Thanks Everyone for your love & concern!

[mamacita]

Good Morning all of my Amiga's & Amigo's!

Well, it's another day and a new dawn! I read all of your posts from home over the weekend, and it touched my heart alot! You know it took so much out of me to post my inner most problems on line, and now I am realizing I am not alone at all with my problems since my husband came back from Mexico!

I cannot condone nor defend any of the things he has done to me! I am not a person to just jump and run away from problems, I want to try and resolve them, not alone! I talked to my husband for 2 hrs on Friday night, and told him that if he continues with his temper and name calling then no matter who he is with, me or another woman he will never ever have a successful relationship, EVER, no will he succeeed in life @ a good job. He is going to re-enroll back in college for the summer, as he speaks such fluent English and wants to be a Spanish interpreter in the court's and hospitals, and most definitely he will have to learn to control his temper!

I told him he had changed alot, he used to have a quick temper before he went to Mexico, but he didn't cuss me out, and this has occured just since he came back home! I told him you cannot take back words you have spoken once they have left your mouth, nor can you blame everything your unhappy about in your life on me! This is still a very painfull process and I am hoping by going to counseling, of which he has consented to do will help our marriage, if not then it will be over with! I will no longer put up with this way of life!

I hope that the other's still out in the shadows will get the inspiration to come forward and let those of us here on line know what has and is transpiring in their lives the many negatative changes that have occurred since their spouse has come back to the US. To say the least it's been a long painful sometimes happy journey! God bless you all for being there for me!

I'll keep you all posted on what will be changing in the future in our marriage, for now I am turning all of my pain and uncertainty over to a higher power, GOD and he will most certaintly guide me in the right direction!

Thanks and much love!
Mamacita:family::flowers:

[christytorres]

Hi Genie..well I am glad to hear things will get better..time will only tell..just stick to your guns..and be firm..all marriages go through something..even if you are not in the immigration process..thanks for coming back and letting us know you are ok..good luck Mi Amiga..and I will continue to pray for a successful marriage..you deserve to be happy..We all do..

[egonzalez1975]

Mamacita,

I am glad to see that you seem to be doing better today. I am also happy to hear that your husband is willing to go to counseling. I hope that everything works out and is successful. At least with that you know you have done everything you can do and it is now up to him.

Please let us know of your progress and I wish you and your husband nothing but the best. Thank you for sharing your story.

[monki12]

im glad you both are willing to give fight for this. I hope counseling helps, it did for us. And hard to believe, for us going to church and praying together has helped us.....good luck to you guys.

[angela256z]

Hi Genie,

I hope that you two can work it out. I am to a person who works things out rather than run. I don't think that after putting 100% of your life into a relationship and then running when things are bad are a good thing. Now if it were to become violent that is another story, but it seems like he is willing to work it out and try to make things right. I pray that all goes well for you and your husband.

[2004mms]

I am so glad to hear that he has accepted counceling and I am so proud of you for standing your ground and demanding respect. Don't ever accept any less. No one should have to put up with any type of abusive behavior from a spouse who is supossed to love, protect and respect you. I have only been married three years and so far, even with this cruel immigration process, I can, honestly, say that I am very happy and feel very blessed; but, I am fully aware that in the course of our lifetime there will probably be difficult times that I might not like. I just hope that if the situation started to become abusive that I would be as strong as you are and immediately seek the best way to resolve the problem in a manner that is best for our family.

I hope that the counseling helps and that your husband realizes what a special individual he was about to lose. By accepting to attend counseling he is showing that he still cares. So there is hope.

I wish you all the best and thank you for sharing your story. I pray that it will help many others who feel trapped in a situation like this.

May God Bless You!

[Cata]

Genie,
This absolutely is the right thing to do. I want you to know that I support you in whatever you decide to do.

Love above all conquers everything.
He must give you respect in order to receive respect. He will learn this as a life lesson. I hope counseling will help and I wish you both the best in the future.

I know it may not be fixed tomorrow but it will take time to learn & heal.

There is definitely hope there and God willing you both can overcome this difficult time.


Lots of hugs to you!

Cata

[hilarya]

Genie, I am so proud of you. Your a very courageous person. We r here for you like you have been for us. I sincerely hope that Sammy gets his stuff togehter because if he loses you, he will chase after you for the rest of his life. I have been praying for you and praying that he will see the error of his ways. I am here for you and in a very non-judgemental way.

[lizardc]

I am glad that you two will be working on your relationship. You have already been thru so much. Thanks for sharing your story (although it terrified me!) I am so scared that our separation will change things. I wonder if most couples struggle or if things are better?

[Pooh79]

Thanks for coming back and giving us an update. I am glad to see that you have a plan and that hubby will be on board. Best of luck. :)

[tasksgirl]

I am very glad to see this new outcome I really like to see couples work it out when possible.. it will take time to adjust to everything going on and the time apart.. I hope the counseling can help and that he will continue to be willing to go.. :hug:

[mjfalove]

genie--i am so glad that you are finding the strength to do what's best for you....God will send you on the right path, no matter what that may be...good luck!!!

[latinsoulmate]

I am glad he listened. I hope things go well for you two in counseling.
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

[mastervictoria]

Genie,
I will keep you in my prayers. I think you are doing the right thing. Goodluck!!

[RMJM30]

I really pray that things work our for you and your husband and that he guides you.

[J3NNI]

Yes if you want to keep your marriage and he is willing to go to counseling and chanege his bad ways that is great. You are both in my prayers, i wish you the best
Jenni

[H Suarez]

Mamacita, I am glad that you posted this. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I wish you the best with your counseling because you definitely have issues that must be addressed. It's great that he is acknowleging that. I truly hope that you and your husband can work through this rough spot. Like many others have said, stick to your guns and demand the respect. You are strong and your love for him is also, so I beleive it is possible. Best of luck to you.

[Emily]

Mamacita

It is good that you both have decided to go to Counseling, and that HE has agreed. It is a really difficult thing to go through, and the fact he is willing to except his faults is really the first step to changing them.

I wish both of you the best of luck with everything you do:) Hopefully now that he has excepted to attend counseling sessions things will start to go back to the way they were before this mess.

[aprilstorm]

Good luck with everything!!!!

[AGJB]

Genie,

You mentioned that you both have not been intimate. Has this changed? I think that this is key in a relationship. Gets the ball rolling for better communication...