tasksgirl
04-11-2008, 11:03 PM
Ugh. I was writing for my HSL and I just got so sad !! I feel so terrible..
You see my in-laws need so much help and I wish my husband had his papers already so we could hurry up and buy the duplex we have been dreaming of so that my in-laws can finally have a house..
My MIL is so amazing she is such a strong woman.. she is always feeling sick and she has diabetes and she can't really afford the doctor she just takes some medicine that her brother sends her (he's a doctor in Mexico) and I guess that helps but I feel bad that she can't see a real doctor. She also had an attack one day that she thinks was a small heart attack. Despite ALL of this she works TWO jobs and she is gone from early in the morning until almost midnight. She rarely gets a break. Both of her jobs are cooking over a hot stove.. and she always gets burned.. she worked for the lunch truck before and you have to be cooking while the truck is moving.. and she would fall over and many times fell onto the stove burning herself badly..
ugh I'm almost crying.
My FIL is a bit old-fashioned but he has also become Americanized and become not so stubborn in the old ways.. but he still only has 1 job while she works 2 and STILL cooks dinner inbetween jobs.. but he does try to be more understanding than typically.. He is also gone all day and also at night for English classes. So the kids are either alone or they stay with us which now they are always staying with us now that hubby is not working.
My in-laws are basically my family I lived with them for 3 years and I am so, so close to them. Lately they've been needing us so much (ok I'm crying now). Richie my little baby, angel, sweetie.. he is 11 (just turned 11 yesterday!!) and he comes to stay with us after school. Sometimes his sister comes too although we are fighting right now because she is very ungrateful and doesn't help out her parents or Richie which makes me angry but I do love her alot she's basically my sister.. but Richie is younger and when I came he was around 6 or 7 so he is my BABY he is really like my SON. We help him with his homework because he is behind in school he's in 5the grade and still has alot of trouble reading.
Now about their house.. I lived there with them for 3 years and it's gotten worse even since then.. it's very old and falling apart.. it's an apartment that they rent but it stands alone. It's behind an auto mechanic shop so imagine an alley in the back, an empty lot to one side, and a bunch of junk cars in the front. They even had possums living under the apartment at one time. They have lived there for about 15 years when they left the Valley because it was too ghetto. They had a friend (the owner of the auto mechanic shop) he helped them out. They pay $300 less for a 2bedroom than we pay for a 1bedroom. It used to be very nice and my MIL has taken care of it as much as she could so the inside is mostly very nice and clean. But there is only so much she can do. Recently the wiring went out and so now they don't have electricity. They can only plug things in the sockets but they have to be careful not to overload it. The plumbing also is falling apart and my husband had to fix it temporariliy but who knows how long it will last. The windows are mostly all broken and the wood around it is decaying so bugs get in during the summer and the cold gets in the winter. They have window A/C for the summer but they don't work well and they can't run it very much because they can't afford the electric bill. They have a space heater we bought them for the winter but it really doesn't work well at all. The bathroom has gotten sort of moldy.. and the kitchen has always been totally infested with roaches. We got an exterminator years ago and it got rid of most of them but they still have to deal with them. On top of ALL this the guy just informed them he wants to raise their rent.. which is understandable because I don't think he's raised it in 10+ years but it still is bad. This building is going downhill even since I lived there a year ago the plumbing, electricity, everything went out. I'm not sure it's even inhabitable. We've been trying to get them to move to the same apartment building as we live in and we offer to help them out with the difference (it's double what they pay now) but his dad is stubborn and afraid to move although I think he is caving.
So our plan, our dream is to buy a beautiful duplex in Texas where homes are more affordable and where my family is also. I want to provide my MIL with a nice, clean kitchen she can cook in .. a nice clean bedroom to relax in .. with a spacious bathroom .. a laundry room that she can wash clothes in the privacy of her own home .. I want the kids to have a nice backyard to play in and have a dog to romp around with .. I want my FIL to have a garage to park his car in so it doesn't get stolen or broken into or TAGGED on like has happened before all recently. I want to live WITH them but not WITH them (lol) and be close enough to help them and spend time with them but also each have our own space.. I can't WAIT until hubby gets approved so we can start saving up. We plan to work 2 jobs each and save every paycheck for a year until we have 20% down. There is one duplex I want it is so perfect.. it's new and large enough for all of us .. and in a good area .. and at a good price compared to some others .. And it's also perfect because only one side has a tenant and only until March 2009 which works out perfect for us.. Usually both sides will have long-term tenants which is not what we want.. But I know it will be gone by the time I am ready right?? Ugh I am just tearing up I love them so much I would do anything for them.. I just hope that our dream will come true :shy::cry::crying:
You see my in-laws need so much help and I wish my husband had his papers already so we could hurry up and buy the duplex we have been dreaming of so that my in-laws can finally have a house..
My MIL is so amazing she is such a strong woman.. she is always feeling sick and she has diabetes and she can't really afford the doctor she just takes some medicine that her brother sends her (he's a doctor in Mexico) and I guess that helps but I feel bad that she can't see a real doctor. She also had an attack one day that she thinks was a small heart attack. Despite ALL of this she works TWO jobs and she is gone from early in the morning until almost midnight. She rarely gets a break. Both of her jobs are cooking over a hot stove.. and she always gets burned.. she worked for the lunch truck before and you have to be cooking while the truck is moving.. and she would fall over and many times fell onto the stove burning herself badly..
ugh I'm almost crying.
My FIL is a bit old-fashioned but he has also become Americanized and become not so stubborn in the old ways.. but he still only has 1 job while she works 2 and STILL cooks dinner inbetween jobs.. but he does try to be more understanding than typically.. He is also gone all day and also at night for English classes. So the kids are either alone or they stay with us which now they are always staying with us now that hubby is not working.
My in-laws are basically my family I lived with them for 3 years and I am so, so close to them. Lately they've been needing us so much (ok I'm crying now). Richie my little baby, angel, sweetie.. he is 11 (just turned 11 yesterday!!) and he comes to stay with us after school. Sometimes his sister comes too although we are fighting right now because she is very ungrateful and doesn't help out her parents or Richie which makes me angry but I do love her alot she's basically my sister.. but Richie is younger and when I came he was around 6 or 7 so he is my BABY he is really like my SON. We help him with his homework because he is behind in school he's in 5the grade and still has alot of trouble reading.
Now about their house.. I lived there with them for 3 years and it's gotten worse even since then.. it's very old and falling apart.. it's an apartment that they rent but it stands alone. It's behind an auto mechanic shop so imagine an alley in the back, an empty lot to one side, and a bunch of junk cars in the front. They even had possums living under the apartment at one time. They have lived there for about 15 years when they left the Valley because it was too ghetto. They had a friend (the owner of the auto mechanic shop) he helped them out. They pay $300 less for a 2bedroom than we pay for a 1bedroom. It used to be very nice and my MIL has taken care of it as much as she could so the inside is mostly very nice and clean. But there is only so much she can do. Recently the wiring went out and so now they don't have electricity. They can only plug things in the sockets but they have to be careful not to overload it. The plumbing also is falling apart and my husband had to fix it temporariliy but who knows how long it will last. The windows are mostly all broken and the wood around it is decaying so bugs get in during the summer and the cold gets in the winter. They have window A/C for the summer but they don't work well and they can't run it very much because they can't afford the electric bill. They have a space heater we bought them for the winter but it really doesn't work well at all. The bathroom has gotten sort of moldy.. and the kitchen has always been totally infested with roaches. We got an exterminator years ago and it got rid of most of them but they still have to deal with them. On top of ALL this the guy just informed them he wants to raise their rent.. which is understandable because I don't think he's raised it in 10+ years but it still is bad. This building is going downhill even since I lived there a year ago the plumbing, electricity, everything went out. I'm not sure it's even inhabitable. We've been trying to get them to move to the same apartment building as we live in and we offer to help them out with the difference (it's double what they pay now) but his dad is stubborn and afraid to move although I think he is caving.
So our plan, our dream is to buy a beautiful duplex in Texas where homes are more affordable and where my family is also. I want to provide my MIL with a nice, clean kitchen she can cook in .. a nice clean bedroom to relax in .. with a spacious bathroom .. a laundry room that she can wash clothes in the privacy of her own home .. I want the kids to have a nice backyard to play in and have a dog to romp around with .. I want my FIL to have a garage to park his car in so it doesn't get stolen or broken into or TAGGED on like has happened before all recently. I want to live WITH them but not WITH them (lol) and be close enough to help them and spend time with them but also each have our own space.. I can't WAIT until hubby gets approved so we can start saving up. We plan to work 2 jobs each and save every paycheck for a year until we have 20% down. There is one duplex I want it is so perfect.. it's new and large enough for all of us .. and in a good area .. and at a good price compared to some others .. And it's also perfect because only one side has a tenant and only until March 2009 which works out perfect for us.. Usually both sides will have long-term tenants which is not what we want.. But I know it will be gone by the time I am ready right?? Ugh I am just tearing up I love them so much I would do anything for them.. I just hope that our dream will come true :shy::cry::crying: