Racist people make me so mad!

[KE06]

As some of you may remember, my husband is working in MO. Well, yesterday he called me from a laundromat (sp?) and said that he and 3 of the other guys were trying to wash their clothes. There were 3 people in there who he said that as soon as my guys walked in began staring and whipering. He said those butts took all their clothes, and put two or three pieces in each dryer, using EVERY (like 15 or 20!) dryer in the place! Now obviously this was just to be jackasses, to make it harder for my hubby and the others to be able to do their clothes, but it's pretty freakin' stupid to spend that amount of money just to be obnoxious! I was mad when he told me, but the longer I thought about it the madder I got. I finally called him back and I was so ticked I was ready to cry. He said the 3 people were just whispering and looking and acting so smug. He kept saying "it's okay" but it was not okay...not to me! We have never dealt with such blatant crap here. He said that finally each one of them got a dryer, and while I was talking to him he started laughing..when I asked what was funny, he said that about 6 or 7 other Mexicans were coming inside at that time. He said "And you know how loud Mexicans talk" :bleh: I wish I could have seen those jerks faces! Pretty soon they were leaving. I know that there are people in the world like that, but I am not used to it. I have had people look at us, but never really bad, and noone has ever been so......blatant! He said everywhere they go there people look at them. Looking is one thing, but that kind of stuff really upsets me. He is not very sensitive about those issues, and has a pretty thick skin, so for him to complain it had to be pretty bad. But he was still saying "It's okay" But NO IT WAS NOT! I get to go see him this weekend so I want everyone there to see his WHITE wife and I dare them to be rude in front of me.

[jsierra1982]

yeah people suck sometimes...fortunately i live in a pretty tolerant area but we still get weird glances from BOTH sides sometimes.

[AGJB]

:ditto:

[MMGCA]

well im sure those guys left mad!.....lol it must be hard when you live in a community where there is racism. we live in a city where 75% of people is hispacin, and yesterday as i was driving, i stoped at at red light, and i noticed these 3 whitte guys walking in a side walk with a bid mean dog. (it looked mean) and i noticed a mexican guy was walking from the other side....well one of the white guys extended his arms wide open and the mexican guy had to get off the side walk on to the street, to pass by, and had to go far int o the street because the dog was on a lose leash......it happend quick...but it is sad!!

[mouse7r]

If I remember right his working in spring field? Its not a very big city.. kinda more 'country' but Ive noticed if we leave the city we have more issues... but MO is the midwest.. I think the hispanic population around here is like 2% or something in schools.. so you know.

Anyhow Im sorry this happend to your hubby, people can be terrible. Sadly, racism is alive and kicking.

[jeannie]

Some people are so dumb. You can't really do anything about it. You can kick there *****, and as good as that might feel for a minute that would only bring you more problems with their friends and the police. So we just have to suck it up and not take it to personal. If they had some self esteem then they would not hate others so much. What a bunch of loosers. Your hubby had the right attitude to laugh it off because those people really were soo stupid that it is funny.

[JJCT]

My husband works in construction. He is the translator between the american guys and the hispanic guys. He told me that a lot of the american guys feel so comfortable with him that they make racist mexican jokes to him. It bothers him, but he never tells them to stop. It's sad that there are so many jerks in this world!

[Autumnstarr71]

I agree I hate people like that to. It does not bother my hubby either. I walk just as proud of my mexican man..

[Cfloresgirl]

They are the idiots who wasted their money on dryers..for what?..I swear nobody just minds there own business and keeps there negative feeling to themselves!

[brezarenee]

yeah people suck sometimes...fortunately i live in a pretty tolerant area but we still get weird glances from BOTH sides sometimes.

You know, I don't really think of us as a mixed race couple. It really doesn't enter my mind at all. Until we get dirty looks out at the mall (from White people) or at the soccer field (from Mexicans). Where I live is super liberal and tolerant, but I guess for so many people it's still ingrained in them that mixing the races is wrong.

That's a side note though. What idiots wasting money just to be difficult for your husband. So many hateful people out there. It's so sad.

