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emilios_girl
05-14-2008, 09:20 PM
This seems very short to me, but I really believe my arguments are strong and I have several exhibits from physicians & therapists. Please feel free to critique!!!


Re: Alien
Case Number: CDJXXXXXXXXX

United States Consulate General
Av. Lopez Mateos 924 Nte.
Ciudad Juarez, Mexico

I am writing this letter in support of my husband, ALIEN, case number CDJXXXXXXXXX.

Hardships to me, the United States Citizen. If my husband ALIEN, is not admitted into the United States I will suffer severe and extreme hardship.

I met my husband ALIEN while jogging at a local community college. I worked close by and would jog the nature trails at least four days a week. I saw him several times sitting at a picnic table along the trail with his nose in a book. I finally stopped one day and introduced myself to him. He was studying English as a second language. We began seeing each other almost daily within a few weeks and moved in together in August of 2005. We married on March 26, 2006 and every day since the first has been amazing. We are inseparable and spend every possible moment together. He is the love of my life and the source of my happiness.

I have supported myself, my husband ALIEN, our two sons and my daughter throughout our relationship. He is indispensable to me as a spouse, friend, and partner throughout life. He has supported me in my pursuit of higher education so that we might have a better life. The only thing missing is the ability to live our lives normally, legally, the way any married couple has a right to do. If I, the United States citizen, were forced to relocate to Mexico I would suffer extreme and unusual hardships above and beyond what any human being should have to endure.

Relocating to Mexico would cause significant psychological stress to myself, adversely affect the future of our children, end my nursing career before it started, sever my relationship with my family in the United States, and endanger my own personal safety.

Children

I and my husband ALIEN, have three children who are all United States citizens. Their names are CHILD 1, D.O.B. XX/XX/XXXX, age 6, CHILD 2, D.O.B. XX/XX/XXXX, age 2, and CHILD 3, D.O.B. XX/XX/XXXX, age 1.

CHILD 1 is my child from a previous marriage. I have primary custody in a joint custody agreement (See Exhibit A) with her biological father and cannot move with her to Mexico. She speaks no Spanish and her father, FATHER has refused to allow her to travel to or reside in Mexico. (See Exhibit B) She is extremely attached to my husband ALIEN, and has become very depressed at the possibility of being separated from him. I cannot leave my daughter in the United States without a mother and she does not want to be separated from my husband, whom she considers to also be her father. The psychological damage that both of us would suffer from such a situation is unimaginable.

Both of our sons, Child 2 and CHILD 3, suffer from Autism Spectrum Disorders. (See Exhibit C, D, & E). They have weekly speech and occupational therapies in an ongoing plan of care for their disorders. Our sons have no verbal ability and speak neither Spanish or English. Leaving the United States for them is not an option because of the level and intensity of therapy they require, as well as the team of professionals needed for treament. If their father is not admitted to the United States, we would all suffer undue hardships. I would be left to care for two special needs children all on my own, whose fragile psychological makeups will surely deteriorate under the stress of an absent father.

Family Unity

My father left my mother when she was pregnant with me and so I have no contact with my paternal relatives. However, I am extremely close to my mother's side of the family. My grandmother, GRANDMOTHER and great-grandmother, G-GRANDMOTHER, both have significant health problems. My grandmother has been hospitalized several times in the past few years and requires attention several days of the week. She cannot drive at night and needs help procuring groceries. (See Exhibit F) Her health is deteriorating and I may be summoned with very short notice to either her home or the hospital.

My great-grandmother has a pacemaker and is also unable to drive very much. She requires help with grocery shopping and getting to and from doctor appointments. I would suffer extreme hardship if either of these two wonderful women were to pass away during the time I would be forced to reside in Mexico. My great-grandmother, Mary, is 90 years old and the likelihood that she has limited time left is obvious. Who will help them grocery shop or get medical attention when I'm gone? I am the closest living relative to Mary and the only one with the time and resource to help her. I assist my mother in errands for my grandmother, Helen. Several times during the year, my mother travels to California on business for three to four weeks at a time and is unavailable to help. I become the sole caregiver during those times.


Education and Career Opportunities

I am currently a nursing student in the Associate Degree Nursing Program at COLLEGE in XXXXXXXX, XX, USA. I am scheduled to graduate in June of 2009. I have worked tremendously hard to be accepted into this program and continue to work hard in my clinical and academic studies.

I do not speak Spanish and have completed all of my higher education in English. If I were forced to relocate to Mexico I would not be able to attain employment because of the language barrier and educational system differences.

I chose nursing as a profession because I have a passion for helping others and it has always been my dream. The United States is also experiencing a severe Registered Nurse shortage which has been predicted to increase exponentially in the coming years. (See Exhibit G) This is where I need to be to help other citizens of the United States.

Conclusion

If my husband, ALIEN, is not admitted into the United States I will suffer extreme and unusual hardships. Without ALIEN, I am reduced to being a single parent with two autistic sons, a depressed daughter, and limited financial resources. With ALIEN, I am part of a strong family unit capable of overcoming anything in our pursuit to have a normal life. We cannot bear to be apart. I cannot survive without him here with me in the United States. Our children cannot suffer the loss of their father. Our family needs a husband and a father to be whole. Please forgive my husband ALIEN for his illegal presence in the United States and approve this waiver so that we can continue our lives together in peace.

Adriane
05-14-2008, 09:36 PM
It's a good start. I think you need to expand more.

Can you elaborate about your children's conditions, their limitations and the therapy they need? Letters from their doctors and/ or school about how devestating a move to Mexico would be?

Can you further expand about your career limitations? What sort of evidence do you have for this section?

Good start!

ronizo
05-14-2008, 09:47 PM
I think it's good so far. Give some more detail on your sons' conditions. Make sure you back everything up with proof. If I am not mistaken your daughter being from a previous relationship is a Level 2 hardship. This will work greatly to your benefit. My son is from a previous relationship, and I included a notarized letter from his father stating that he cannot leave the country. A member from I2US told me to use this hardship, and my lawyer agreed that this would be my strongest since everything else I had was standard (family, debt, etc.). I also included a letter from my son's teacher (among other things) stating how being separated from his mother (me) would be devastating. I think I had 16 exhibits, but in my heart of hearts I believe my son's situation was my strongest. Good luck!!!!

PINK
05-14-2008, 09:53 PM
i think that you should explain how the 10 year ban will extremely affect you, exemplify, how if he was not to return, how it will affect you, you and you, . The extreme hrdship is to you, I know it will cause your family too, but the pain of them, is the extreme suffrage to you,

PINK
05-14-2008, 10:05 PM
i think that you should explain how the 10 year ban will extremely affect you, exemplify, how if he was not to return, how it will affect you, you and you, . The extreme hrdship is to you, I know it will cause your family too, but the pain of them, is the extreme suffrage to you,

you have good points

Education: explain where you are going, how immportant it is for you, how you wont be able to get a job in mexico, ho the launguage barrier will affect you, how hard it will be for you alone to continue your goal,

Children; how the pain of not being with your daughter will cause you extreme emotional, and physical suffrage. How yyou will loose ten years of her growing up, the importane of her having her mother .


Children: How this theraphy es essential, why its is extrmemly important that they receive, how willl it affect them if they were to live in mexico, not been able to provide those services in mexico, and how it will the change oF enviremnt will affect them an the most important thing explain the extreme hardship to YOU, if you were to relocate to mexico, OR HOW HARD IT WILL be for you to stay, and nurture them, how extemey hard it will be for YOU.

Family. how if you were to suffer int he event that you has dto relocate and (god forbids) one of your grandmothers need syour help, and you cannot be here, because of monetary issues, children EXEMPLIFY YOUR HARDSHIP iether way, staying here and living in mexico

ronizo
05-14-2008, 10:06 PM
Pink is right. No matter who suffers, you have to redirect that suffering to yourself. Your child going through hardship is then a hardship for you. I wrote in my letter how hard and devastating it would be for me to have to choose between being with hubby or being with son. If hubby wasn't approved, I would go with him and leave my son and bear the guilt of causing him feelings of abandonment OR stay with my son and go through having to be separated from hubby.

Dorothea
05-15-2008, 08:38 PM
I think this is a very strong start! If you can just strengthen it a little bit more, you'll have a great HSL, even if it's not really long. Just elaborate a bit more!

Laura
05-15-2008, 08:58 PM
I think it's a good start too. I wouldn't focus on making it longer, just add some more detail to each section. Don't go overboard though. Sometimes people write out too much information and it's hard to read through.

The evidence is key here. Make sure you have letters from your family to back up the claims about your being a part-caregiver to your elderly relatives.

Best of luck!

ginobili20
05-19-2008, 10:00 PM
I think you need to enfocus more in your children, better than to talk at length about your grandmother and GGM. Im not saying they are not important, but it might distract the attention from your #1 hardship, which is your children.

By the way, I think this kind of HSL sould be approve right on the spot. I mean, unless the alien is a big criminal, how can somebody deny this waiver. If she goes to Mexico, one of her children loses his mom, and if she stays, the other children lose their dad. As simple as that!

Good luck.

Chapital
05-19-2008, 10:05 PM
I think you have a great start...and although short, your arguments are clear....I agree that you could elaborate a bit more on the medical and especially on the loss of job and career and education completion. I think that could be even stronger!

ginobili20
05-19-2008, 10:07 PM
The word is focus, not enfocus :/ (easy to see I need to reread my english books)

DeBenny
05-19-2008, 10:32 PM
I am in agreement with everyone else...you have a really good start. I also agree that you should elaborate on some of your points a bit more. Are there any health issues that you have not throught about? Are you specialising in a certain area in the nursing field? What are the various educational differences with Mexico when it comes to Nursing that may set you back? You have to take a licensing test in your state...have them write a letter re: what would happen if you were to not work in the field for a ten year span and if possible nursing employment in Mexico differences?