Was it e-love???

[Zia80]

Wondering if the INS has issues with people who meet online??? For interview purposes... should I be worried above proving a legit relationship if i met my hubby online??

Curious...A friend who has the interview the same day as I thinks she would run into problems if she told INS she met her fiancee on a matrimonial site...

Thoughts?

Zia80

[ccdc]

I think that you should just gather as much proof of relationship info as you can and take that with you. Maybe someone else knows more but
Good Luck! and have faith

[perez782]

Wow, that's a good question!!

[Chapital]

In today's world I am sure MANY immigrant spouses met online. I personally know someone who did (from Uraguay) and she did not have any issues getting her residency (although she never had any EWI or illegal presence issues). I would think a matrimony site might raise some questions, but that just might make them investigate the evidence of a relationship a little bit more...just my opinion

[Zia80]

My hubby and I did meet online... but it was fate that truly brought us together.. WE met online.. decided to talk over the phone that very day.. instead of routined get to know you emails and ended up talking for 13 hours straight..
We are now married, have a son and the INS did apporve his citizenship.. so they must trust our relationship to be legit..
yup????

[Laura]

Yeah, I don't think you have to worry about that, especially in that situation.

[emt103c]

A lot of times having a child together is a BIG piece of proving the relationship. Go to the interview prepared with the birth certificate and proof of all calls and visits back and forth. This should not be a problem for you.

[douginguam]

A lot of times having a child together is a BIG piece of proving the relationship. Go to the interview prepared with the birth certificate and proof of all calls and visits back and forth. This should not be a problem for you.
emt,
The only place I know of that doesn't think a child (or two in my case) is evidence of a relationship (between husband and wife) is Australia:scratch:. When I did my wife's immigration there (before doing it again to get her back to the US) they actually told me they did not consider a child as evidence of a relationship:wha:.
It is one of the few situations where the US immigration seems to be reasonable in its approach - though it doesn't help get a visa number, expedited case or anything logical like that:erm:.

Zia, I don't really think the way you met will be important. When we meet someone - at a party, park, the supermarket, in a bar or on-line - it is not the instant of meeting that matters, its what happens after:blush:. If you claimed a relationship becuase of a few shared emails it would be different.

[Glühbirne]

It shouldn't be an issue. There are some members here who met thier spouses online. Tasksgirl, Marie, and Cynthia are a few I can think of off hand.

The matrimonials site might cause them to scrutinize the relationship slightly more, but it shouldn't cause any major problems. Especially if that is the cultural norm for the couple. People from India use those sorts of services all the time because arranged marriage is still the norm in thier culture. Now if that's not the norm in either of thier native cultures, they might be looked at a little closer, but as long as they are really married, they have nothing to worry about.

A lady at my work met her husband online. They are both Americans. They met on EHarmony.com. It's actually becoming a lot more common nowadays.

[emt103c]

emt,
The only place I know of that doesn't think a child (or two in my case) is evidence of a relationship (between husband and wife) is Australia:scratch:. When I did my wife's immigration there (before doing it again to get her back to the US) they actually told me they did not consider a child as evidence of a relationship:wha:.
It is one of the few situations where the US immigration seems to be reasonable in its approach - though it doesn't help get a visa number, expedited case or anything logical like that:erm:.



I think a lot of us (me included) tend to think of one consular officer's stupidity-as in the case of someone who wouldn't consider two children as proof of a valid relationship-as the policy of an entire consulate. We usually only get to talk to one or at most two representatives of a consulate and we have to derive the policies and positions of those very large organizations based on the limited knowledge we have of them. As a rule, it should be, and is considered in cases to prove that a relationship has been entered into for "classic" valid reasons.

Luckily, CO's are transferred every couple of years and don't get a chance to completely ruin any one post permanently. . .

As for expediting cases, this is the U.S. government we're talking about. . .be it death, illness or other true tragedy, there is not much in the world that can speed it up. Not a design flaw, it was specifically designed to be that way.

[shannon]

I met my fiance on line and so have many other people who apply for the K visas. We were highly scrutinized at the K1 interview, but not because we met on line. They were more suspicious because he had a history of being unemployed and he has 4 children... so they were looking closely at his motivation and they interviewed him both with and without me. We passed that issue, but now have the waiver to contend with.

[IBMMuseum]

It shouldn't be an issue. There are some members here who met thier spouses online. Tasksgirl, Marie, and Cynthia are a few I can think of off hand...

And I am another...

...The matrimonials site might cause them to scrutinize the relationship slightly more, but it shouldn't cause any major problems. Especially if that is the cultural norm for the couple. People from India use those sorts of services all the time because arranged marriage is still the norm in thier culture. Now if that's not the norm in either of thier native cultures, they might be looked at a little closer, but as long as they are really married, they have nothing to worry about...

Agreed, but I do remember the I-129F requiring that if a transnational dating organization was used that it be disclosed...

...A lady at my work met her husband online. They are both Americans. They met on EHarmony.com. It's actually becoming a lot more common nowadays.

Funny, because although eHarmony was finding me "matches" before I met my wife, they messed up my billing so badly that I was never able to continue any further...

[JennyM]

LOL....I was thinking about bringing some DVDs to the interview and ask....you want to watch last week's or last years? LOL They would sure get a show!!!! ha ha ha

[Zia80]

God Ladies! I was so worried they'd ask me how I met my Hubby and I would be embarrased to say "online" . But truly we were both only for 10 minutes and exchanged phone numbers and never looked at the site again except to make sure our free membership hadn't been charging our Credit cards....

Anyhow 18 days till Interview... I am shi***** bricks, sweatin bullets....

Everyone please pray for a 3 yr bar in my case....

[emt103c]

Anyhow 18 days till Interview... I am shi***** bricks, sweatin bullets....



:lol: I know how you feel!

This is my new favorite smiley, it seems to describe my state. . .It's called "jumpy"

:jumpy:

We need a smiley where the emoticon is very deeply smoking a cigarrette and looking around all paranoid. . .

[Laura]

We need a smiley where the emoticon is very deeply smoking a cigarrette and looking around all paranoid. . .

This is a great idea... Marie?!

[LilB]

LOL....I was thinking about bringing some DVDs to the interview and ask....you want to watch last week's or last years? LOL They would sure get a show!!!! ha ha ha

LMAO! I dare you!!!!

[Zia80]

Can you imagine how creative folks wud get if Consulates allowed Video's for proof of relationship........Yikes! I think the Hubby withdrawal is officially begining !!!!!!:whoa::whoa:

[JennyM]

If they hassled me I would do it! I would be like....there is 12 hrs on here for you to watch with me all different sizes and hair cuts so pick one....and then talk to me about not believing! ha ha ha

[Zia80]

A friend and his wife got interviewed for an immigrant visa just last month. They forgot to take their wedding album so the CO split them up and asked him what color nickers she had on that morning...

My friend simply said, "None. under those white linen trousers!!! :wink:

They got the visa! And are in Miami already.

I wish my interniew wud be that laid back....:rolleyes:

[emt103c]

NONE!

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

My husband and I would have been screwed! I like to get dressed all alone!

[Zia80]

God, Me too!!
Whenever Naseer and I are going out, I make sure he's out of my way. I have my own little ritual of getting ready and after 3 years of togetherness my hubby has figured out that I cannot handle talking to anyone when I am getting ready.... I don't take too long either .. 20 mins at best.. My husband on the other hand is a different story.. Sometimes I wonder who's prettier....