Feeling torn and unsure....

[H Suarez]

I know the feelings of being torn and unsure are common in this process. I want to get my life started and I feel like this process will never end for us. What then? What if we wait out my husband's 10 years before filing a waiver and he is not approved for the waiver? After all, I am living in Mexico. Why can't it just stay that way (they might ask)?

I'll tell you why.......I want to start my life!!!!!! When I first met my husband I was re-establishing my credit so that I could buy a house and I was going to school. I was doing well. As time went on we accumulated debts and often fell behind in payments do to his lack of stable employment (this was due to employers not paying him and layoffs, nothing truly his fault. Basically we depended on his income that was too unstable). Everything was in my name, because he had no SSN. I quit school because it was too much of a juggle with wedding plans and babies. (I should have toughed it out but I had a good job)

We hoped that after we went to his interview in CDJ that our life would "start." I would be able to go back to school and we could build our credit back up and get a house. WELL THAT DIDN'T HAPPEN!!!!! So now what? I feel like I am in limbo here in my life. I can't go back to school, I can't get my kids into a good school, I can't buy a house, I can't buy a car!!! Not to mention that I have to worry about how I will prove HS after 10 years of living with my husband. WHAT DO THEY WANT FROM ME?????

I am sorry for this but I need to vent. As I have said before, it is hard to talk with my husband about these things because he takes it so personally. I love him, and I want to be with him, and my children need their father, BUT what about the rest of our dreams, you know?!?!?!

[MMGCA]

I get what your saing.... Im sorry, it must be horrible!.....god bless

[H Suarez]

Thanks for listening MMGCA. I wish you the best with your process at NVC.

[YRuth]

H Suarez I wish you the best and keep your head up because at the end this nightmare will end for you. Have faith in god because he will never abandon you. I was pregnant and my husband was gone for a whole year, but I never lost faith and were reunited,even though we have some issues right now we will over come them.

Best wishes.

[brezarenee]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation H Suarez. I completely understand the need to vent. It really is unfair, but you've come to the right place for understanding ears.

As for arguing the hardship for not being able to reenter the US, even though you live in Mexico, since your on the border, I imagine you probably still access a lot of things in the US. It seems daunting, but if you had evidence of things like your kids attending school in the US or you and your kids receiving healthcare in the US, it would make for a strong case.

I wish the best for you and your family, and I'm so sorry this is so difficult for you. Scream all you want girl!

[Dorothea]

I'm so sorry... You are so strong through all of this. I hope the laws change far sooner than 10 years.

[Cfloresgirl]

Like Dorothea said..I too hope the laws will change in all of our favor..especially yours since you and your family have been through so much...keep your chin up..

[H Suarez]

Thank you all. I LOVE this forum. I am feeling much better to hear the people out there that are with me. Let's all be strong. This has to stop someday if we just keep fighting. I won't stop, it's just harder some days than others. Let's pray for change!

[Cfloresgirl]

Glad your feeling better..I am with you on praying for some positive changes,sometimes things feel so helpless that all you can do is pray..have a good day:wink: