What is wrong with men?!!!?!!

[Kikigurl1]

Okay, I know all men aren't like this.... but something just happened with my man and I'm just like "WTH happened right now"



So pretty much every morning or afternoon I send Rocael a text message "Buenos dias guapo" or "Buenas tardes mi amor, como estas? Estoy pensando en ti" you know.. just gushy little stuff to let him know i'm thinking about him. Lately (like for the past 3 months) has been responding to me or calling in the afternoon. He only calls in the evenings usually after 9.

Well he just called me right now asking why I haven't called him today. I said "Rocael, I never call you, you always call me and if I do call you, you don't answer" and he's like "Well you didn't send me a message today" and I said "I was watching 2 movies this morning, I wasn't thinking about it" and then he goes on to say "Oh, well if that's more important for you" and that made me mad so I said "Rocael, cada dia estoy mandando mensajes y no me contestas, y un dia no te mando mensaje estas enojado??!" and he's like "Ya ok, esta bien" but I could tell he was still mad so I was telling him "Don't be mad for that" and then I asked him how he was doing (which I guess I had done that at the beginning of the call) and he was like "ya te dije" and just being a jerk. So i didn't say anything else, and then he's like "te llamas rato" and I said "Ya bye"

WTH??!!!?? ONE DAY I forget to send a corny little message and he's mad??!!

[mymexicanman]

Men !

[Kikigurl1]

I so badly want to say something else in a txt right now, but I'm inserting my foot in my mouth before I say anything to make the situation worse.... but I just don't understand why he's so mad.

[djones9714]

Men have egos also. The fact that you broke your routine with him is what is upsetting him and probably making him think stupid crap right now. Since he is far away from you, I am sure that there are trust issues to be dealt with which is the same for all relationships until you have known each other for quite some time.

Sounds like the green-eyed monster to me.

[imisshimmuch]

I think it's sweet :blush:

[JMRJ]

I think it's sweet :blush:
:wub: Ditto

[Kikigurl1]

Guys, but he's MAD and doesn't even want to be on the phone with me... how is that sweet lol

[Kikigurl1]

I don't want him to be mad at me for this.. it's so stupid... I just want to say something to make it all better but I don't know what to say :(

[JMRJ]

Maybe he's just tired from work. Just say whatever you feel. It strange but... the soon-to-be daddies seem like their hormones are out of place too when their sweeties are preggies.:dramaq:

:serenade:

[tasksgirl]

You just go through this stuff in new relationships and especially long distance.. trust me I went through all this lol.. just make sure you end up talking it out or the fight doesn't get you any progress..

You probably haven't gotten to this point with all the other guys you were dating.. that cowboy jerk what was his name? lol .. this is the point where boundaries and rules and all of that are being formed and your relationship is being negotiated.. it can be a pain lol

[Dorothea]

Ok Kiki, not to be a jerk, but it's his problem and he has no right to be mean to you. You shouldn't be feeling guilty about it, so stop it!
He is not being sweet, he's being an idiot.

[Kikigurl1]

Ok well I ended up sending one message... it wasn't apologizing I just said

"Te quiero saber que eres muy importante de cada pelicula y cada cosa que tengo"

For those non-spanish speakers... i may have said it incorrectly but what I was trying to say "I want you to know that you are more important than every movie and every thing that I have"

He called me right after that and apologized and said that he was sorry for getting mad at me over nothing and said that he just thought it was weird that I didn't send him one because I always do. Everything is fine now. Thank goodness.

It'd be nice if he remembers this though so I don't have to deal with petty stuff like this for at least the next 6 months. I don't need it right now.. or ever really, but especially not now.

[Christabel]

I swear, men have their own version of PMS. I bet your man is just going through his right now. lol

[Cherokee]

Guys are big babies a lot of the time. But it's really difficult to keep everything running smoothly over text message I think. You can read into tone and stuff, especially in a bi-lingual situation. I remember I wrote "hmmm" in a messenger chat to a long-distance boyfriend one time and he freaked out over it! He thought I was trying to say I was bored with him and the whole relationship. I was like, jeez this guy is a dramatic baby haha.

[angela256z]

I once forgot to tell my husband I love you when we were hanging up the phone and he called me back and let me know that I shouldn't forget to say that next time.