[gringoenterprises]

The way your husband reacted says worlds about his character. Those jerks were just looking for trouble. I was in an auto parts store once and there was 2 Mexican guys having trouble explaining what they needed. The jerk working at the counter was getting upset and said something about f$%*g mexicans. I saw what was going on and felt really bad for them. I translated for them and helped to get the part they needed. When people are racist it's because the way their parents raised them. I believe it is very difficult to change that in a person. But I have power to change myself and help people when they need it and hopefully people will change their minds.

[WaitingtoExhale]

You know, I don't really think of us as a mixed race couple. It really doesn't enter my mind at all. Until we get dirty looks out at the mall (from White people) or at the soccer field (from Mexicans). Where I live is super liberal and tolerant, but I guess for so many people it's still ingrained in them that mixing the races is wrong.

That's a side note though. What idiots wasting money just to be difficult for your husband. So many hateful people out there. It's so sad.

I think it's time for people to get over thinking about the term 'mixed-race' couples! It's the 21st century and we are a melting pot of wonderful people from many countries. I believe we are all created equal under the eyes of God, so why can't people get past this? The problem is not with the people who have opened their hearts and welcomed other cultures into their lives. It is with those who remain stoic in their beliefs that other races and cultures are foreign and not welcome.

[KE06]

You know, it's funny...I don't think of us as being "mixed" either. I think everyone else in the world does ( :) ) but I never really have. SOmetimes I will think "what are they looking at?" Then I realize..., Oh yeah, I guess we are kind of a novelty or something to some people.
I think it does say something about his character, the way he reacted, but I also have been at my in-laws house here and watched people walk through their yard (shortcutting) and them not say a word, because first of all they didn't know much English, but mostly because they were afraid. They all looked at me and just said "No" because theyknew I would. The human in me got pissed then the cop in me kicked in. But I kept my mouth shut. It was hard and it hurt. I saw the shame in all of their faces, as these people (two different occasions) just looked at them all ****y, as if to say "what are you gonna do", and they did nothing. They were angry, yet fearful. It's the larger problem that bothers me so much. That people in this country have to be afraid to sand up for their basic human rights because ICE may show up if they choose to. It just really bothers me.

[seasun]

There are so many ignorants and I cant say the word, but I know how it feels, I am puertorrican and my boyfriend is from Europe, he is white, blond and blue eyes so I notice how some people look at us but we enjoy just showing off how happy we are together and we dont sweat it. The other day I went to the pub we use to go alot, well I went with my daughter, and some girls started looking for trouble just because we are puertoricans, they wanted us to move from where we were, and we were there first, thank God the bar tender who is the same race as them, told security and they were kicked out, then later we went to the pizza place and as we were leaving those girls were coming in and started yelling "get those ****** puertoricans out of here my daughter and I got mad but still we laugh together, and kept on walking. They are just really lucky that noone has gotten back to them yet cause that is totally wrong but there are times that is better to walk away after what happen to my boyfriend and the cops in my town I believe I would of been arested for just talking back...

[Glühbirne]

I can't say I hate racist people because there are some racist people who I love, my parents being the prime example. I think that to hate them back is the first instinct, but in order to stop the cycle of hate, we have to do our best to listen to thier concerns and let them know we hear them, even though we might not agree. I'm still learning how to deal with my parents' racism in a positive way. Sometimes it's soooooooo hard.


It's just so much more complex when it's your own family. It's impossible to just write your own parents off as some ignorant racist idiots, because you love them and you see the good in them as well as the evil. You can't turn and hate the people who gave you life simply because they hate your spouse.

It's all so heavy and draining to think about.

