Some people could be so cruel....

[seasun]

Hi everyone! I still wonder how can some people be so cruel. I was talking to our criminal lawyer today about my boyfriends case and tying to find out some things that we need to know before we try the waiver and stuff any ways he, the lawyer that ******* knowing that my boyfriend left yesterday to his country and knowing how much this must hurt he says to me: Oh what if when he gets there he tells me that he has another girl and tells you to forget everything, I was in shock I did not know what to say how dare him question our relationship, who is he?? Like trying to tell me to just give up cause he already left, just cause we are not married doesnt mean we dont love eachother, like Im gonna give up just like that. It hurts so much, I told him that was very hurtfull and he didnt even apologize, I told him that I dont do things cause I want something back I wanna help my boyfriend cause I feel it in my heart and I know all the things that could happen cause of the distance but Im still gonna do everything I can, and if something like that was to happen oh well, I am strong and I ll get over it but I dont just give up without trying. I dont know if this has happen to anyone of you but when I say to some people like family or others they think its stupid what we are trying to do and I wonder, when you really love someone even if you say Im gonna give up you cant cause your heart wont let you especially with relationships so beautifull like ours, yea I am scared cause its getting harder every day just realizing everything thats happening and that he may never come back to US but I really believe its up to God too, Trust God with all your heart and dont just go by your own understanding, cause we make mistakes God doesnt. Anyways I wonder how some people expect me to act like I never met him or like he doesnt exist cause he left to his country, how can someone expain this to me cause honestly I dont understand...thanks I just neded to vent...:wha:

[jeannie]

What a jerk! That is none of his business, And he did not deserve an explanation. That did not sound professional at all. You are right fight all you can and don't give up. Keep your head up. We are in this together, because most of us are going through the same thing. You had a lot of strength keeping your self from slapping him.

[MMGCA]

Man he's a Jerk!!

[chalakita]

What?! A big Jerk! Dont listen to him, oh that makes me so mad, I mean seriously who is he to talk to you like that? Stay strong please! God Bless

[nineten]

@seasun I've no knowldege as to what is ethical for an attorney to say to a client in this respect. Only from what you told us, the only thing that I can think of, on a more positive note, was that the attorney was bringing those points up to heighten your awareness that lives change once a person leaves and since you aren't married, .... well, I'm sure he's seen this same thing occur before ... a boyfriend is out of country and after the process begins there's a change in the relationship and petitioner desires to drop the petition etc, and he was planting those thoughts in your mind so you could think about it and decide if you really wanted to persue (and pay $) to follow through with the immigration process, just to make sure you were certain of what you're doing. He was trying to make you think about it first before embarking on the procedures (and us readers don't know if his might be a tough case, which the attorney might've been stressing). If this be the case, 'if that is, he should've stated it much differently and there's many other more polite ways of doing so. Maybe it didn't come out right. I don't think he meant you any really harm by saying it but those words chosen weren't the right approach to discuss it.

The reason most people are so nonchalent about it and expect you to be is because it's very true that people change and long distance relationships have been known to not work so well. It's like the out of sight, out of mind thing.

You must go with what is your heart's desire and only you and your boyfriend can make that decision. The others aren't walking in your shoes to know how you feel. Trust in yourselves and God as you said you're going to do.

[seasun]

@seasun I've no knowldege as to what is ethical for an attorney to say to a client in this respect. Only from what you told us, the only thing that I can think of, on a more positive note, was that the attorney was bringing those points up to heighten your awareness that lives change once a person leaves and since you aren't married, .... well, I'm sure he's seen this same thing occur before ... a boyfriend is out of country and after the process begins there's a change in the relationship and petitioner desires to drop the petition etc, and he was planting those thoughts in your mind so you could think about it and decide if you really wanted to persue (and pay $) to follow through with the immigration process, just to make sure you were certain of what you're doing. He was trying to make you think about it first before embarking on the procedures (and us readers don't know if his might be a tough case, which the attorney might've been stressing). If this be the case, 'if that is, he should've stated it much differently and there's many other more polite ways of doing so. Maybe it didn't come out right. I don't think he meant you any really harm by saying it but those words chosen weren't the right approach to discuss it.

The reason most people are so nonchalent about it and expect you to be is because it's very true that people change and long distance relationships have been known to not work so well. It's like the out of sight, out of mind thing.

You must go with what is your heart's desire and only you and your boyfriend can make that decision. The others aren't walking in your shoes to know how you feel. Trust in yourselves and God as you said you're going to do.

I completely understand but this is the criminal lawyer anyways and honestly all the money that has been put in to this is my boyfriends money, his savings, I have spent some money in traveling, gas and some papers here and there but the big amounts it has been my boyfriend and I do know that every one has the right to change their hearts and mind all the time I am not blind at what could happen, but its true we are talking about lawyers and they should not get emotionaly involved and I dont think he really meant to hurt me cause he doesnt even know us that well but still some people are just cruel and dont think about what they say cause maybe if my boyfriend was his son in this situation he would of been doing the same as me or even more.
I believe in life you dont have to find your self in somebodys shoes to believe and understand the pain others go true, you should give not expecting anything back, God loves the happy giver, and thats what I told the lawyer too I am not blind, and I wish the best to my men no matter what he does later cause before he was my men he was my friend and if things dont work out the way we want to we will know how to deal with it, now that he is back in his country I realize that my love for him is not selfish cause acctually I am happy that now he is free and not in prision and his parents are good to him and I know that no matter how much it hurts cause we are appart he is fine and thats what matters to me...cause I love him and allways will no matter what his choices are...he doesnt owe me anything and he knows that.. what is marriage?? a paper or a relationship?? so if we were married it was different? I dont think so, we are not married cause we havent have the chance but that doesnt mean we did not want to cause we did...and I know none of you guys are questioning me, but others do like the jerk *******lawyer... thanks for all of everyones advice, love:bleh:

[Cfloresgirl]

Sorry but nowadays people just aren't sensitive and just don't think before they open their mouth. You went to this guy for LEGAL advice..and I think he had no business giving you LOVE advice...or even questioning your relationship with your boyfriend..you both are adults and can decide on your own how far you want to go with this process no matter what cost!:wink:

[seasun]

Sorry but nowadays people just aren't sensitive and just don't think before they open their mouth. You went to this guy for LEGAL advice..and I think he had no business giving you LOVE advice...or even questioning your relationship with your boyfriend..you both are adults and can decide on your own how far you want to go with this process no matter what cost!:wink:

Thats right!! Thanks:wink:

[seasun]

What?! A big Jerk! Dont listen to him, oh that makes me so mad, I mean seriously who is he to talk to you like that? Stay strong please! God Bless

He is a jerk, but what goes around comes around in some way..thanks

[seasun]

What a jerk! That is none of his business, And he did not deserve an explanation. That did not sound professional at all. You are right fight all you can and don't give up. Keep your head up. We are in this together, because most of us are going through the same thing. You had a lot of strength keeping your self from slapping him.

He was luchy cause it was over the phone!!lol:bounce:

[nineten]

@seasun Sounds like you're strong and you know what's in your heart of hearts and how you feel irregardless of his comments. Keep marchin' forward!

[seasun]

@seasun Sounds like you're strong and you know what's in your heart of hearts and how you feel irregardless of his comments. Keep marchin' forward!

Thanks:wink:

[jsierra1982]

dude, fire him. mean people suck, and if he did it once, he'll do it again if you continue to work with him.