I am having a bad day.

[angela256z]

I don't know what is wrong with me today guys. I am totally about to complain here.

I was all excited to get our petitions approved. We are not completely ready for CDJ, but the Hardship letter is the last thing and I am trying to work on that. I have been very positive that everything will work out and if hubby is backlogged we are ready. Now I realize today I am not ready for that. I thought I was ok with it, but I am not ready to live apart for a year if it has to happen. At the end of Oct my lease is up on our apt. The plan was if he is backlogged then I move to Utah with my parents. Fine ok it will be better to be close to them while he is gone, but I will be so sad. I am not ready for it. I will not have my Travel Agent discount if I move to Utah so I won't be able to fly there when I want.

Also this whole K3 thing. I just wish I would be entered into NVC so that I can figure out what I can do to get the IR now. I want my hubby to be able to come back and not be nervous about another interview and not have to sit around for 3 months before he can work. I know I should not have applied if I didn't want it, but we did at the time and now we don't need it. There were two big reasons why we wanted it and now both are not an issue.

Oh I have a headache now. Thanks for listening to my rants.

[YRuth]

Angela its very tough to be apart from your love one, but you need to be strong. Your love for your hubby is what makes you strong, you need to think positive and have faith. Please don't lose any hopes. Yes, it's very hard at first, but their is a light at the end of the tunnel and once you reach that light hapiness comes along.
I was separated from my hubby a whole year and I would cry a lot, but I never lost hope and Thank God we are reunited, so please be strong because God will reward you at the end!

[TorresSanchezKing]

:hug: No one is ever truly ready to be in backlog - it's normal to not want to be separated! Don't worry, everything will work out, even if it's not quite how you might have expected it to. Best of luck to you both and I always have a shoulder to lean on if you need one!

[Torres]

I was a way from my husband 17 months. and I miss him. we talk everyday. But with three kids and work I keep busy. It was worth it because he is home now and we don't have to look over our shoulder and worry about anything. You will get through this. God will help you. He will not give you more than you can handle.

[MMGCA]

Haay angela im sorry... but we have to be positive about all this Immigration stuff. and its is really sad to be separeted from the person you love. but always think positive, yeah there are chances of being backlged...but why torment your self soo soon!!! i hope you feel better!!....take care!!

[Chapital]

Ditto...no one is ready for the backlog, but you will find a way to make it. Blame your bad day on hormones....it's likely part of it anyway. More than half my family lives in Utah and I went to school there..what part would you live in with your parents? Mine are mostly Orem, Provo, Mapleton areas.

[adeildo]

Be strong! I'm in Brazil with my husband & my little son,we are suffering alot.
Good luck! GOD BLESS YOU!

[chilanga]

Nobody is ready for the backlog... ever. It's tough trying to find the positive in a situation that in essence is so entirely negative. That said, there is a good chance with the pilot program that you won't be separated at all. That is a chance that us 'old-timers' could only dream about. If it does come out that you guys are put into the backlog, the separation is hard, but it's doable. One good thing that my husband and I got out of it was the ability to communicate verbally much better than we used to. What else could we do? In our case, my husband had to do voluntary departure before his first appointment in CDJ, so the separation got to be VERY lengthy.

I'm confident you guys will be able to get through this. Feeling negative at times is normal and completely expected. Just try your hardest to keep positive because that will help you immensely for what lies ahead.

Good luck!

[angela256z]

Ditto...no one is ready for the backlog, but you will find a way to make it. Blame your bad day on hormones....it's likely part of it anyway. More than half my family lives in Utah and I went to school there..what part would you live in with your parents? Mine are mostly Orem, Provo, Mapleton areas.

My parents live in Orem now. We use to live in Provo. I graudated from Independence (no I was not a bad kid) and my some of my siblings from Timpview.

[angela256z]

Be strong! I'm in Brazil with my husband & my little son,we are suffering alot.
Good luck! GOD BLESS YOU!

I am sorry that times are hard for you.

I think it is just hitting me cause we are packing bags of his cloths and sending them to Mexico next month. We are sending a bunch of stuff, putting the cars in my name. It just seems like everything is happening so fast now and I am not even at NVC yet.

[Chapital]

My parents live in Orem now. We use to live in Provo. I graudated from Independence (no I was not a bad kid) and my some of my siblings from Timpview.

