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corazoncita
06-05-2008, 11:54 PM
Ok... I have been re-doing my letter and trying to make it not-as-emotional. I have re-written the first section, but it is still REALLY long. I have a feeling there is nothing I can do about the length, because I have to explain the circumstances surrounding multiple crimes. Am I on the right track? What else could I do?

Because of poor decisions my husband has made in the past, I know I need to prove that these acts were committed during a period in my husband’s life that I consider to be an interruption to his moral character—rather than a habit, or way of life. Not only did my husband make an ill decision by entering the United States illegally, he also broke our country’s laws while he was here. I know I will not easily convince anyone that XXXX is not a lifelong criminal, and that he is not a threat to American society. However, I know for a fact that I did not marry an iniquitous, generally defiant man. My husband is deeply remorseful for what he has done, and has written a heartfelt apology statement. (Exhibit A)
The first items you will find on my husband’s record are citations for open containers and public disorderly conduct. I’m sure you are aware that in Honduras, it is not against the law to consume alcohol in public venues; due to my husband’s ignorance, he broke a law by drinking alcohol in public. In this instance, my husband was in the parking lot of a bar with an alcoholic beverage; while I agree that it was my husband’s responsibility to understand the laws, I also believe that it was the bar’s responsibility not to allow customers outside its doors with a beverage in hand. A fight broke out between two patrons, and when the police showed up, everyone ran. My husband stayed behind because he was not involved in the fight and never believed he would be arrested. The police wanted to know the names of the individuals who started the fight, but my husband had never met the people in his life. He attempted to convey this information to the police, and they were not satisfied with his answer, so he was arrested. In South Carolina, the open container charge is traditionally accompanied by a charge of public disorderly conduct. (Exhibit B) You will notice the string of charges for public disorderly conduct/open container is quite extensive, and this is why. Another point that cannot be ignored when examining my husband’s criminal record is the fact that many of his arrests are the result of racially discriminatory behavior in the town where XXXX resided before we were married. (Exhibits C – yellow highlighted section- D, & E) I have submitted many forms of evidence so that I may open your eyes to the existence of such hatred. I know the letters are long, but I ask that you please read each one in full.
In the past, my husband has had a real shortcoming when it comes to driving without a license. There is no denying that he has broken the law several times in this way. It was pure irresponsibility and carelessness for my husband to drive around the streets of the United States as an unlicensed driver. I owned a vehicle which my husband was helping me pay for. It was really difficult on him to pay for a car that he wasn’t allowed to drive, so against his better judgement, he drove the vehicle on several occasions. He received the ultimate consequences for his bad decisions when he was involved in a car accident. My husband ran away from the scene on foot because he was terrified of being deported and separated from his wife and newborn baby girl. My husband ended up turning himself into the police the next day and was admitted to the hospital for emergency surgery. (Exhibit F) After several days in the hospital, my husband was released from police custody on a signature bond. His court case was continued many times, and my husband showed up to court each of those days—on time and dressed respectfully. XXXX knew he was probably going to prison, and that removal proceedings were imminent, yet he still chose to go to court and face the consequences he deserved. My husband did go to prison for seven months, and was eventually picked up by Immigration and Customs Enforcement. Thankfully, his immigration judge was compassionate enough to grant him a voluntary departure back to Honduras.
In addition to being greatly remorseful for his actions, my husband has shown rehabilitation and I am one hundred percent certain that he is unlikely to commit a crime again. It is clear that XXXX has taken full responsibility for his actions. He has always attended court for each past charge. He has never had any type of warrant for failing to appear in court, and he has always promptly paid each fine as required. Since his most recent incident, my husband has had a spiritual re-awakening. (Exhibit G) My husband should have died in that car accident, but he lived; he has re-dedicated his life to Christ. It is our religious belief that if alcohol is a personal conviction, it should not be consumed. Although my husband does not have an addiction to alcohol, it has caused him to accumulate an open container charge. Also, my husband used to spend time with his friends at a bar in town. The police knew the Latin population frequented that area, so it was an easy way for police to target and terrorize the patrons. If my husband hadn’t been out having liquor with his friends, he would have a much cleaner record. While XXXX was in prison, he found support in attending AA meetings. (Exhibit H) Even though most of the convicts attended the meetings to deal with an addiction to drugs or alcohol, XXXX felt like he was part of the group. They all had something in common: they came close to losing everything because of careless decisions they had made. In addition to participating in AA group meetings, my husband was very well behaved in prison. He was a model inmate and never got into trouble. (Exhibit H) He received one infraction for fighting, but it was dismissed hours later because it was determined that he was defending himself from another inmate. (Exhibit C –pink highlighted section-)
As I mentioned earlier, my husband received a voluntary departure. (Exhibit I) I could not afford a lawyer, but I had been preparing a packet of letters for an attorney regarding my husband’s general character. Please read these candid letters from my family and friends so that you may acquire a better understanding of my husband’s personal character as seen by those who know him. (Exhibit J)

y14gemini
06-06-2008, 04:50 AM
Okay this is good but to me (just my opinion now) it mentions his alcohol charges to much. Not to say that it doesn't need to be addressed because they (the embassy) will see it. But it is mentioned a lot. (Please don't take that the wrong way). I just don't want them to think he has a problem.

