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[ratito921]

I'm kinda sad today. Hubby and I started trying for a baby after he came home in June. I started clomid. At the same time one of the nurses at the hospital started clomid. Well hers worked and mine didn't. Yesterday she had her twins and here I am no where even close to having a baby and she has two. I'm very happy for her because she's wanted them for so long I'm just really sad because nothing ever seems to work out for me the way I wish it would. I guess God has a bigger plan for me. I just want to know how many other people close to me are going to have kids before me.

[Pooh79]

I'm so sorry Amanda! Although I haven't been trying as long as you have we have had no luck either and it is disheartening. My SIL who has a 2 year old and a 1 year old just found out yesterday she was pregnant. It was an "accident" go figure...Hang in there. You will get your miracle. HUGS.

[mjfalove]

we did clomid for our baby and it worked the second time!!! it will happen when god is ready!!!!

[joy&pain]

I'm kinda sad today. Hubby and I started trying for a baby after he came home in June. I started clomid. At the same time one of the nurses at the hospital started clomid. Well hers worked and mine didn't. Yesterday she had her twins and here I am no where even close to having a baby and she has two. I'm very happy for her because she's wanted them for so long I'm just really sad because nothing ever seems to work out for me the way I wish it would. I guess God has a bigger plan for me. I just want to know how many other people close to me are going to have kids before me.

:hug: I'm sorry you're sad... your time will come and it will be so incredible when it does. God has a different plan, you are thinking the right way. Think about how blessed you are to have your hubby by your side and all the fun you get to continue to have while "trying" in the meantime. ;) Everything will be just fine.

[MMGCA]

it will happen when god is ready!!!!

:ditto:

pray he listens!!!!!!!, god bless

[Kikigurl1]

Oh girl, I'm sorry... I kinda feel bad because I'm one of those ones who is having an "accident" baby... it's just weird the way it works out sometimes. Just be patient and maybe stop trying so hard... it'll come when you least expect it!! I know everytime I've wanted something and tried for something it never worked out for me until I just accepted it and didn't try anymore. Good ol' Murphy's Law. Hugs and baby dust straight from a preggo :)

It'll happen <3

[simply-heartfelt]

Amanda,

I hear ya hun.... stay strong!

My hubby and I started trying to get pregnant just before he got sick in early 2006. Now he is in Mexico and we are waiting for our government to decide that he can come home. I will be 36 tomorrow, so time is of the essence for us.

God bless.... I will pray for you and your hubby!

[lgatica06]

Have you been charting your cycle in addition to the clomid?

[M&M]

Oh Ratito! I'm sorry this is taking so long for you! Are you still doing the clomid??? Also I know joining a TTC community might help also. Like at babycenter or fertilityfriend. Those girls have all sorts of tips, since alot of them have a hard time getting pregnant also.

Good luck! I hope it happens for you guys soon!

[lizardc]

i always say, it seems to happen when you act like a giddy teenager. maybe you and your hubby need to get a cheap bottle of wine and christen the car backseat:blush:

but seriously, I went thru the same thing. We tried for a year, then I went on Clomid. Then one month my ob/gyn did the hcg? shot and I got pregnant like 3 days later!!! you need that trigger shot, it triggers your body to release the egg.

Good luck!

[Gabi]

All I can say is that God is never late. His timing is perfect. Don't say nothing comes out the way you wished it had because you have your husband with you and you survived CDJ. Some people would like to be in your shoes - already done with the immigration process and approved. Like someone else said... just think about all the fun you will have trying. LOL

I don't know much about trying to have a baby, but I have heard that you need to relax during baby making time. :wink:

[ratito921]

We stopped trying in February. No more clomid, no more charting, no more cycle. Nothing.

Thanks for all your kind words it does help. I'm just bummed.

[Marie]

I know how you feel Amanda :sad:

Get a big comfort food, wrap yourself in a blanket with your pooches and try to watch some tv or do something relaxing.

:hug:

[jsierra1982]

don't worry rat, it will happen!!!

[aprilstorm]

Amanda..I'm sorry. When you least expect it it will happen..just like when we got approved. :hug:

[mpls-mexico]

I am sorry about your frustration and difficulty in starting a family. I wish you luck that it’ll happen one day soon or luck in making a family through other means. The world is full of beautiful children born and yet to be born and I know one day you’ll be a wonderful mother to one (or more) of them. Keep your head up chica.

[Laura]

I'm so sorry Ratito...

[Sandra Rangel]

I'm kinda sad today. Hubby and I started trying for a baby after he came home in June. I started clomid. At the same time one of the nurses at the hospital started clomid. Well hers worked and mine didn't. Yesterday she had her twins and here I am no where even close to having a baby and she has two. I'm very happy for her because she's wanted them for so long I'm just really sad because nothing ever seems to work out for me the way I wish it would. I guess God has a bigger plan for me. I just want to know how many other people close to me are going to have kids before me.

Hey don't think about it too much, cause when u do it dosen't work, just relax and you'll see you will get pregnant when u least expect it. Good Luck!

[perez782]

Ratito, I'm really sorry! Two years ago I had a fallopian tube pregnancy and it was devastating. It was not planned, but I got so excited when I found out that I was pregnant (about 2 months), a week later I found out about the fallopian tube pregnancy = ( I cry every night). I know that god had a diffrent plan for me. I'm turning 26 this year and I'm a high risker and I would probably need medical assistant to become pregnant again. I worry alot that I will never get pregnant again. Don't lose hope. Keep trying!!

[mouse7r]

Ratito-- Im sorry I know that feeling!! It took a year to conceive our daughter and a year and half for our son, without any help... I have heard clomid sometimes doesnt work the first time! Have you talked to your dr about everything?

[monki12]

hey, rat.....
what can i say other than i feel ya. This is my second month charting (taking temps and stuff) last month we were unsuccessful and it broke my heart. especially when there are high school kids having babies and we cant...seems a little unfair. Oh yeah, and to add my sis has two babies now and i cant even have the first one yet. My hubby and I are concerned since i havent been on BC pills sinces 06. we had been using the counting method and never had an accident, so we are worried that there is something wrong. but right now we keep trying.....I hope things work out for you. just wanted to let you know that i understand......:blush:

[jeannie]

I am so sorry! I feel like such an ungrateful brat. I have a daughter and I never wanted children. It was just so much work that I could not do again. But to hear that you want children, I feel a little ashamed.I am sure god will give you one since he gave me one and I did not ask for it. God knows what he is doing because my daughter changed my life and I am thankful everyday that I have her. I'm sure god will bless you too because you deserve it. Good luck. In the mean time it does not hurt to keep trying.:wink:Also try to relax maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself.

[ratito921]

Ratito, I'm really sorry! Two years ago I had a fallopian tube pregnancy and it was devastating. It was not planned, but I got so excited when I found out that I was pregnant (about 2 months), a week later I found out about the fallopian tube pregnancy = ( I cry every night). I know that god had a diffrent plan for me. I'm turning 26 this year and I'm a high risker and I would probably need medical assistant to become pregnant again. I worry alot that I will never get pregnant again. Don't lose hope. Keep trying!!


we had the same thing 4 years ago. It broke my heart

I am so sorry! I feel like such an ungrateful brat. I have a daughter and I never wanted children. It was just so much work that I could not do again. But to hear that you want children, I feel a little ashamed.I am sure god will give you one since he gave me one and I did not ask for it. God knows what he is doing because my daughter changed my life and I am thankful everyday that I have her. I'm sure god will bless you too because you deserve it. Good luck. In the mean time it does not hurt to keep trying.:wink:Also try to relax maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself.

my best friend is the same way. she never wanted children and she has a little girl

[want2b2gether]

ratito, I know that you have probably hear this lot of times now, but don't give up, keep trying, I was blessed to have a child. Drs had told my husband that would never have any more and surprise, surprise, we had not even been marry a month and I got pregnat.
My poor SIL lost 2 before she could have one, so just have faith, when the god decides that is time for you, you will have it.
cheer up.

[ratito921]

I still have hope.

What do you guys think about IVF? There's a medical institute that researches IVF and can finance and it's partial cost of normal ivf with a private physician because of research grants. I talked to hubby about it and he said to call and see. My cousin went through IVF and her twins just turned 1 year old. Too cute!

[MiSantito]

I have experienced the same thing as you. I was married for 9 years before my husband passed away. We had lived together for 3 years before our marriage and had started trying to get pregnant before our wedding. I took clomid, glucophage for polycystic ovaries, etc. and we still did not have a baby. I had a biopsy done and ended up having hyperplasia (precancerous cells) and then I found out he could possibly be sterile due to diabetes. Finally I just let it go and turned it over to God and said if it happens it happens and if it don't it wasn't mean to be.

As someone else mentioned, there are high school kids out there having babies and those that don't need them. I taught high school for 10 years have had so many of my students bring their babies for me to see. Then there would be those girls walking down the hallway with their bellies stuck out proud as a pea****. It would hurt me so bad.

I was really overweight and have since had weight loss surgery. I could only wear those big dresses because of my size. So many people would ask me "oh when is your baby do?" I would make it into a joke and say "I am not pregnant...just fat" but of course it hurt me so much.

I will keep you in my prayers!

[monki12]

hey rat....
i would go for Ivf......i think the shots can cause mood swings and stuff but i think anything is worth it to have a baby. Hubby and I have already decided that we would leave "no stone unturned" when it comes to having a baby. I made sure to have my health insurance cover fertility treatments before we were married, just in case. We havent got there, and probably never will, but i just wanted to let you know that i would be determined to do it any way i could. I have even thought of serogacy (sp?) and my final would be adoption.......but i will do whateveer it takes.....

if the opportunity presented itself and you really wanted to and hubby is supportive, then go with the ivf....

[ratito921]

I'm calling tomorrow to find out what it's all about. There was a man that I used to work with who has 4 children with his wife of 16 years and they talked it over and decided that if we try everything that we can try and it doesn't work that she would have a baby for us as a surrogate. But I don't know if I would ever go that far, being indebted to someone for the rest of my life. I mean not literally but feeling that way.

[monki12]

i understand about the feeling of being in debt with someone....it is a tough decision. this is all very tough to deal with. I hope when you call you hear good news....:blush:

[KellyKS]

I am sorry. You do have the right attitude that God had a plan, but believe me there are days that it is hard to think positive. I know when my son died and now my husband being backlogged in Mexico, I have to think like you, that God has a plan for me. It can be really hard at times and it is totally normal to feel the way you do. Just try the best you can to think positive, because in the end we don't have the control in these things anyway.

[LilB]

Rattie tat tat!

You're little Ratatouille's will come before you know it. Just continue to be patient and it will come when you least expect it. Keep your faith. All will be fine, chica!

Luv ya!
Lynette

[Anderia323]

Anyone trying to get pregnant read "Taking charge of your Fertility" by Toni Weschler- I tried for 7 years to get pregnant before I read this and now I have 3 wonderful little miracles, now turning 8,6, and 3! I took clomid, did everything but stand on my head and nothing, until I read this. With my youngest two I got a month into charting and after 18 high temps I knew I was pregnant! Please read this, I promise you won't be sorry.

[JennyM]

I guess everything will happen when its time. My GF was trying to get prego and when she couldn't she started working out at the gym. (thats how I met her) Next thing I know she loses 20 lbs and she's prego and gains it all back! :)

[Pooh79]

Rat I would def go with the IVF. Good luck!

[ojos_de_alicia]

sorry to hijack but POPOOHH me and Mad are on yahoo waiting for uuuuuuuuuuu

[ojos_de_alicia]

rat i would def call to see abou the IVF.. sounds like it might be a good option for u guys!!!! i cant wait to hear the news that ur preggo! you've been waiting so long! good luk to u!

[angela256z]

I know what you mean. 2 of my best friends are pregnant and due within a week of each other. Any good friend at work just annouced she was pregnant too. I know it starts to feel like nothing is going to work. We just have to think positive.

[mmarquez26]

Don't lose hope I was told after having my daughter which was 4 years old I started a new relationship and after a year we decided we wanted a child... So when I went to my regular doctor because I was having irregular periods and she told me that I had polisistic ovary syndrome and that it was going to be hard for me to have kids unless I lost weight that's the only way to get rid of this condition and after being diagnosed with this condition 3 months later I had an appointment with my ob/gyn to check out my hormones regarding my irregular periods and when he did the pregnancy test before giving me any hormones to take. I was pregnant he didn't believe it so he told the nurse to do it again, so she did and it was positive again, then he did the cervix check and he said yup you are pregnant.... He sent me to have an ultrasound done and I was already 8 weeks and I didn't even have any symptoms...I had my son. My problem now is I'm very fertile and it scares me... I was on the pill for 5 years before getting pregnant stopped the pill on July became pregnant on November... So we started planning another one last year in May of 07 and I got pregnant again for the 3rd time in July of 07 only 2 months... So now my daughter was born on 3/24/08... So hand in there.... If I didn't lose hope when I was told I wasn't going to have anymore kids I was sad and I even told my husband that didn't have any kids while I had my daughter to go and find someone else that can give him kids since I was told I couldn't but my husband said he didn't care that he loved me so he stuck by until we had our son and now our daughter.. Thank god...

[Emily]

Rat sometimes when you try too hard it causes your body to not receive the message. Just try to relax, and before you know it you will have one on the way:)

[madrika]

Hey girl! I haven't been able to get on here much lately, but don't give up. I'm not going to tell you to be patient or take your time or anything, but just to not give up.
I had a really hard time to get to the point where I held Pablito in my arms. I know how you feel. I know where you are and please do not give up on your dream of being a mother.
I have lost 3 very early pregnancy's and one in my second trimester. nothing can take away the pain you feel when that happens and even the pain when you just can't even get to that point.

PLEASE DONT GIVE UP!!!!

I really like this song....it says so much about how those of us that have been in your situation feel like and how people going through it feel....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JqfGqOx2iDQ

[lgatica06]

Definitely look into IVF. There are so many options out there for couples who are having a hard time getting pregnant. Research every option possible and decide what is best for you. I am sending all my baby dust to you.

[ratito921]

thanks guys

sometimes it's just hard to keep holding on. I lost a baby at 12 weeks in 2000 and at 10 weeks in 2004. I was kind of hoping this would be our year. It's so depressing.

It's really one of the only things I've ever been so sure about wanting.

When it does happen, you all will be the first to know. Until then keep sending the baby dust. :thumbup:

[aprilstorm]

Good luck Amanda!!!! Big Hugs :hug: