I'm just upset

[lyro07]

Well, I guess, so much for culture shock for me or just a different culture, but can't accept it anymore. I was a teenager when I entered the US and had stayed there for almost 15 years. I've always consider myself that I grew up there, meaning my adulthood was in the states.

Aside the point that I miss my husband so much since it's been almost 14 months I havent seen him.
I'm so upset here also because I can't speak my mind. People here take things too personally without using their mind. So, I have to be a nice girl and just hold my breath. I did speak my mind sometime though, but tonite I was told not to do so cause it wasn't nice.

I'm just sooo upset. Thanks for listening.

[Cfloresgirl]

Well I think it's safe to say you can speak your mind here(well most of what's on our minds)14 months away from your husband is a long time.I'm sorry you have to go through that.I hope today is a better day for you.:)

[brezarenee]

You can definitely vent here! Are there any English schools near where you are? (if I understand your post right, you are in Mexico/or other non-US country) Maybe you could find other people who have been in the US who work at the English school or anywhere else in your community that would understand you better. If not, you've definitely got a solid online community here who understands you!

[J3NNI]

Yell it out to us. We are your source to get it out. I dont mind anyways.

[douginguam]

Hi Lyro,
I understand your frustration and why you are upset. Especially as it has been 3 months now.
I beg for tomorrow to be the day (I've been doing that for more than 15 days now:waiting:).
You are right - this site does not like negative inputs. Everyone wants to be fuzzy and repeating "congrats" - always on a high. I suppose that is fair, becuase we are all in the same crazy boat - waiting and waiting:waiting: - and fighting with the nameless people in the embassies that control our lives:angry:. Makes you want to bite something!
But, just at the moment like you I am NOT on a HIGH. Give me (or you) an approval tomorrow and I WILL BE:waiting:.

[Dorothea]

Doug, ouch... I think we're all pretty supportive when people have something to say here. Of course we congratulate eachother, but all of us have bad days too. As you can clearly see from all these posts! Good luck, I hope you get an approval soon!

Lyro, I'm sorry you're stuck! Where are you? In Mexico?
While I was living in Mexico I felt the same way... I wasn't allowed to be mad or upset at all, my husband didn't ever want me to express my opinions to people other than him. It's hard to keep that all inside! I had a really hard time with it, and towards the end I would just go OFF on my husband for no reason, because I was so sick of being silent!!!!!!!!!
Is there a way your husband can come see you? Lyro, 14 months is too long! After 6 months without seeing my husband I feel like I'm going crazy...
Look for a place in the woods or the desert where there are no people, and go out and scream scream scream...
I hope you can come home soon!!!

[lyro07]

Thanks for your replies and thanks for listening. I'm sorry that I didn't make my statement clear enough...

Dorothea...my husband can't come to see me yet or more like we're broke and it takes 2days by plane to come here. I'm not in Mexico and I live on the other side of the world. Plane tickets cost about $1500 plus other expenses during his visit. That's right, keeping things inside is killing me. I wish I could express my opinions/thoughts or just say to people what they did wrong...It's a different country, different lifestyle, though legally it's my country (where I was born).

I guess I'm just worried too much and this waiting game is just getting to me more.

Thank you all for your supports.

[Dorothea]

Thanks for your replies and thanks for listening. I'm sorry that I didn't make my statement clear enough...

Dorothea...my husband can't come to see me yet or more like we're broke and it takes 2days by plane to come here. I'm not in Mexico and I live on the other side of the world. Plane tickets cost about $1500 plus other expenses during his visit. That's right, keeping things inside is killing me. I wish I could express my opinions/thoughts or just say to people what they did wrong...It's a different country, different lifestyle, though legally it's my country (where I was born).

I guess I'm just worried too much and this waiting game is just getting to me more.

Thank you all for your supports.

Okay, that explains... I can't go see my husban now for the same reason, totally broke! And I'm not looking at $1000 tickets...
We are alike: so used to being able to express ourselves in the US... In other countries they just don't want to hear it....
I don't know what part of the process you're in, but I hope you can come back soon to be with your husband!