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cin&anil
08-08-2008, 01:48 AM
This is the letter my fiance wrote to go with the 601.....

does it make the points he needs to.. we are struggling with this..

My name is xxx, and I am a dual citizen British and Canadian. I am engaged and intend to marry USC. I am writing this letter for you to understand my circumstances and my remorse.
My criminal record stems from my relationship with my son’s mother, (insert name). I have been convicted of "uttering threats" and "abduction". In 1987, while living in a common law relationship, my son’s mother left our home while pregnant. Upon inquiring what was to become of our yet to be born child I was informed via her father "who said I was the father?" “her” brother stated, "They had decided to give the child up for adoption".
As a responsible father I did not wish to give my child up for adoption. I made repeated requests to her that I wished to be an active father in the life of my son. I was denied all access and information. I spoke to several lawyers regarding obtaining access and information. I was informed that the child had to be born ‘alive’ before I had a legitimate case. On September 28th 1987 while still trying to obtain information about my yet to be born child, I was informed by her father that she had given birth.
This was such happy news! As a new father I wanted to see my son and repeatedly asked where my son was, and at which hospital? He refused to give any information and in absolute frustration I uttered threats, as he would not give me information about my son. While I certainly did not mean any harm to come to anyone, I realize that it was foolish and am certainly remorseful that I did such a thing. I was charged and given a suspended sentence and 2 years probation.
Thereafter, I commenced a court case to prove my paternity, she repeatedly denied my paternity. It was only after a friend had seen my son, that e finally admitted on April 14th, 1988 that I was the 'genitor' of my son. Once paternity was accepted I had to use the courts to obtain access rights to see my son. While the courts allowed access, she and her father made visitations obstructive. She moved on several occasions to avoid access and after almost 3 years of frustration and obstacles to have access to my son, I decided to keep my son beyond the visitation time. During the time I kept my son, I was in communication with his mother and her lawyer in an effort to resolve the issue.
All I ever wanted was to be able to be a father to my son. Despite my repeated attempts to resolve the situation amicably, she refused to communicate. I voluntarily returned my son to his mother and subsequently was charged with abduction and convicted. The sentence was 7 months and 2 years probation. I was given visitation rights again upon my release and once again she obstructed any chance of a normal father-son relationship to take place. I made a decision in 1996 to no longer pursue visitation as I felt my son had to live a difficult double life if I were to continue. I have not seen my son since he was 8 years old and now he is 20; I do not know his whereabouts or that of his mother.
I have never been a threat or violent to society or have I participated in any illegal drug activity. I am truly sorry for my crimes; please note it was in a sincere desire to be a father to my son.
At the age of 18, in 1978, I changed my name from xxxx to yyyy, for personal reasons related to my relationship with my own father. In 1980, I immigrated to Canada under the name of yyyy. Subsequently, I tried to change my name back to my birth name. Upon inquiring with Canadian authorities, I was advised (incorrectly) that I could change it; however, my legal documents would retain the name. This turned out to be untrue. When I went back to England in 2006, I changed my name back to my birth name, xxxx.
In July of 2006, on my way to the USA, to visit friends and family and also meet my fiance for the first time, I did have my British passport in the name xxxx , and my checkbook still in the name yyy.
When crossing the border at Niagara Falls in july of 2006 I foolishly denied knowledge of yyy, for which I am truly/deeply sorry and I have and continue to pay for this stupidity on my part as I have been unable to visit family, friends. It has also limited my employment options and most importantly it keeps my fiancée and I apart. I humbly ask you to forgive me.
I have since changed my name in Canada to, as all records indicate at this time. Please forgive me, and allow my fiance and me to marry and live in the USA.
I volunteer on a regular basis for different organizations including World Wild Life Fund [1] and Habitat for Humanity [2] among others.
I want to express how truly/deeply sorry I am for such irresponsibility and carelessness on my part, I have no excuses for my behavior on that day and this has caused pain and suffering for m fiance and my friends as we have been kept apart. I am a man of high morals and values and a law abiding citizen and present no danger to anybody.

Words cannot express how truly sorry I am and am truly repentant for my actions. I cannot change my past however I can learn from the past and make better decisions.
I sincerely and humbly seek forgiveness for my indiscretion.


Yours sincerely,






[1] Letter from WWF on volunteer work
[2] Letter from Habitat for Humanity on volunteer work

emt103c
08-08-2008, 03:50 AM
I think this is a thorough explanation and should be looked upon favorably. You might want to expand on the volunteering. . .I realize there are probably supporting letters, but if you are going to mention in the letter it would probably be good to tell how long he's been doing it and why he does it. . .it would just be a better closing to the letter.

Good job on the explanation!

Ms Florida
08-11-2008, 09:31 PM
The more I read in this fora the more confused I get.
I thought a HSL was to prove hardship for a spouse IN the states if the person who wants to immigrate is not allowed to do so due to certain reasons.
This letter does not mention any hardship at all for Cindy and she is not his wife but his fiancee.
I assume the HSL goes with a petition for a fiancee visa?
So how does this show that Cindy will suffer hardship if her fiancee is not granted his visa?

I am not trying to critizise. I'm just trying to understand.

lgatica06
08-11-2008, 09:38 PM
The more I read in this fora the more confused I get.
I thought a HSL was to prove hardship for a spouse IN the states if the person who wants to immigrate is not allowed to do so due to certain reasons.
This letter does not mention any hardship at all for Cindy and she is not his wife but his fiancee.
I assume the HSL goes with a petition for a fiancee visa?
So how does this show that Cindy will suffer hardship if her fiancee is not granted his visa?

I am not trying to critizise. I'm just trying to understand.

This letter is to explain her fiance's criminal record and what brought it on, and what came about in his own words. It isn't the actual HSL she is writing it is strictly to explain his record, his actions, and to help show it was an isolated incident and he isn't likley to be a repeat offender. The HSL written by the USC is to show hardship to the USC. The HSL does not get written and turned in until the actual waiver I-601 is, which is the very end of the process before a final decision is made.

cin&anil
08-14-2008, 09:07 PM
That is correct.
My HSL is written and I already posted it..

Good thoughts to all going through this process...