I don't know anything about Independence, but I have heard of Timpview. I went to school at BYU and both my parents were originally from Utah, but I grew up in CT, so I don't consider it home...I'll be there for my Dad's wedding mid April...I do love springtime in Utah.

[Cfloresgirl]

Angela before you know it..you and hubby are going to be looking back at this chapter of your life and saying "remember when we were approved"...and you will be here on I2US..telling the rest of us what to expect...hang in there and sorry your having one of those days...:)

[perez782]

Angela take a deep breath, Me and you are in the same paste with our application, I know it's hard but we are doing this for a good reason, some times I do get depress because I need my husband for emotional support, but in the long run we will be better off. Don't think negative, think positive!! Our husband will be back!

[angela256z]

I don't know anything about Independence, but I have heard of Timpview. I went to school at BYU and both my parents were originally from Utah, but I grew up in CT, so I don't consider it home...I'll be there for my Dad's wedding mid April...I do love springtime in Utah.

Independence is the "bad kid" school. You have to be referred there. That is what they say, but really most of the kids that are there are because the regular high schools do not like kids that will not graduate on time so you are sent there.

I love Utah in Spring too and summer! I was there last October right before it got cold. Lots of fun with the family.

Angela before you know it..you and hubby are going to be looking back at this chapter of your life and saying "remember when we were approved"...and you will be here on I2US..telling the rest of us what to expect...hang in there and sorry your having one of those days...:)

Thanks. It's just stressful getting ready.

[delalunaluna]

Angela, I am with you. Mine's only been gone three weeks and I am in pieces when I am alone. When I am alone, his absence is so tangible.

But it will be ok. We can make it work. Just know that. Whatever happens, we are lucky because we have someone to love, who loves us. It's painful, but it's worth it.

In solidarity,

Cami

[angela256z]

Angela, I am with you. Mine's only been gone three weeks and I am in pieces when I am alone. When I am alone, his absence is so tangible.

But it will be ok. We can make it work. Just know that. Whatever happens, we are lucky because we have someone to love, who loves us. It's painful, but it's worth it.

In solidarity,

Cami

Thanks Cami,

Sorry you two are seperated. I pray that you are reunited soon.

[Chapital]

Angela, I am with you. Mine's only been gone three weeks and I am in pieces when I am alone. When I am alone, his absence is so tangible.

But it will be ok. We can make it work. Just know that. Whatever happens, we are lucky because we have someone to love, who loves us. It's painful, but it's worth it.

In solidarity,

Cami

Cami...your post touches my heart. Every word is so true. My husband has been in Mexico for almost a year and I still feel the ache of loss. You do get used to it (numb is a good word) and find the positive in the experience, but the sadness remains.

Solidarity with you and with all who are seperated from their loved ones.

[chulatica]

I don't think anyone is ever prepared what to expect from immigration.
Its a whole stress and you begin to start stressing even when you still don't have your interview.
I guess its normal because everyone talks about it like if I were reading my ownself.
I really hope you get an approval the day of your waiver. No one deserves to be seperated from there family or loved one.

[RMJM30]

Ladies I just wanted to send a quick note of admiration to all of you that have been patiently waiting for their husband more than 10 months. And especially for those of you who had to face the decision of leaving your children with their father. That is amazing the way that you have all hanged in there without your family. My seperation has only been 6 weeks and even going to church without my husband saddens me. (he was the preacher) I just wished this process didn't have to take so long. But distance makes the heart grow fonder and God never makes a mistakes in his decision and there is a reason for this all. God bless every single one of you. Best wishes to you all. My prayers will always go out to each and every single one of you that are currently facing this difficult time.

[Dorothea]

Hugs Angela... I'm so sorry you're having a bad day. You're completely entitled to it. It's really hard to think about this stuff!
I'll be thinking of you...

[mrs.Lema623]

Hang in there Angela.. Like Dorothea said you are entitled to have a bad day, and let your worries out. I will def. say a prayer for you, to ease your worries..

[DeBenny]

:hug: Angela, I hear ya. I just got my NOA1 today and had a little moment on my driveway just thinking about the same thing. But I have to remember the third quote on my signature. I have to give my faith to God because I know that he will not allow me to handle something that I am not able to. Like Dorothea said, we are entitle to have these moments. It's okay, it is a reminder of how much we all love our husbands. :D.

[angela256z]

Thanks ladies. I am starting to feel a bit better now, but all of this is starting to be so scary and it is becoming more of a reality each day.