My sister, as some may already now, is pregnant by her black boyfriend. This has brought out things in my mother that I had never seen or imagined existed within her. I thought it was bad when I decided to marry Mr. G, but that was nothing compared to this. The women whose womb gave me life and who always taught me that abortion was wrong suddenly believes in abortion. She told me she does not want to meet the other set of grandparents of her future grandchild, nor does she want them anywhere near her or her house. She openly says she prefers not to dwell on the fact that they exist, because it is a sin for the seagulls to mix with the crows. She has used the N word to describe her unborn grandson. She has said that in her mind, he will always be a "thing" that should never have existed. He will always be a sin, not because he was conceived out of wedlock, but because he was conceived between her white daughter and a black man. She doesn't think he deserves life. She says that in the same conversation that she insists she is not a bad person. She swears she has a right to feel that way. She is not a racist, yet she feels she has a right to hate her unborn grandson based on how much melanin she thinks he'll have in his skin. She doesn't see a racist when she looks in the mirror. She sees a victim. A victim of her daughter's bad choices.

But I still have a small drop of faith left. I have faith that in the end, love will prevail. That she will see her newborn grandson and love him just as much as her other grandchildren.......that hate and love will not be able to coexist and her heart will melt with love and peace when she holds him in her arms. I have faith that God is love and he will overpower Satan, who is hate.

[seasun]

That is so sad, I am sorry that she is like that but its true, the best you could do is pray for her and hope that she realizes what she does before she hurts her self by hurting other people cause some day she is gonna realize the things she had said and she is gonna regret it and feel very bad about her self. I am gonna be a granny in nov. and I cant wait, I dont care if the baby its blue or red, as long as it is healthy and my daughter is happy. It is so sad there are people like that but we could say a prayer for them too theres nothing impossible for God...love...Youll be in my prayers too

[Ponchetta]

Racism will always be here. You will never get it out of some people. It is inbreed in their minds and hearts. It will never stop until the good lord comes back, and that will be a glorious day. I hope people are prepared for it.

[nineten]

@KEO6 I was in a laudry a couple years ago and a white lady and her mother were preparing to leave when she realized she couldn't find her cell phone. There were about eight people in the laundry including myself. I overhead her talking about it and I offered to help look in the bathroom, seats, everywhere and I also mentioned that it could've gotten placed within her clothes in the basket. She made a comment about an older Mexican man and woman (his niece) that she said, "Those Mexicans have been walking around a lot." I raised my voice a little and I said, "Well, I've been walking around a lot too, so?!!" She didn't mention another word about the man and his niece after I said that but I know what she was thinking that they picked up the phone somewhere in the laundry where she'd set it down. She kept searching in her car's trunk and finally she found it there. I bluntly told her that she owed them an apology and that she needs to be more cautious in who she accuses since she should've accused me as well since I was 'walking around a lot also' (although the couple hadn't heard her remark, I told them about it). She was getting into her car when I said that but after finding her phone in the trunk in the clothes was enough to embarrasss herself.

The remarkable ending to this story is that in that laundry I became friends with the man and his niece and they invited me to breakfast with them because I had defended them (which I demanded to pay for) and I've been friends with them since. He's had a kidney transplant since then that his body ended up rejecting and is on the waiting list for the next kidney that matches him. Before I left their state I bought him a new 25' inch tv since I saw that he only had a small older one. Geographically we are states apart but still in touch. For us, that episode turned out to be a good thing!

[exploeregirl29]

Racism is sad. I am from a upper class, italian american family. It took a while for my family to get usted to my husband. he makes me happy and that is all that matters to me. Sometimes when we go out to eat people stare. I just glare back at them and usally that ends it. We have a brand new toyota sequia you should see the rubber necks!! lol we have a Italian and mexican FLAG hanging from are mirroR!!! We hang them PROUDLY!!! to the rasists they can KISS MY WHOP *SS!!

[exploeregirl29]

Racism is sad. I am from a upper class, italian american family. It took a while for my family to get usted to my husband. he makes me happy and that is all that matters to me. Sometimes when we go out to eat people stare. I just glare back at them and usally that ends it. We have a brand new toyota sequia you should see the rubber necks!! lol we have a Italian and mexican FLAG hanging from are mirroR!!! We hang them PROUDLY!!! Some of the mexicans stare to. I don't really give a care. They wonder how my husband got me. Well my husband has more class they every white guy i dated!!! :wave: