Hardship.....***

[beaner786]

Hi there,

Okay I don't want to be long winded but I just went to my lawyer's office today who told me that I do not have enough hardship. I can appreciate him telling me this but I am like ***!

My husband has been deported and like many of you I became a single parent overnight. I am so sorry that I healthy, (my thoughts and prayer to anyone unwell) but come on!!!!

I found my self alone so I had to get me butt in gear and work hard and take care of my little boy. I had no choice. I could not fail as my little boy only had me to depend on.

What do I do? I can't move to Canada as I am the only child and my dad and mom depend on me to help them. But of course, that is not a hardship since it does not effect myself, child or husband.

Help guys!! Mad and very frustrated:censored::curse::mad1::scream:

[gatita]

Are you sure you can't do it? A lot of us were given bad information from a lawyer (us included), and now we are doing it oursleves. If he has already been deported, what other option do you have? By the way, they do care about your parents if they are citizens or lprs. They don't care about your husband, though... so if your parents really are dependent on you, then you may be able to use them. If you really want to use a lawyer, do a consult with one of the lawyers recom. by the users of this site.

[epm525]

Beaner - send an email to Annie Schwartz. Maybe she can help you. Her website is in my signature box. We left our first lawyer to work with her, she's great.

[beaner786]

Thanks EMP525. I just went to her website and will call first thing tomorrow to get an appt.

I don't wish this on my worst enemy!!

[Luckysprite]

beaner - don't give up!! I think many of us have been in your shoes and left alone in a blink of an eye- and a lot more of us have been given same, horrible advice by lawyers -- later to turn out approved!!

Thankfully - we have this site -and eachother - and we get through things.

Good luck consulting with Annie tomorrow ... theres a great list of recommended lawyers - and I know she works with the best of the best!

By the way - many many people have parents/relatives who are dependant upon them - and used that as a pretty strong hardship.

[Glühbirne]

You do have enough hardships! It's just a matter of articulating and documenting them properly. Of course leaving the country to go live in Canada would be an extreme hardship for you for many reasons. Start by brainstorming a list. Let all of your real fears come out. Everything. If it's a fear you have, write it down. This is the first step. After making the list, post it here and we will help you to pick out your strongest hardships as well as your minor ones. We will help you through the process. We can give you ideas on how to articulate how your hardships will play off of eachother. When it comes to this, it's never a matter of whether not you have hardships, it's a matter of whether you can prove them.

Do not get discouraged. There are lawyers out there who specialize in the I-601 and will take your case. Or, if you don't like lawyers or can't find one you feel comfortable with, then you can do your case yourself. I did, and I got approved. And I'm young, healthy, speak fluent Spanish (I did mine through Mexico), and don't have any children (yet :eyes:)

[beaner786]

I have been thinking and thinking.....I came up with 2 thing and ya'll let me know please because my mind is racing.

1. When I was 21 I was a egg donor to someone in my extended family. My aunt to be exact. Well, they had 3 amazing kids. But with my age and everything, I do not have any legal rights to the kids but I do personally think of them as my kids. They look like me. I am also their god parent. The kids do not know how they were conceived as my aunt did carry and give birth to them.

2. I could try to get pregger. My first pregnancy I ended up on complete bed rest do to problems around the 6th month.

Thoughts????

[epm525]

Don't try to get pregnant just for a hardship. Chances are they won't even consider it a hardship. If you want another baby - hey, more power to you, but not for a hardship! Talk with Annie. If there's something you can use, she'll know!

[russ2169]

All of us have hardships, you need to take time, write down ideas and build upon them.
Don't believe those attorneys, they just aren't familiar with I-601 HSL.
All of us here can help you, if you are willing to put in the effort.

[beaner786]

I am willing to do whatever it takes and Gluhbirne had a great idea to make the list. I have been working on that and I did talk to Ana today. She could not help me but was WONDERFULL and she is very caring. I was amazed how much time to took to speak with me even tbough she could not help me she took the time to listen and also in just speaking with her I realized a couple of hardships.

[Amanda A]

Tell us what they are.