[JennyM]

Hee Hee, I'm the commercial wife! Too bad if its a movie! lol

[latinsoulmate]

don't worry, he was just thinking stupid thoughts I am sure!
Like, you must be up to no good because you didn't text him:D

Men's egos are so fragile:wink:

[joy&pain]

I'm glad he got over it..geesh! Men!! lol :)

[Glühbirne]

Men (and women too) can start to take the sweet little things we do for eachother for granted sometimes. Back pre-Juarez, Saturday was usually the only day that Mr. G and I got to spend time together. He worked evenings and I worked and went to school during the week so it was usually a special day for us. I'd often get up first and make us a nice breakfast. He wouldn't say thanks or act like he cared and sometimes he would eat barely anything and I'd have to throw some food away. Well, one Saturday when he got up he saw me just sitting there on the computer he was like, "Where my waffles? Where my coffee?" and it pissed me off because he just expected it. :D He had never acted like he appreciated it, but suddenly when he didn't have it, he realized that it was important to him. :wink::wink:

It seems like you're the one who has to go through the most, and you are, because you're growing a baby and your tired and have hormones seething through your body and making everything seem like a bigger deal than it normally is. But remember, Rocael is going through a lot too. He already has to work his behind off to make ends meet as it is and now he's gotten a beautiful American girl pregnant and he's going to have another child to support and he's probably unsure if your parents will accept him, plus he's an illegal alien and that's going to matter more now that he's in a relationship with a child on a way. It's a lot for him to worry about. Suddenly his responsibility has doubled or tripled.

[Auntlily]

Men (and women too) can start to take the sweet little things we do for eachother for granted sometimes. Back pre-Juarez, Saturday was usually the only day that Mr. G and I got to spend time together. He worked evenings and I worked and went to school during the week so it was usually a special day for us. I'd often get up first and make us a nice breakfast. He wouldn't say thanks or act like he cared and sometimes he would eat barely anything and I'd have to throw some food away. Well, one Saturday when he got up he saw me just sitting there on the computer he was like, "Where my waffles? Where my coffee?" and it pissed me off because he just expected it. :D He had never acted like he appreciated it, but suddenly when he didn't have it, he realized that it was important to him. :wink::wink:

It seems like you're the one who has to go through the most, and you are, because you're growing a baby and your tired and have hormones seething through your body and making everything seem like a bigger deal than it normally is. But remember, Rocael is going through a lot too. He already has to work his behind off to make ends meet as it is and now he's gotten a beautiful American girl pregnant and he's going to have another child to support and he's probably unsure if your parents will accept him, plus he's an illegal alien and that's going to matter more now that he's in a relationship with a child on a way. It's a lot for him to worry about. Suddenly his responsibility has doubled or tripled.

:ditto: I agree with Glu!

[Cfloresgirl]

I'm sure it's just the distance,sounds like hubby was having a moment! glad it's ok now:)

[tasksgirl]

It seems like you're the one who has to go through the most, and you are, because you're growing a baby and your tired and have hormones seething through your body and making everything seem like a bigger deal than it normally is. But remember, Rocael is going through a lot too. He already has to work his behind off to make ends meet as it is and now he's gotten a beautiful American girl pregnant and he's going to have another child to support and he's probably unsure if your parents will accept him, plus he's an illegal alien and that's going to matter more now that he's in a relationship with a child on a way. It's a lot for him to worry about. Suddenly his responsibility has doubled or tripled.


Aww when you put it like that.. pobrecito !! Kiki if he ever freaks out on you that's why !!

[madrika]

I swear, men have their own version of PMS. I bet your man is just going through his right now. lol

Yeah it's called Pretending to be Macho Studsssssssssss

[Theresa]

Yeah it's called Pretending to be Macho Studsssssssssss



:lol: that was funny! i guess its Turi's time of the month then! :lol:

[Kikigurl1]

Glu I think you're exactly right! Thanks for that message

[discoviking]

I concur. Glu is right. And he needs validation from you, that's why he got upset when you forgot to send the message. Or he might have gotten worried you were sick and couldn't text him. Guys get worried when we get the silent treatment, I already taught you that, didn't I? :wink:

We are overgrown babies when it comes down to it....

[Kikigurl1]

Yeah you did teach me that... I wasn't even purposely giving him that treatment lol but it's just weird because I thought he could care less about those messages because 9 times out of 10 he doesn't even answer them so the fact that he got so upset threw me for a loop.

But everything's ok now and I get to see him later today!!! YAY!