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mandy
05-08-2008, 09:19 PM
Well I found out my due date last Thursday---Oct. 24th.

I would have found out the Thursday before but mom suddenly died. She was only 44. I am still in shock. I don't know if anyone remembers but my dad died in December. We were not very close but my mom was my world. She had MS and was wheelchair bound. The exact cause of death was unknown but we had both had a stomach virus or food poisoning when it happened. I was her caregiver and I had no other siblings.

I know I have a lot to be thankful for since my husband was recently approved but life just seems so out of control. I honestly wasn't too happy about my pregnacy at first but now I see why it was meant to be. I just felt like sharing and thanks for reading my story.

joy&pain
05-08-2008, 09:23 PM
Wow, Mandy... I am so sorry about your mom's passing. What a shock! Talk about experiencing the cycle of life all at once. Have you thought about if your baby is a girl naming her after your mom or using her middle name or something? Sending you big hugs.

christytorres
05-08-2008, 09:25 PM
Thanks for sharing your story..I will pray for you and your family..

Pooh79
05-08-2008, 09:26 PM
Awww Mandy I am so sorry about your mama. :( J&P's idea is really sweet. HUGS.

Laura
05-08-2008, 09:27 PM
Oh Mandy. I am so, so sorry. My sincere condolences. Hang in there.

jsierra1982
05-08-2008, 09:27 PM
sorry to hear about your mom...but thrilled to hear about the baby! be strong.

Chula
05-08-2008, 09:33 PM
Well I found out my due date last Thursday---Oct. 24th.

I would have found out the Thursday before but mom suddenly died. She was only 44. I am still in shock. I don't know if anyone remembers but my dad died in December. We were not very close but my mom was my world. She had MS and was wheelchair bound. The exact cause of death was unknown but we had both had a stomach virus or food poisoning when it happened. I was her caregiver and I had no other siblings.

I know I have a lot to be thankful for since my husband was recently approved but life just seems so out of control. I honestly wasn't too happy about my pregnacy at first but now I see why it was meant to be. I just felt like sharing and thanks for reading my story.

I know all too well what your going through my mother passed away 3-18 of this year and she too was my WORLD, we were so close. I love and miss my MOM so much!!!!! Her death was sudden too I had just spent the day with her the evening she passed. They say when GOD takes a life he gives one yes your lil one is truely a blessing. Ever need to talk PM me.

Chapital
05-08-2008, 10:24 PM
I am so sorry...you have had so much to deal with. I found out I was expecting my youngest just hours after my mom passed away. While overwhelming, having a new little guy growing inside me helped me to focus on life and not so much on her death.
My thought and prayers are with you.

MiSantito
05-08-2008, 10:27 PM
I am so sorry to hear of your mom and dad's death. I know what you are going through. I lost my grandma (who we took care of for 5 years because she was bedfast) and my husband (who died suddenly of a heart attack after open heart surgery) within 6 months of each other. In addition my mom was sick also and we almost lost her several times while she was on life support.

From experience, I will tell you that it gets better even though I know right now you probably feel it will not. I think God knew that you needed someone to replace your Mom because he already had plans for her. Keep strong and pray. It will help you get through.

God Bless!

Misantito

eestudiante
05-08-2008, 10:37 PM
Stay strong and God will help you through all of this!

JustMe
05-08-2008, 11:04 PM
I am so sorry my Condolences. You will and your Family will be in my prayers.

liley99
05-08-2008, 11:21 PM
mandy,

I am so sorry for both loses. I wouldn't know what to do if my mother left me, like you I am not close to my father and my mother is (she doesn't know it) a lot for me! She has gone through skin cancer, breast cancer, bone problems and I feel so sorry sometimes cause I can't do anything for her.

But your mother is in such a better place and remember that no matter what she will always be with you. The baby was definitely a blessing in disgise, Enjoy it and embrace it!

I wish you the best in all and congrats on your husband being approved, god works miracles.

Keep your head up and try to think of positive moments. If you need a shoulder I am here as well as all of us!

;)

navywife03
05-09-2008, 12:12 AM
oh mandy im soo sorry what happen..my prayers are wtih u

imisshimmuch
05-09-2008, 01:25 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss. Cherish the memories, and know she's in a great place, and best of all with your father :blush: :hug:

Dorothea
05-09-2008, 02:51 AM
Mandy, I'm sorry to hear about your mom... I hope things take a turn for the better for you. I'll be thinking of you.

gaby
05-09-2008, 02:59 AM
I am sorry Mandy, there are no word to say, and heal your loss.

MTRACKSPORT
05-09-2008, 05:44 AM
Mandy i am so sorry to hear about your mom and dad. there is a reason for everything. i hope your mom was aware that you are expecting a bundle of joy. for everything that passes something new is born to bring cheer to you. our prayers are with you . AL & MARIA

rigojuani
05-09-2008, 06:54 AM
mandy,

I am so sorry to hear about your mom. You shared your story on your family with me in ciudad juarez. I will have you in my prayers. I am not going to tell you to be strong because this is something very hard to deal with specially with you having to take care of her and on how close you were. But really take care of yourself because of your pregnancy. juani

mandy
05-12-2008, 10:28 PM
Thank you guys for listening. I know things will get easier with time.

I have thought about naming the baby after her. I have to admit my mom's first and last names were very strange!!

About a week or two before my mother passed, she did something I am very happy she did now.
We were together in her bedroom and she said "do you see that little teddy bear up on my dresser" and I told her "yes". She said "well take that and give it to the baby". I replied that, "well, I have so many stuffed animals I am probably going to have to give some of them away to make room for the baby" I then laughed and we dropped the subject and the teddy bear remained where it was at. You better believe the night after she died that incident came back to me and I went in there and got that teddy bear!!!

Cfloresgirl
05-12-2008, 10:43 PM
Mandy..sending hugs your way. I lost my dad very suddenly like your mom..and he was young too. I was also pregnant too..my daughter was born on October 24th!

You will see that this baby is going to help get you through these times.You have so much to look forward to. I'm sorry you have lost so much recently..keep your chin up...thats a very sweet story about the teddy bear.

lvluck777
05-12-2008, 10:48 PM
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Autumnstarr71
05-12-2008, 11:47 PM
I'm sorry, I lost my mom 7 yrs ago, Dec. It was the hardest thing to ever go through. My twins at the time were only 5 months old my mom never seen them never held them in her arms. (she lived in Michigan me here in NC). I still miss her terribly. If you ever need to talk I am here, I understand. I also lost a dear friend 2 yrs ago who had ms. I was her caregiver also, so your story really touched me. Take care and congrats on your new baby coming that will be your ray of sunshine....

Rinner
05-13-2008, 01:54 AM
My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.

M&M
05-13-2008, 02:51 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss Mandy! May God give you comfort in your sorrow. I'm sure you'll have wonderful stories to tell your baby about grandma!

J3NNI
05-13-2008, 02:58 AM
so so sorry for your losses

RMJM30
05-13-2008, 02:53 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Torres
05-13-2008, 03:10 PM
I am sorry to hear about your mom. I will keep you in my prayers.

aprilstorm
05-18-2008, 10:10 PM
I'm sorry for your loss.

Adelita
05-19-2008, 01:16 AM
My father died when my mother was three months pregnant with me. She calls me her miracle baby. I'm so, so sorry for your losses. There is nothing that can replace your parents, but look at your baby as God's way of closing a door and opening a window. I'll be praying for you. Stay strong!