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ohcelia
04-10-2008, 10:07 PM
Hi everybody.... I would like some advice. My husband got his Visa last August 2007.. Now him and me are separated...He used me just to get his Visa. I thought that we were going to be together for the rest of our lives. I did everything that I could to get him his Visa...He doesn't work, I support him, he is sick and I cover his Insurance coverage (Kaiser). Yet his kids give him money and he hides it for me. He hide everything from me. He lets his kids talk about me and do things to hurt my feeling and has never defended me.
let me tell you what they have done.
1. His son does not like my daughter, yet he would come to my house to visit his dad (my husband) and when my daughter would greet him he would not responed back and when I asked him to at less say hi. He told me no!
and to make peace for my husband sake. I bend over.
2. His son got made at his wife , because she played with my grand daughter
who was 2 months old. Once again I bend over!
3. his kids don't like my family because they used their brains to do something with their lives. and better them selfs. One more time I bend over!
4. We went for vacation on march 14, 2008
to visit his family, his mom & dad, brothers and sister were great. But his kids were complete J.Asssses to me they, they didn't even want their kids by me.
they told them to stay away from me. And when I told my husband what they did. He told me that he did not believe me. All I could do and say was wait till I put foot on my Country..Then you will know the real me. WELL I HAD ENOUGH.. I WILL NOT BEND OVER THIS TIME. I FINALLY REALIZED THESE ARE MY KIDS AND FAMILY, MINE! I will never let anyone treat my kids like crap and get away with it. My husband never had the balls to tell his kids, that their actions and ways were wrong. Well no more. I finally told him to stick his kids up his and I will stick mind. I also told him , how would you kids feel if my children treated you like crap. They would not like it, would they.. My husband stay in Mexico and I want out of this marriage. Any advice out there in LA LA land. Thanks

Brisa6
04-10-2008, 10:13 PM
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I can imagine what a nightmare this must be for you. Hang in there and be strong, you don't need people like that in your life.

jeannie
04-10-2008, 10:17 PM
How could this happen, After everything you did for him. You did not deserve this and he should be thankful not treating you like crap. I am just glad that you finally woke up and saw the light. Don't ever put your kids second and you should be fine. Good luck

angela256z
04-10-2008, 10:17 PM
I am sorry this is happening to you. I am glad to hear that you are going to take a stand. Just like you said those are your kids. They deserve all the respect they are giving. Don't let things slide anymore you and your family deserve better than that. Goodluck to you and I hope that things work out.

~MP~
04-10-2008, 10:19 PM
wow this is hard...I am sorry you have to go through this.
I dont think anyone should be treated bad ...you really need to be strong and think really hard about your future.

Cfloresgirl
04-10-2008, 10:22 PM
Sounds like your husbands son/wife are unhappy with him being married to you.You would think they would stop and look at how they are treating you and maybe even appreciate all you did to help their father with getting the visa.You are making sure he has health coverage too!I am sorry your being treated so bad and that your husband isn't sticking up for you...Take Care...

starlynnb
04-10-2008, 10:23 PM
So you are ready to be out of the marriage correct? My sugestion would be to contact a lawyer and ask them questions on what to do if you want a divorce but your husband is in Mexico. I am so sorry that you are going through this. You and your children will be better off.

christytorres
04-10-2008, 10:23 PM
Sorry to hear about what happen..how long have you been married to him..and how long does he have his GC for..10 years..hang on..someone might chime in and say something to help your situation...good luck..

Dorothea
04-10-2008, 10:33 PM
Celia, I'm so sorry...

Coventrated
04-11-2008, 12:33 AM
If its a 10 year GC you can pretty much forget it.

Even if its a 2 year Conditional once he is divorced he can apply immediately for a 10 year GC.

If he has not adjustd the a different situation.

There is nothing you can do about the Affadavit of Support, so concentrate on protecting your own financial interests otherwise. Let his deal with his immigration issues.

aprilstorm
04-11-2008, 03:12 AM
I'm sorry this happened. You and your children doesn't deserve to be treated badly. Good luck in whatever you deceide.

joy&pain
04-11-2008, 03:22 PM
I'm so sorry, Celia...