Why can't my in-laws just help with the BC?!!!!

[KE06]

UGH! I feel like pulling my freakin' hair out! I have been asking for a month and a half for my inlaws to go get new "originals" of hubbys acta. Of course they said they would, and of course I need to pay...pay for the actas, pay for the taxi, pay for the DHL (this I understand completely) Oh, and of course now, since my SIL needs $50 more to be able to get the video of my nieces quinceanera from last month, we're paying that too! Well, hubby called and asked this sister, since the other one has not gotten the acta like she promised over a month ago, and this sister said she'd go get it Wednesday. Well, imagine this....it's now Friday and no Birth Certificates! :waiting: Some holiday, she said. Now she will go Tuesday. TUESDAY?????? And how in the H3LL will they be here by Friday if she does that?! Of course we will have to send the money before she ships them, and even so....by Friday?! His passport appt is Monday in Kansas City and I have no idea if the will accept his old ratty one or not. I am so sick of trying to get things from la familia. Why do they have to be so difficult. I shouldn't have, but I got so aggravated a while ago, and while talking to him on the phone I blew up. I asked him why is it so difficult to get his family to do anything for him...I said "They get paid to do everything they do for you, so why is it so damn hard to do something so simple?" I feel bad....well, a little. But this is important! I am almost at the point of begging for someone, anyone in Veracruz to help me! I could probably get a stranger to get it and ship it cheaper. I don't mean to sound so whiney, but I feel overwhlemed lately. Not that my problems are anywhere near comparable to some of yours, I mean...no way, but it is getting weird with him working so far away. at first it wasn't so bad, but ever since I went to visit, things seem.....well, just dfferent, odd. I don't know. I am an ultra-sensitive person, so maybe estoy tan loca, but i feel like something is wrong. I am also feeling the weight of knowing it's time to start workiing on the HSL. Before I had my itty-bitty stroke (don't know when) I was sharp as a tack, and a great writer, but now sometimes I just can't put simple things together, or rather it takes a lot longer. It's not a really obvious thing, more to me than anyone else, but it intimidates me. Sorry to ramble, I just don't know what to do to get the actas! Any ideas? Anyone have family in Veracruz I could pay to help me? :blush:

[Dorothea]

KE, you've got lots of help here when it comes to the HSL. Try not to sweat that yet!
About the actas, have you tried Acta Express? I know Luckysprite had a bad experience, but Tasksgirl didn't! She got her husband's really quickly. Expensive, but fast!
Sorry they are making things so difficult!

[KE06]

I know... I just feel so helpless sometime. I was standing in the post office the other day, waiting to send my hubby a package and when I went to write his address, which I've written like 6 million time in 2 months, I wrote some crazy number, then lookied at it, and knew it was wrong, but couldn' think of the right one. Things like that have me so scared for the HSL. Before, I was the writer in the family, I was the organizer, but it's like my mind short-circuits sometimes. :) I know I need to go back and read the post about Acta Express, but do they send copies or the new original that some folks are advising to get? DO you think it's possible to get them by next Friday?
Thanks Dorothea... you are always so optimistic, and uplifiting.

[Luckysprite]

KE - ActaExpress sends you certified copies - which were just fine in getting my husbands passport. Of course - they kept the darn document that we spent two months trying to get ...

If anyone can relate to your 'acta' issues - its me - and trust me - I know how frustrating it can be.

I do not think though - that if you ordered them now you would have them by next Friday. I know we had a horrible experience with them - but even on a good experience - I would think it would take the 7-10 days or whatever that they tell you it takes.

They have representatives in each state who go and get the actas for you, the rep sends them to Juarez - who delivers them to El Paso who then overnights them to you ... or atleast that is what my husband was told.

Good Luck!!!!

[y14gemini]

KE06--I am sorry that you are going through this! Try to take a deep breath and remain calm. I know how you feel because when hubby would call his family and ask them to do something for him it was a major issue and it would bother me because like you, he would send them the money! I know this is a long shot but do you think that Alfredo (the taxi guy can do it for you) or SLVJVM922000 can get it (sorry to put you on the spot SLV.....)

[brezarenee]

I'm sorry. If it helps, I think many of us on here can relate to your stresses. I've had my moments of feeling exactly the same way as you're feeling tonight. I asked my MIL to get my husband's BC and send them a couple months ago, but she never got around to it. I kept pressuring my husband to remind her, and well, she just now went to ask for them. Mind you, his passport appointment was last week, so, too late. The whole time, I'm just wondering, why in the world can't you find the time??? You don't have to work because we send you money to live off of, and we sent you extra money to pay for the BCs, so?!?!

BUT, anyway, he took his old ratty one to the appointment, and that one worked just fine. And to my surprise, they didn't even keep it! So we still have one left and don't have to freak out about gettin ghte new ones asap. How old is the BC you have?? It might work just like my husband's did! At least, I really hope so!

[KE06]

The conslate told me to fax it so they could tell me if it was okay, but they never called me to tell me one way or another after I did it. I think the BC is about 25 years old. He's 34, but I think it has a date of around 1980-something on it. It is just ratty. It has tape around the edges, I guess they thought that would protect it somewhat but it didn't help much.

[Dorothea]

KE, my brain barely works these days either!:crazy::dizzy::sick2:
In Mexico most people (who I know) have a VERY relaxed attitude about everything... nothing is ever in a hurry or really important to them... As an "uptight" American who wants to be on time, very organized, and never offend anyone, this has been (and probably always will be) something that's a little uncomfortable for me...
To be honest it's probably been very good for me to be forced to slow down a little bit because of my slow-***** Mexican man. lol

[MiSantito]

The conslate told me to fax it so they could tell me if it was okay, but they never called me to tell me one way or another after I did it. I think the BC is about 25 years old. He's 34, but I think it has a date of around 1980-something on it. It is just ratty. It has tape around the edges, I guess they thought that would protect it somewhat but it didn't help much.

We went to the consulate in Atlanta and only had the "old original" with us because we didn't know that there was a "new original". They gave us his passport for one year instead of the five years giving him time to get the new ones. We called his sister and she went and got three originals for us and we received them this week. Maybe they will give him his passport for one year with his old one also. Good Luck!!!

[MiSantito]

To be honest it's probably been very good for me to be forced to slow down a little bit because of my slow-***** Mexican man. lol

LOL...this sounds like me and my fiance...Every time we go to the grocery store or to Wal-mart he says that I am always 10 feet in front of him. He says I am ashamed to walk with him...lol....which is not true. In my first marriage I had to always hurry up and get back home to keep a fight down so after 15 years of that I am just use to walking fast. I have had to adjust myself big time!!!

[Luckysprite]

The conslate told me to fax it so they could tell me if it was okay, but they never called me to tell me one way or another after I did it. I think the BC is about 25 years old. He's 34, but I think it has a date of around 1980-something on it. It is just ratty. It has tape around the edges, I guess they thought that would protect it somewhat but it didn't help much.

We had my husbands 'orignal' one from shortly after he was born. Tattered, torn a little bit - in poor condition.

We knew we needed more than one copy though and is why we tried so hard to get new ones before getting his passport.

At the consulate here in Minnesota - we tried giving them his older one first and they told us they couldnt accept it. why - not sure ... I thought that was odd - so then we gave them one of the new ones we just received and there was no issues with that one. I just think they wanted to give hubby a hard time. There was no reason they shouldn't have accepted his old one - it was an original - it just looked a little rough.