However, it is good that you have the reference letters and documentation.

catrachowife
06-06-2008, 09:56 AM
I agree with y14gemini. They don't want your apology for your husband. You could make a brief statement about his remorse for his wrong-doings, maybe a paragraph. You really should stay focused on proving how you will be suffering an extreme hardship without him here. They don't want to know about how he is or has suffered. The only way you will get the waiver is if they feel you have proven your hardship as a US citizen living without your husband here in the US.

corazoncita
06-06-2008, 03:44 PM
Well, OK. I will try again... I'm thankful to have the constructive criticism. I prayed so hard last night for God to help me find the right words. I am starting to get so scared now... I mean, I look at my husband's records, and if I were the adjudicator, there is NO WAY I would let my husband back in the country unless I had all kinds of reassurance that he wasn't going to commit any more crimes. Every time I look at my husband's criminal record, I become nauseated... who in their right mind is going to let him back in?

Back to the drawing board!! I am going to try harder!

corazoncita
06-06-2008, 03:48 PM
Nope... changed my mind. I am going to take the afternoon off and read a book. I am tired of this letter for awhile. I will come back to it when my mind is refreshed!

ANDREH1
06-06-2008, 04:11 PM
I think you should focus on proving that he has changed rather than talking so much about his convictions.. do mention them but focus on how he's turned his life around and how he's changed. you should read LilB's approved letter there Laurel Scott explains the criminal past Lilb's husband.. it should give you an idea on how to approach and write this part of your letter.

ojos_de_alicia
06-06-2008, 04:16 PM
Every time I look at my husband's criminal record, I become nauseated...


i felt the same way.. i know exactly what u mean.. i asked myself so many times.. " why are we even wasting our time" you have to have hope especially if YOU know he's not like this.. you have to pray they see him the same way :hug:

corazoncita
06-06-2008, 05:00 PM
I think you should focus on proving that he has changed rather than talking so much about his convictions.. do mention them but focus on how he's turned his life around and how he's changed. you should read LilB's approved letter there Laurel Scott explains the criminal past Lilb's husband.. it should give you an idea on how to approach and write this part of your letter.

I did read her letter... that's what made me re-write everything. I tried to make this like hers, but my husband has SOOOO many more convictions than lilb's hubby did, which is why mine is so long. In her letter, you will notice that the one conviction is completely described in detail, so I was trying to do the same thing. I see now that this will not work for my letter because there are about 8 or 9 charges (even though most are not legitimate!). Even in describing his rehabilitation, I am running into problems because I can't describe his rehab without getting into the details of the crimes. If I mention he went to AA, they are going to assume he is an alcoholic and give him the 3-year ban. Just pray that I get this figured out! I'm just going to ask God for guidance in how I should approach this!

Alicia~ would you mind telling me what kinds of charges your hubby had, and how long it had been since he commited them? If you don't want to say on here, you could PM me!! I would appreciate it! Cases like yours give me more faith!

ojos_de_alicia
06-06-2008, 07:02 PM
ur PM box is full! lol

ojos_de_alicia
06-06-2008, 07:03 PM
ok so pms is full but i clicked email... i hope it goes to your email lmao i sent it..

wanaads
06-06-2008, 09:31 PM
Have faith, Noelle. You're starting early and you have plenty of time and great advice from everyone. You're going to get the letter done and it's going to bring your husband home. I think about this a lot (even though I don't have an approval yet!) - about how immensely powerful it is to be able to bring your man home on the strength of your own words. Just believe you're going to do it and you will - after you take the afternoon off. ;)

corazoncita
06-07-2008, 04:25 AM
Thanks for the encouraging words, wanaads! I did read a book this afternoon, and I think I will get back to the letter today. I have to admit that I do get excited every time I get another piece of evidence! I got some old medical records regarding my anxiety attacks today. I am still hunting for a few more... There are some more records ready at the hospital where I delivered Emery-Grace, but I haven't gotten them yet because they were EIGHTYFRIGGINDOLLARS, but I got paid today :blush: so they will be on their way shortly.

alicia~ I emailed to your msn account! (but I will also clean out my PM box)

catrachowife~ I LOVE those pictures of Annabelle! She is a DOLL! I cannot believe all those beautiful curls! That Honduras dress is darling, too! Where did you get it??

ojos_de_alicia
06-07-2008, 04:24 PM
i emailed you back =D

catrachowife
06-10-2008, 09:24 AM
Corazoncita- Thank-you! We got that dress in the souvenier shop in the big new mall in Tegus. Keep your spirits up about the HSL. You really have an advantage that you get to start thinking about it this early. I hadn't even started looking for support on this website until after my hubby was back in Honduras after our interview. I had written a 1 page letter while in Honduras, not knowing how detailed it really should be. Thank God I found this website, otherwise I don't think I would have known to send an addendum with a better letter and evidence. Who knows what would have happened then?