and that is probably why he doesn't want to talk about it. Of course I do, because I want to try to plan things so we will be ready.

Kelly:)

[jsierra1982]

Yes... we havent even started the process for many reasons:shy:... and it has me a nervous wreck so I cannot image how I would be when the waiver process begins...

I just want to get ideas of perhaps helping me and others be more at ease (or atleast a little).

i'm just starting out too...start the process, the we'll help each other since we'll be on roughly the same timeline--maybe we can even go to cdj together! i agree that this site and the friendships formed here are the best de-stressers.

[djones9714]

This is probably the wrong thing to say but I am glad I have company and that I am not the insane or insensitive one.

KellyKS -- I am so sorry to hear this about your son. You certainly deserve a break. I could not even begin to imagine what you have gone through in the loss of a child and my heart is breaking for you.

[salcidofamily]

Grils our men should be coming soon.
Give lots of love and pray to god.

[KellyKS]

This is probably the wrong thing to say but I am glad I have company and that I am not the insane or insensitive one.

KellyKS -- I am so sorry to hear this about your son. You certainly deserve a break. I could not even begin to imagine what you have gone through in the loss of a child and my heart is breaking for you.

Thanks for your concern. It has been hard, my son that died and my six year old are children with my ex-husband. I have two daughters with my husband now. Surely they(immigration) wouldn't break up a family and their children. (That is my wishful thinking anyways) I am sure my daughter's dad wouldn't want her to live in Mexico. Also my son's burial spot is here in the USA. My husband is a very good father figure to my 6 year old since her dad right now is working in another state and doesn't spend a lot of time with her right now.

My ex-husband is originally from Mexico but is a naturalized USC and has many ties to the USA as well. Believe me when I went through the immigration process with my ex-husband it was so easy compared to now.

Too bad I got the wrong husband the first time around. :blush:

Kelly:)

[angela256z]

I feel like I should not even be complaining at this point because I know most of the ladies on here have been further than I. My husband and I are still together and if the pilot program is still aroud we may have a good chance of no backlog, but I stress everyday. I think about my husband never coming home after he leaves. I stress just looking at my HSL draft. I feel like even though I am waiting for my approvals on my petitions that I don't have enough time to get everything done. I have a constance headache which turns into migraines the moment I let my stress level rise at all. I have gained 20 lbs in the last six months cause when I am stressed I drink Chocolate Milk....Oh that is sad I know, but I am not a smoker so Chocolate milk is my weekness.

Anyways. I just try to relax and think that things could be worse and I try not to worry about things until they come.

We are leaving on vacation on Oct 7. Driving to see my family. I am so happy and it is much needed. I have already had 2 vacations this year from work, but both without my hubby so it did not seem like a vacation. He is coming this time :) ok done ranting.

[joy&pain]

angela, I hear ya! I LOVE chocolate milk. Actually most things chocolate! I have gained 25 pounds since this process began (almost 21 months ago for us) and I am trying now to lose that weight, plus some. Exercising and concentrating on getting back in shape has helped to get my mind off all things immigration. So far I dropped 10 lbs.

I recently booked a flight out to see my husband, so we are counting down the days (67) and that helps too. Especially since I am getting a month and a half with him! Yay! Much needed since its been 6 months since we've seen each other (and another 2 months to go).

[angela256z]

angela, I hear ya! I LOVE chocolate milk. Actually most things chocolate! I have gained 25 pounds since this process began (almost 21 months ago for us) and I am trying now to lose that weight, plus some.

Me too! I started Weight Watchers again. I lost 25 lbs in 3 months the last time I was on it so if I can stick to the plan I know it will work. We will see. Right now all this stress and being sick is not getting me motivated, but I am trying.

[hilarya]

All I want to do is get in my bed and watch lifetime with a pint of ben and jerry's ice cream. I walk to relieve my stress so that I don't feel so bad about eating the ice cream. I have lost weight since my hubbie has been gone only cause I have osteoarthritis in my knee, so I have like no cartilage..Angela..this process is hard on everyone. You have the right to speak your mind. You are going through this pain as well. The whole process from start to finish is painful, and you have every right to express that.

