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MELI
04-14-2008, 09:00 PM
October 23, 2007

Meli
My address


Re: My husband
Case Number: CDJxxxxxxxxxx

Additional Hardship Evidence

To Whom It May Concern:

I, Meli, United State Citizen declare under penalty of perjury, under the laws of the United States, that the following is true and correct.

I am writing this letter as additional evidence to my previous hardship letter and in support of the I-601 Waiver of Grounds of Excludability that I have filed for my husband xxxxx on February 16, 2007. The thought that my husband’s waiver might not be approved fills me with great fear, extreme sadness, and emotional and financial trauma. We have been married for four years and four months after our relationship of four years. I have known my husband for almost ten years now. xxxxx has been gone for almost nine months as I write this letter and I miss him so much, it seems he has been gone years and not months. I cannot live my life without him I feel worthless and lonely. He is everything for me, my foundation and my pillar. I made a promise before God to be his wife and to be with him in good times and bad times and I will not break my promise. We both regret that he broke the law by entering the U.S. illegally, but I believe he deserves a second opportunity and I deserve an opportunity for happiness with the man I love in my home country. I don’t want to be in the position of choosing between leaving my family, friends, my life, my home country or my husband. Moving to Mexico would result in many extreme hardships on me not counting or mentioning the hardships I currently have. My major hardships are health, financial responsibilities, personal considerations, and security.

I have a serious medical condition that makes it a severe hardship for me to move to Mexico. I was currently diagnosed with gallstones, enclosed is a copy of the radiology consultation report and copy of the lab results. Gallstones are small substances that develop in the gallbladder. Gallstones can block the normal flow of bile between the gallbladder, the liver, and the small intestine. Gallstones are only treated with surgery; please see enclosed information regarding gallstones and its treatment. When gallstones block the normal flow you have gallbladder attacks. I am having frequent abdominal pain most commonly known as gallbladder attacks. My doctor recommended the only treatment there is, is to have my gallbladder removed. At this point this is an extreme hardship for me because I cannot afford paying for the surgery I need, since my husband is not here to help me financially. I would also need my husband by my side so he can take care of me after the surgery and the recovery process. I would be putting myself in serious danger in Mexico since I can have a gallbladder attack anytime. It terrifies me to think I could have a gallbladder attack in Mexico and not have an emergency room close by, living in a small town and not getting there in time for treatment.
I have also been diagnosed with a left breast cyst of 3.3cm. I have severe pain in my breast and I feel a lot of tenderness. This condition is also an extreme hardship for me.
A cyst is a fluid filled sac within the breast, there is a possibility that the breast cyst may become a tumor or even be at a higher risk of developing breast cancer, please see enclosed information regarding breast cysts. My doctor recommended me to have an ultrasound every six months to see if there are any changes in my breast. Having to deal with this diagnosis alone is intense and stressful. I currently have health issues that require regular monitoring and it makes it an extreme hardship for me to even think of moving to Mexico or to know my husband is not with me. I believe my health would be in serious danger if I relocate to Mexico.
Considering my family and their health history, there are genetic health problems in my family that I need to worry about. I have a great risk for heart disease and diabetes; please see enclosed information regarding diabetes. My grandmother and grandfather died of a heart attack. My father currently has high cholesterol and my mother has high blood pressure. The majority of my uncles and aunts have the horrible illness of diabetes. There is a great chance that I may develop one of these conditions as well. It is important that I have access to good health care and a healthy lifestyle, which would be impossible in Mexico. It would be very dangerous for my health due to the health care system they have in Mexico.
My husband and I want to have children in the future. xxxxx and I have talked about this since we were dating. We had to put our plans on hold until a decision can be reached on the process. I didn’t want to be separated from my husband during our pregnancy or child birth. I don’t want to suffer the extreme hardship of having to give birth to my child in a country that is not my own and where I know it has a high maternal mortality rate. I don’t want to raise our children in Mexico since their educational opportunities are deficient as well as their health care system. This wait on having our own family has also caused me extreme hardship since we have a little bit more than four years of being married. I want to start my own family and get to know my children, but also raise them in my home country in a good and safe environment.

I have an extreme financial responsibility and many financial hardships. I need my husband with me in the United States since he was the primary financial support and provider in our marriage. I have a monthly mortgage payment of $1,891 of our condominium that we purchased on June 2005 plus the association fee of $210.00. Plus the property tax bill of $3,384.98 a year, the utility bills, my cell phone bill that on average I pay like $250.00 a month, my auto insurance bill of $85.00 a month, and my credit card bills that have risen since my husband left and I still need to pay the rest of the bills. I feel I am going to have a nervous breakdown with so many bills I have and the debts I am getting into. There is no possibility I can make it on my own and there is no possibility I can relocate to Mexico with all these bills. I would have debts that I wouldn’t be able to pay if I move to Mexico and I would destroy my credit. I would loose everything we have worked hard for, which will cause me tremendous suffering.
I am currently employed as an insurance agent at Clamaci Insurance Agency Inc. I earn $13.00 an hour plus commissions, which is hardly enough to maintain my current bills. Not counting that I have to send my husband about $200 a month because since he left in February he hasn’t been able to find a job. My job requires a fire and casualty State of California license from the Department of Insurance and my job skills are very specific to the state of California law. My job skills will not and are not applicable in Mexico. I would loose my state license if I have to move to Mexico since I have to be working as an insurance agent in California and complete the continuing education of fifty fours every two years, please see enclosed information. This would also be an extreme hardship for me to loose my insurance license since I worked really hard to obtain it. I worked and studied long and hard for many hours to achieve my insurance license. I am unable to deal with the possibility that all I did was for nothing.

Relocating to Mexico would cause me tremendous suffering. I would be forced to give up not only my insurance license but I would loose the opportunity for higher education. Currently I am taking an income tax course at H&R Block that commenced on 10/01/2007. My goal is to finish this course and obtain my tax preparation license. If I was forced to relocate to Mexico it would cause a disruption of the current course I am taking. I wouldn’t be able to use the knowledge I am currently learning since the tax laws for Mexico are different than the tax laws in the United States.

I grew up in an extremely close family environment. In any birthday or event all my family is there to support each other. I live next door of my sister’s house and my mother is also one of my neighbors. Practically all of my family members live within 15 minutes away of each other. If I were to relocate I would suffer extremely knowing I wouldn’t be able to spend with them on the holidays, birthdays or special occasions as well as I would suffer If my husband is not by my side on those special events.
This separation from my friends and family would make my life miserable; I would become depressed, lonely, and isolated. I am in continuous contact with my family and friends. I have dinner every night at my mom’s house, which has become a tradition. A day doesn’t go by that I don’t see my family or talk to them over the phone. I would miss my mom terrible as well as she would miss me. She relies on my help to call and make her doctor’s appointments and drive her to them. Since she doesn’t speak or understand any English I help her translate whatever she needs or any other of my family members.
Living in Mexico would be intolerable. I would feel extremely lonely and depressed knowing I would have to live in a place where I do not know anything or anyone and it would be totally uneasy on me. It would be impossible for me to go out alone and do daily tasks done in Mexico, for example buying groceries, riding on buses or taxis.
xxxxx’s country has a very bad economy and has a high unemployment and high crime rates. Mexico has high crime levels which would affect my security and wellness. Mexico would also put me at risk of kidnapping knowing I am a United States Citizen. People would think I am a tourist and get the conclusion I have money to steal away from me. I would fear to got out and know I would also be at a high risk of getting raped. Please see the enclosed Consular Information Sheet with all the facts about living in Mexico. Mexico is not a safe country for United State Citizens; it would be intolerable, unbearable, depressing, and stressful for me or any citizen to live in Mexico.
This is not mentioning what I would have to go through while living in a small town.
xxxxx’s town does not have any phone lines nor cemented streets. I would suffer boiling water in order to take a shower since they do not have water heaters. It torments me just to think about the life style Mexico has and I do not want to go thorough that suffering and agony.
xxxxx extremely regrets the entry without inspection he had and anything he has caused with his attendance in this country. He strongly wishes a second opportunity to become a positive, helpful, and legal permanent resident of the United States. He is a really good person and husband. I need him with me or I believe I will go crazy; I cannot stand this separation anymore. I cannot sleep at nights thinking about him, thinking if he is ok, and thinking when will this nightmare end. I am so extremely stressed out and depressed since he left. I do not find any point in my life, I feel worthless. Nothing inspires me to continue with my life if he is not here with me. I am truly and sincerely suffering extremely hardships without xxxxx.
I want to have children and keep our home in the United States. If he is given the opportunity he will be a good citizen and a wonderful father. We have many hopes and dreams in my country. Please allow us to live in my country and continue to enjoy all the benefits my country has and allows. I plead you to consider my hardships that would occur to me, a United State Citizen. I depend on xxxxx a lot and I need to have him with me in the United States. I am very proud of my country and I don’t want to believe or even imagine my country would separate me from my husband, the man I love and need. Please allow xxxxx to come home and give us the opportunity to live as a married couple and start our own family in the safety and security the United States offers. I know you may be tired of reading so many letters everyday, but I plead you to consider our case and our lives and grant us this pardon. I really appreciate your time and your consideration and I impatiently will wait for your response.


Sincerely,

Meli


My first hardship letter was prepared by the notario that was helping us with our case and I didn't make a copy of it. I wrote this letter when I began getting knowledge of how a letter had to be written and I send it on October along with copies of all my bills, my lab reports, family members letters, a letter from my employer and my husband's employer. My waiver got denied on 03/04/2008 for failure to prove extreme hardship.

Please review my letter and give me any suggestions on how I can make it stronger and/or any advice. I am currently waiting for a new consular interview.

Mami-cinco
04-14-2008, 09:22 PM
I am so sorry. It looks very well thought out. Hopefully some of the more experienced members will chime in. I will definitely say a prayer for you.

Mgarcia
04-14-2008, 09:30 PM
Meli,
this letter looks good, but you should label it like Health, fiancial, eduacation, and so on to make it easier to read. I think that the cause for denial was probably the first letter written by the notario and they might have not looked at this one when their decision was made... just my opinion
I pray that you are approved in the second interview goodluck :)

Salsa2
04-14-2008, 09:55 PM
Do you have proof that they received the second letter? It seems like they may not have reviewed the second one b/c provided you attached plenty of evidence to it, that letter should have been sufficient for an approval.

Dorothea
04-14-2008, 10:50 PM
Meli, so sorry for your denial!!!
The other girls are right, this is a strong letter. You do need to make sure you've attached lots of strong evidence, especially medical records, letters from doctors, family, anything you can think of to prove every single one of your points.
Break the letter into sections, giving each section a header to make it easier for them to follow.
I don't understand why this wasn't approved, unless you didnt submit sufficient evidence....
I hope you get a new appointment quickly!

MELI
04-14-2008, 11:54 PM
Thank you very much for you input. I think I may have needed a bit more of evidence to support my points. For instance on the medical, I only submitted my lab results but not a letter from my doctor. I also believe breaking the letter into sections may also be a good idea, it will make it easier for the officer to read the letter. I am sure they did receive the 2nd letter I said because I send it certified and on my denial letter they mentioned that my gallstones and my cyst were not extreme hardship.

perez782
04-15-2008, 12:26 AM
Wow, I'm so sorry to hear this, so did your husband get banned for 10/yrs?

MELI
04-15-2008, 01:30 AM
Yes, our waiver got denied on 03/04/08but Iam not giving up; I send a letter requesting a new consular interview and I just received a letter from the US Consulate informing me that we have to wait 4 to 6 monts for a new interview. I know I can prepare a strong waiver packet with a lot of evidence now that I know about this forum. I hope you guys can help me with my hsl and with new ideas.

exploeregirl29
04-15-2008, 01:47 AM
Omg MELI, I had my gallbladder removed 4mts after i had my daughter!!! Those attacks ARE SO PAINFULL!!!!!!!!!!! I was in the hospital for 4 days because some of the stones went in another part of my body. Hopefully you can get it out asap!!!! It definatly helps having your husband there to help you heal. good luck with everything!

estrella214
04-16-2008, 05:41 AM
I am so mad after reading this letter. I am so tired of reading strong letters (in my opinion) that have been denied and then there are weaker letters that have been approved. WTH is wrong w/ DHS/CDJ? I am soon going to stop considering what I see here b/c I feel that I can no longer go by what I read ...CDJ is just a hit and miss kind of thing. Sorry guys, no offense to anyone's letters, but a couple of you guys know my story! I will just have to wait and see what happens w/ our case.

tasksgirl
04-17-2008, 02:45 AM
I know how you feel .. you have to be prepared for anything.. such BS

Emily
04-19-2008, 07:16 AM
I have not written my hsl yet but I’d like to offer up what I found when skimming your hsl. Keep in mind I’ve yet to get as far as you.

1. Gallbladder Attacks are only temporary and curable with surgery. When mine was removed I was hospitalized for 2 weeks, but that was only because I waited so long before realizing what the pain was. I had stones in all my arteries, and I required two separate surgeries to cure me. You normally go home the next day from surgery, and within one week you’re supposedly healed. Because it's a temporary hardship I’m not sure it as strong for the top of your hsl. (*Warning, if you start peeing coke colored pee then you need to get to a hospital regardless if you can pay for the surgery or not! I had the same problem. I didn't have insurance, and did not have a way to pay, but it got to the point that I almost died!)

2. There has been recent talk about Mexico's health care being considerably comprisable to ours, and being much more cost effective. Be careful when making the statement about Mexico's health system being inferior to ours because rumor has it they’re actually doing the research now, and are fully aware of what Mexico has to offer. Instead of saying it’s inferior try to prove how you can’t afford medical care in Mexico because you won’t have a job in Mexico due to Visa requirements.

3. The breast cyst should be at the top of your hsl because that is potentionaly cancerous. Cancer is an extreme hardship. You should add much more detail about this. Another idea would be to compare the size with something the reviewer would be able to understand more accurately. Instead of saying the cyst is 3.3cm; say the cyst is 3.3cm and that is the same size of a golf ball, baseball, ect. Find something that is approximate 3.3cm and compare it to it in your hsl. That way the reviewer can get a visual of how big the cyst is.


I hope this helps you.

tasksgirl
04-19-2008, 07:58 PM
Good thoughts Emily !

MELI
04-22-2008, 07:39 PM
Thank You very much Emily for your input and suggestions on my HSL I am going to focus more in my breast cyst and gather more information on the topic. I know that with your help I am going to make my letter stronger and get my husband home. I hope Laurafern can read my letter and give her input & suggestions as well.