I don't know what to do! Please advice...

[AnaRod]

I am contemplating the idea to file the I-30 so that i can start the adjustment for status for myself. I been married for sever years now and the reason why i have never started the process is because I am afraid to end up in Mexico away from my husband for a long time. For some reason over the last couple of months I feel like I can't continue to live in this country like this "illegally". I keep telling myself that I should just go ahead and do it now but I am really afraid of the outcome and my future! I keep looking forward the new elections and maybe one of this new presidents can bring some change into the immigrations laws, but what if they don't and I end up wasting another year of my life just waiting for a change that might never come! I am very scared and confused, I dont know what I should do!!!

EWI:1988 (@ 5 years old)
Started dating husband in 1998.
Married 2001.
Until this day still living illegally in this country! :sad:

[Laura]

Filing the I-130 is just the first step. You should definitely, definitely do it. It doesn't mean you have to leave the country. There will be a new president well before you would even get your appointment, and if the political climate really does change you have lost nothing.

[Rosa]

You should do it. The approval rate for people that were brought here as children seems to be pretty high. I would start the process anyways and think about whether or not you want to go through with it once you get closer to actually having to go to CDJ. You can always back out right up to when you actually leave for Mexico.

[AnaRod]

thank you Laura Fern and Rosa!

You guys have no idea how much i love this website! Talking to someone about the way i feel brings alot of comfort!

[chalakita]

Ana - Go ahead and fill out the I130. You dont have to leave after your I130 is approved. I understand when you say: "I cant continue to live in this country illegally". I feel the same way :( I have the perfect husband, a great job and most of my family is here, BUT I am not totally happy. I am always scared and worried. My hubby and I wanna have kids soon, but we decided its better to way until this nightmare is over....Good Luck to you :welcome:

[jsierra1982]

i agree. do it! you have nothing to lose.

[monki12]

do it, so many of us have wasted our time.....and :welcome:

[MendozaQH]

Ditto what everyone else says! Anyways, if you want to benefit from anyting in the future similar to 245i (in the case that they extend it), then you will need to have had a valid and approvable I-130 submitted prior to the law going into effect. At least submit the I-130 and then you can think about it!

[Eddie & Angie]

I say go for it! I understand what you mean. My husband never wanted to start the process either. We had been dating for 5 years and we had planned to get married but it was no rush. We finally decided to do it this year in 2008. Then, his mother got ill and he had to leave so we got married before he left. I didnt want to get married in Mexico. He has been in Mexico for 6 months now and I miss him terribly, but I at least we are at the half way point ( I think) and I see him at least once every 3 months. Good Luck!

[perez782]

First of all Welcome to this site! You should file. It's hard living illegal and worrying about immigration. Like Laura said you don't have to leave.

[AnaRod]

chalakita,
We are in the same boat..I have a wonderful husband, an awesome job, and my family is all here as well. Both of my parents are US citizens and never requested adjustment of status for me because they were waiting to become US citizens to do so. When they finally became US citizens I was already married at 18 so it was easier to apply for adjustment of status through my husband. I definately want kids in the future but as of right now i have to put those plans on hold because I dont feel i am stable enough to bring babies into this world. The only thing tha makes me unstable is my "illegal status".

[lisa7078]

Welcome. I also agree with everyone you should file the I-130 and you don't have to go when it comes time for your interview.... at least start the process.

[chalakita]

The only thing tha makes me unstable is my "illegal status".

I know that feeling very well. I think you start the process, I felt a little better after I sent my I130. Its a scary thing thinking about being away from my hubby, but I feel positive about all this. Trust God and ask questions, we are here to help :)

[adeildo]

start to do what everybory said and pray to GOD, you will be fine, GOD bless you:yay2::yay2::yay2: