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angela256z
04-05-2008, 10:05 PM
THE HISTORY
So over six years ago I was dating a guy. I became good friend with his brothers girlfriend. So there were a group of six of us. My cousin and her boyfriend, me and my boyrfriend, and then this friend and her boyfriend. The boys are all realated. All us girls hung out all the time. Then I broke up with my BF and this friend broke up with hers. We started to hang out and this is where we met my husband and she met hers (my husbands cousin). Well I still see our ex's all the time because my cousin married her BF. This resulted in the friend never calling my cousin anymore. She didn't talk or visit my cousin.

THE FIGHT
So my friend and I were dating our husbands. My cousin told me that my ex and his brother (the friends ex) had babies with their new GF's. I was like ok whatever so when I was hanging out with this friend I told her and she flipped out on me. She said I was trying to see if she had feelings for her EX and that I was trying to cause problems between her and her new boyfriend.
Needless to say..No more friend.

The "I'm sorry friend"
This friend and I worked in the same building, but with different companies. So I went to her floor and asked to see her about a year after the fight. I told her that I was sorry that I didn't know how bad the history between her and her ex was and did not realize that telling her that would effect her since it had been over a year since they broke up. She said she was fine and accepted my apology. I gave her my new number and email and never heard from her again.

BACKSTABBING
Most people here know that before my husband and I got married he cheated on me. Well the girl he cheated on me with was the new good friend of this old friend. She introduced them. I guess they are really good friends like her and I use to be. She got this girl to hook up with my husband even when she knew we were together. Now I know part of the blame is my husband, but that is history and we have worked things out. This friend is still where I am having the problem.

MY FAMILY
As you read in the history she use to be friends with my cousin. Well this friend called my ex to get my cousins' husbands number. She starts talking to my cousins husband about six months ago. Her husband is a good man and admitted that she was calling. Then she requested to come to visit. My cousin is like "Why is THIS FRIEND calling after 4 years?" She stopped calling and never came over and now all of a sudden she wants to visit? My cousin says that she only comes over on days there is a soccor game.

So I am pissed. This is my family that I visit every weekend. Why is she all of a sudden interested in being friends with two family roots that she has nothing to do with anymore? Gosh I just don't want her to have anything to do with my family anymore. She is crazy and my cousin does not feel comfortable with her there, but my cousin is to nice to tell her No.

AHH so there is my rant. I am sitting home bored not being able to play the kids or visit my family.

I know some will say just go over there, but see I have so much dislike for her that I will get into a fight the kids do not need to see that.

aprilstorm
04-05-2008, 10:54 PM
This is just my opinion Angela.....are you close with your cousin? If so why is she letting this girl come over? If I had a "friend" that encouraged my close cousin's husband to cheat..I would not let this person come to my home...I would have nothing to do with her.

I totaly understand why you feel you can't go over there. I wouldn't want to start anything around the kids either.

brezarenee
04-06-2008, 12:16 AM
Seems really odd to me that your cousin would still want to be friends with the backstabber. Blood is thicker than water, and if I was her, I wouldn't want to be around your ex-friend. Can you talk to your cousin abous this? Let her know how much it really bothers you?

aprilstorm
04-06-2008, 02:20 AM
Yes I totaly agree..I would talk to my cousin and tell her how much this upsets you.

angela256z
04-06-2008, 03:57 AM
Oh sorry. I chouls have clarified this. My cousin and I are the closest. She is like my best friend, but I didn't need my whole family knowing about my husband cheating on me and now that we are married I rather not bring it up so my cousin only thinks that it was because I told her about our ex's having babies.

angela256z
04-06-2008, 04:02 AM
My cousin called and she told me to come over that she was sure that this friend and I could fix things cause we were such GOOD friends before. I told her I was busy. I guess I could talk to my cousin more about it.

My cousin is a little skeptical about why she even called and started talking to her and her husband again. I mean my cousins husband is the uncle of this friends ex.

I don't know I mean i don't care that they are friends unless she starts to bring over that girl that she introduced my husband too and that is what I don't want so maybe I should talk to my cousin.

tasksgirl
04-07-2008, 12:43 AM
WOW ok sorry but I could not follow that at all !! LOL!! girl you got more drama than the Hills !
Everybody is related?! I'm soo lost :D

aprilstorm
04-07-2008, 02:29 AM
Angela..tell your cousin how you feel and tell her that you do not want to "fix" anything with this person.

JennyM
04-07-2008, 03:00 AM
WOW ok sorry but I could not follow that at all !! LOL!! girl you got more drama than the Hills !
Everybody is related?! I'm soo lost :D

I'm with you in this one! I have no idea....

tasksgirl
04-07-2008, 05:54 AM
Your life sounds so crazy Angela :D

angela256z
04-07-2008, 06:04 AM
LOL - Ok here goes. My ex is the nephew of my cousin's husband. This friends ex is my ex's brother. So both my ex and this friends ex are the nephews of my cousins husband.
Yes there was so much drama back then. I won't even go into who I dated after I broke up with that ex.

April - I think that is what I will do. I mean there is no reason why my cousin should not be friends with her, but I am afraid that this friend is either going to pull the same crap with my cousin or just use them to get back with her ex. I know that this friend was having troubles with her husbands infedility too.

yes I know a lot of drama and that is why I can't wait until my husband and I are just away from it all.