[jsierra1982]

Me too! I started Weight Watchers again. I lost 25 lbs in 3 months the last time I was on it so if I can stick to the plan I know it will work.

ooh really? i'm trying to lose around 20 lbs and i keep losing like 2 or 3 and getting stuck (meanwhile, when i was 18 i could decide to lose weight and drop 10 lbs in a week by eating salads and jogging). the stress eating is terrible, though i do it mostly for my job and not immigration.

has anyone tried cereal straws? they're supposed to turn your milk chocolate as you drink it...

[joy&pain]

Oh, I did WW a couple years ago. It worked well in the beginning but then I got lazy tracking the points, lol.

Now I'm doing pretty well, exercising like a madwoman & eating healthy. Gotta look good getting off that plane! LOL :D Great motivation for the next 67 days!!

[joy&pain]

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[aprilstorm]

KellyKS I am sorry for your loss. My niece died in 1981 she was 9 and she died the day after mother's day. She is the only child my sister had. It is still hard for me losing her and so I can only imagine how you and my sister feel.
May God bless you and grant your approval soon!!!

[DeBenny]

Most of the time I just try to take one day at a time. I know what ends up happening was meant to be. I just hope that what I want to happen is what happens.

Doesn't make much sense I know. But 3 years ago my 8 year old son died. That totally gave me a different way to look at life. Going through this immigration stuff is very stressful, especially with everything else I am doing in my life. I have a new baby, two other daughters, will be going back to work full-time (since we will be needing the money), volunteer for a group I do and am in college part-time. I gotta keep going through college or I will never get done, plus I will have to repay the loans six months after getting out whether I am done or not.
But I know if I can make it through the death of my son, I can make it through the immigration process. Probably with lots of crying, but it can be done.

I think my husband just doesn't really want to think about it. He tries to work alot and does things around the house and with the girls and myself to keep busy. He doesn't really seem to want to talk about it much. I think that when he talk about things it seems more real and that is probably why he doesn't want to talk about it. Of course I do, because I want to try to plan things so we will be ready.

Kelly:)


Kelly:

:cry:Thank you for your testimony!!! I am taking strength from your strength. I consider you a powerful woman. You are one to admire. May many blessings come your way that you wouldn't know what to do with them. Those are my deepest wishes for you. :o

[mandujanov]

Its been almost a little bit over a year since he stayed in Mexico and I have been depressed, lost weight (15 punds), there has been nights where I have been crying out the entire night, I have been close to lose my job, I encountered a legal claim from a customer that (because of my depression) I couldnt satisfy with my service delivered... ($120K claim)

the hardest part is that I have fallen so deep in my depression when my 2 girls got sick too.. one has arthritis at age 8 and the little one with asthma. I was so weak that I couldnt follow with my kids medication until I see my daughter getting worst with the arthritis, then I started to take anti-depressants, I felt worst. The medicine was making me more anxious. I wanted to run, scream and my heart palpitations were really fast. I got really scared. They were nights when I called my brother and my sister to come in the middle of the night and make company because I was a total wreck.

My teenager son started to fall behind in school and to hang out with the wrong crowd. I find out that he was smoking pot. My life was a total caos. I got even more depressed. He stopped going to school.

I was worried about the legal process, the mortgage, auto payments, but most of everything my kids health and my own. Then one day I got tired of being like that. One day when my 2 girls were soo sick. I decided to be strong again. To not let myself down. They needed me so much. And because of them I got up and fight my depression. I started to feel better, and I made myself the idea that he was gone for a while and that it was just me for my kids. Little by little I started to feel better. I now once in a while feel depression but I keep myself occupy. I enrolled my daughters in activities that keep me occupy. I work from home so I can do more cleaning and be there for them. I have been able to manage the financial situation good but we want him back. My daughters feel much better, now that they see me better.

My son started boot camp. And he is changing so much. (for the good) they teaching how to survive on his own. Besides he will finish high school sooner.

Anyway, this is just a brief overview of what it has been like, of course there are other things (sometimes gossips, misunderstandings between hubby and I but those we would talked it out) my bigest telephone bill has been $1,490 once.

Its costly, painful, depressive, INSANE. But we got to stay strong, for our love ones. For a better future.

[joy&pain]

Kelly~ I'm so sorry to hear about your son. I cannot imagine how much more difficult this process must be for you. Thank you for sharing your journey with us and I pray that you get that approval soon.

[DeBenny]

I am sorry to hear of what you had to go through. But I am excited that things are turning back around for you and your family in a positive way. I wish you many blessings!

Wow! 1490, huh? But every penny worth it.

[KellyKS]

KellyKS I am sorry for your loss. My niece died in 1981 she was 9 and she died the day after mother's day. She is the only child my sister had. It is still hard for me losing her and so I can only imagine how you and my sister feel.
May God bless you and grant your approval soon!!!
Kelly:

:cry:Thank you for your testimony!!! I am taking strength from your strength. I consider you a powerful woman. You are one to admire. May many blessings come your way that you wouldn't know what to do with them. Those are my deepest wishes for you. :o

Kelly~ I'm so sorry to hear about your son. I cannot imagine how much more difficult this process must be for you. Thank you for sharing your journey with us and I pray that you get that approval soon.


Thank you all for your comments.
When people think I am strong, somehow I feel stronger, plus I have met others that have had it way worst then me.

I belong to a self help support group called the Compassionate Friends, and have had a lot of support from people and also made a website in memory of my son. Four months after he died I worked on that website all the time, was my therapy for myself. It is something I will never get over, but I am at a point where I can help others that have been through the death of a child and in helping them it helps myself.

It is kind-of like everyone on this site, being through this immigration process is painful and it seems like many people are really helpful in sharing information, etc.

Kelly:)

[DeBenny]

KS: Because of it your son is living forever thought your memories, through touching people's lives (like mine), through the website you made for him. :) I wish you the best life has to offer. :wink:

[aprilstorm]

I would like to see your website if you would let me. My niece's birthday is September 27 so it will be a hard day. I have thought about doing a website for her but I'm not sure how to go about it. She was more like a sister because she lived with us since she was born...until the last 2 years.

My friend's nephew died a few years ago from his mom's boyfriends abuse...the boyfriend is going to trail soon after so many delays..his father ( the boyfriend's ) and his mother are also going to trail...the boyfriend's dad is a doctor and treated the wounds but didn't report it....then the unthinkable happened...he was 2 years old. There are poster's of little Logan all over my street. The group West Virginia Against Abuse has a website and Logan's story is on it. He used to play with my grandkids...he would ride his tryke down the street..house to house ...he was a beautiful little boy. It is sad because I see my friend crying all the time...Logan was always with her until they moved......a month later it happened. Oh yeah...the mom is in jail now..she went to trail and will be eligible for parole in a year again...they plea bargargan with her if she testified against the boyfriend......why now...why couldn't she have taken him away!!!!!!

I'll get off my rant...It tears me up when children are hurt and die or get sick and die .....I just don't understand.

KellyKS you are a strong woman. I am so glad that you have been able to find love and peace in your life after a horrible time. God Bless you.

[DeBenny]

Believe me...my heart aches all the time do to it. I am a Family Support Worker and I see these type of cases all of the time. I cannot get the system sometimes. It makes me absolutely sick. We just had a child burn and her mother never took him to the hospital. Three days passes and he was taken after he was dropped off at his dad. He dad then took him, thank god! The burn was so bad that he had to be transfered to a hospital roughly 1 hour away to get the medical attention needed.

[DeBenny]

I am soooo livid :angry: I cant spell, sorry.

[KellyKS]

Believe me when I see parents not taking care of their children or not getting them the medical care they need it makes me so angry.

I am in school and my major is human services, goal is to be a social worker someday. Last semester in one of my classes the teacher brought in a book showing pics of children abused, burned etc. It was a real eye opener.

Actually, aprilstorm, I would love for you to look at my son's site. Anyone that would like to look at it is welcome to look at it. Just so you all know I am not near done with the site, it will be a work in progess forever. :) Also I seem to get tons of junky messages on my guestbook and don't always have time to delete them. Have been behind lately. HMMM...wonder why....could be I am spending more time on here, with new baby, school work....etc...... actually I was thinking of adding his website to my profile here.
His website is http://www.diegoceballos.com (http://www.diegoceballos.com) Feel free to sign the guestbook there.

Kelly:)

[djones9714]

KellyKS: Thank you for posting your website. I am still crying -- what a beautiful child. I am honored that you have shared this with everyone. I hope everyone has the opportunity to review your website and then turn to their kids and tell them how much they love them and give them a big, big hug. We have to treasure the time that we have with them and your website reflects what a wonderful and loving mom you were.

[KellyKS]

djones - Thanks for checking out my son's site and your kind words. I know when I get really angry or my daughters get on my nerves I have to stop and think, at least they are here. Most of the time they are getting on my nerves because they want attention and I am busy. It really gives me a check on what should be my priorities. Life is short and one most enjoy their family and friends when they are here.
I enjoy sharing the site and in the future(when I have more time) I will be adding things to the site. Whenever someone visits his site or signs his guestbook it makes me smile that I am able to share his memory.

Thanks Joy for signing my son's guestbook.

Kelly:)

[angela256z]

ooh really? i'm trying to lose around 20 lbs and i keep losing like 2 or 3 and getting stuck (meanwhile, when i was 18 i could decide to lose weight and drop 10 lbs in a week by eating salads and jogging). the stress eating is terrible, though i do it mostly for my job and not immigration.

has anyone tried cereal straws? they're supposed to turn your milk chocolate as you drink it...

Yes it is wasy to follow through if you get motivated. I started this week good then I dropped back off plan again. There are two different ways to do the program. Count points or eat only certain foods. I switch week to week on each plan so that I don't get bored counting points and I also get a week of eating lots of foods I like. You should look into it.

[angela256z]

Kelly - I am so so sorry to hear about your son. The site you have created for him is wonderful.

[DeBenny]

Now I'm doing pretty well, exercising like a madwoman & eating healthy. Gotta look good getting off that plane! LOL :D Great motivation for the next 67 days!!

You go girl!!! Dont forget a fierce pair of high heel shoes!!!

[DeBenny]

KellyKS: Loved the page dedicated to your son. He is your little angel.

Today at work I got a case of sexual abuse to a child 4 years of age by his own dad. It is so hurrific that he took a hot dog out of the fridge and began to do a bj in front on his mom. That's when it was called in.

What a nightmare!!!

[Alice]

KellyKS, thanks for sharing your web-site. It reminded me of what's important. I have a 9-year old son. He also likes sports and video games.

[KellyKS]

Kelly - I am so so sorry to hear about your son. The site you have created for him is wonderful.

KellyKS, thanks for sharing your web-site. It reminded me of what's important. I have a 9-year old son. He also likes sports and video games.

Angela and Alice thanks for checking out my website in memory of my son.
My son loved video games and soccer. Actually now my 6 year old daughter plays soccer. She was 3 years old when he died and always wanted to play soccer. I kept hearing it for 2 years until I gave in and let her play when she turned 5 years old. Actually my plan was to have her play at that age if she wanted to. She is now starting her second year of playing. She even made a goal her last game. :thumbup:

Kelly:)

[KellyKS]

KellyKS: Loved the page dedicated to your son. He is your little angel.

Today at work I got a case of sexual abuse to a child 4 years of age by his own dad. It is so hurrific that he took a hot dog out of the fridge and began to do a bj in front on his mom. That's when it was called in.

What a nightmare!!!

DeBenny- Thanks, he is my angel :angel2:

That is just so sad that people are so messed up that they do things like that to their own children.

Kelly:)

[joy&pain]

Thanks Joy for signing my son's guestbook.

Kelly:)[/SIZE][/COLOR]

You are so welcome. It's a beautiful site.

[aprilstorm]

KellyKS..your children are beautiful. Your page is beautiful. I liked watching the video of the birthday bike. I tried to sign your guestbook but it kept saying cannot find server so my computer must be acting up again :(
Tomorrow is my niece's birthday....she would be 35..I can't believe it has been 26 years since she left us...it seems like yesterday :(
God bless you KellyKS.

[KellyKS]

KellyKS..your children are beautiful. Your page is beautiful. I liked watching the video of the birthday bike. I tried to sign your guestbook but it kept saying cannot find server so my computer must be acting up again :(
Tomorrow is my niece's birthday....she would be 35..I can't believe it has been 26 years since she left us...it seems like yesterday :(
God bless you KellyKS.

Thanks. In that video he was acting silly. Time does go fast my daughter looks so little in that video with her brother, but she was only 3 then and now is 6 years old.

Your niece's birthday is tomorrow that is one week before my son's birthday. He would of been 12 years old on October 4th. Doesn't seem possible that I would have a child that old. Where do the years go?

Does your sister do anything special for her birthday? Every year we go to the cemetary and also get a birthday cake. The first birthday after he died we let 9 balloons up in the air for his 9th birthday. But usually I just get flowers now or I get balloons for the girls to just take home. Maybe we can get some this year and let them up in the sky. My almost 2 year old when asked where is her brother, she says "in the sky". Very cute.

Sometime you'll have to see if you can try signing the guestbook again.

Kelly:)

[aprilstorm]

I have the radio station play "Think of Laura" because it reminds me so much of her. After work I go up to the cemetary and I take her floweres, ballons and silly little things. Then I plop myself down and start talking..telling here about what's been going on with our crazy family. When she died it just felt so unfair and it still does. I wish that you could like a picture or something that was special and not get depressed.

One of my other sisters wants to have a birthday party for here tomorrow...she said every little girl deserves a 10th year party

[KellyKS]

I have the radio station play "Think of Laura" because it reminds me so much of her. After work I go up to the cemetary and I take her floweres, ballons and silly little things. Then I plop myself down and start talking..telling here about what's been going on with our crazy family. When she died it just felt so unfair and it still does. I wish that you could like a picture or something that was special and not get depressed.

One of my other sisters wants to have a birthday party for here tomorrow...she said every little girl deserves a 10th year party


So how did everything go? Did they have a party? My son's birthday is Thursday and my 6 year old is all excited about getting a birthday cake. I can't believe he would of been 12 years old on this Thursday, October 4th!

Kelly:)

[LilB]

Thanks for your concern. It has been hard, my son that died and my six year old are children with my ex-husband. I have two daughters with my husband now. Surely they(immigration) wouldn't break up a family and their children. (That is my wishful thinking anyways) I am sure my daughter's dad wouldn't want her to live in Mexico. Also my son's burial spot is here in the USA. My husband is a very good father figure to my 6 year old since her dad right now is working in another state and doesn't spend a lot of time with her right now.

My ex-husband is originally from Mexico but is a naturalized USC and has many ties to the USA as well. Believe me when I went through the immigration process with my ex-husband it was so easy compared to now.

Too bad I got the wrong husband the first time around. :blush:

Kelly:)


I saw your last comment about how you got the wrong husband the first time around, hehe. I know why you said that, it made me smile, especially because God knows what he's doing. I'm sure you divorced him for a reason, but if it wasn't for you and him meeting, you wouldn't have had the lucky spot to be Diego's mom and your older daughter Carina's mom. It's weird how life turns out, huh? Cuz, now God put you in the path of your current hubby and it seems to me that since you are so happy with him and the fact that you found this website for help and support, I beleive that God has good plans for you. I'm sure everything will work out with this immigration process. God bless!

[KellyKS]

I saw your last comment about how you got the wrong husband the first time around, hehe. I know why you said that, it made me smile, especially because God knows what he's doing. I'm sure you divorced him for a reason, but if it wasn't for you and him meeting, you wouldn't have had the lucky spot to be Diego's mom and your older daughter Carina's mom. It's weird how life turns out, huh? Cuz, now God put you in the path of your current hubby and it seems to me that since you are so happy with him and the fact that you found this website for help and support, I beleive that God has good plans for you. I'm sure everything will work out with this immigration process. God bless!

Very true. I believe everything happens for a reason. Thanks for your response and kind words.

Kelly:)

[Lachulagreeneyes]

Kelly I love the website you made in memory of your son, you are a strong woman!

[cindy101]

That is an amazing website Kelly... I was afraid to go there- because that is the one thing I don't think I could survive, losing my child. I couldn't resist though and had to visit. I think that site is such a beautiful tribute to the life of your son that I actually didn't feel sad.

You can clearly see in the pictures the joy that radiated from him.

[marlene]

Wow to all the testimonys...Well in my case, I still havent sent the i864 form, and im already freaking out as to when my hubby has to leave me and everything... I have already cried but i have to look forward to all this..It needs to be done..I know im gonna be devastated when he leaves, but our daughter cant see me like these, I will be strong for her! I cant wait and yet I wanna wait forever..... I do however want him to get his residency, so we (he) can go visit his mom in Mexico.... This is such a wonderful website, and the people are great!