I was thinking? Should I go to CDJ with hubby?

[msoto]

Okay I was planning on going to CDJ with hubby when he goes for appt. We have four kids and I originally thought his appt/ wouldn't be for a while and that the baby would finally take a bottle and that we could leave them here with family. Well reading on here I found out that appts. are coming sooner. My hubby has a cousin that recently got approved and talked to him about the process and he had mentioned that it was a hassle. And that they did not need his wife. Now my hubby says I don't need to go. I was going to argue the point but I thought I would ask on here first for opinions. Should I go or stay? Does it really matter if I stay home? Thanks:dunno:

[Rosa]

I have heard of some instances where peoples' spouses have been asked to come in....but it is pretty rare. I wouldn't have missed it for the world but I can understand it would be pretty tough with 4 kids. We only took our youngest son with us...he was 3 at the time. We left our older son with my mom. I couldn't imagine not having gone with my husband though. I would have gone crazy if I had to stay at home while he was there.

[J3NNI]

we are going with our 4 kids, but it is because we are also going to visit his family that has never seen our kids.

[Mami-cinco]

We decided our daughter and myself would go because I want every last chance to be with him in case we have to say goodbye. Just typing that is making me cry. :bye:

[KellyKS]

I orginally wasn't going to go, since the appointment came way sooner than we figured. But I knew I needed to go, if nothing else for moral support for my husband. And believe me after the long long days he had at immigration it was good that I was there.

We went to visit my husband's family first and then left the 3 girls with his parent while we went to CDJ for 10 days. It wouldn't of worked well to have all 3 in CDJ, they would of gotten so bored and out of hand. A 6 year old, 2 year old and 7 month old, just imagine.

I finally decided to go, mainly so his parents could meet the children and myself and really down deep I felt I needed to be with my husband for this process. My husband was backlogged so I am especially glad I went because we had those 10 days in CDJ alone, as a couple. I can't imagine how it would of been for him and myself, if we weren't together when we found out he was backlogged.

[Rosa]

We decided our daughter and myself would go because I want every last chance to be with him in case we have to say goodbye. Just typing that is making me cry. :bye:

Stay positive...everything is going to be ok. I know this is an extremely hard time with so many uncertanties. Just remember to focus on what you're doing right now...working on that hsl and all your evidence. That's the MOST important thing right now so put all your energy into it.:)

[KE06]

We decided our daughter and myself would go because I want every last chance to be with him in case we have to say goodbye. Just typing that is making me cry. :bye:

Awww, that made me cry. I pray that everything goes great for you guys and there is NO goodbye, just lots of congratulatory hugs and happiness!

As for me, I couldn't miss it for the world. I feel like the caretaker, so I'd have to be there. I couldn't stand to be so far away while my hubby was going through all that. I would have to see his face as soon as he came out. I doubt I will even be able to wait at the hotel when our time comes. :blush: BUT....with 4 kids, I know that is a lot to handle. So, I thnk it is just your personal choice. Now, if you want a babysitter, send 'em on to SC, so you can go with him! I'll be glad to help ya out :)

[msoto]

Thanks you for your opinions. We were going to visit family also that has never seen the kids but hubby says that if he gets his papers that as soon as he gets back we'll all go. But I am scared that he will be backlogged. Then what? IDK, IDk The stress of this immigration process is finally getting at me.

[fashionista]

My husband and I have been debating whether or not I will go with him to his apt in CDJ also. Especially now that interview's and waiver apts are so far apart. He may just end up going alone to his interview and then fly down to Guadalajara to see his family and go to Santa Ana de Guadalupe to see "Santo Toribio" and then he'll fly back to CDJ for his waiver interview.
We kinda figure I should save my vacation days so we can take a nice vacation if he is approved or to visit him if he is backlogged!

[jeannie]

I would go.Men like to act like they don't need us,but they do. He will want you there. you will want to be there also.

[RMJM30]

I went to my husband's 1st appointment. Me, my dad, and our youngest drove out on a Sunday and came back after his 1st appointment that Monday. I wish I would have stayed all week long with him but unfortunately I had to come back and tend to my other 2 kids. I don't regret going and spending that one day with him since he had gone a week ahead of us. He has been gone for a month now and we have already gone for a 3 day weekend to spend time with him and I enjoyed our time. It even made my day when he told me that even though it was just a couple of days we got to spend together that it was the best couple of days of his life. So I would highly recommend if you have the ability to go do so.

[delalunaluna]

I am definitely going...flying down there on Saturday for his Monday appointment. He will have been there a month and this would have been the hardest thing ever but I have had family members and friends visit (thanks to spring break -- my family members are practically all teachers). I also can't fathom what I would do if he were denied or even backlogged and I were so far away from him. Crying just thinking about it. I mean seriously, I would probably freak. Good luck to all of you.

[NYCwife]

Well until recently, the plan is that we would all go down, have his appointments in CDJ, then go to Puebla to visit his parents and have the babies meet thier abuelos. As it gets closer (I hope) it seems that appointments for the waiver are really spaced out from the IV appointments and it seems like it will be getting really expensive. Flying with 2 adults and three children from NY to El Paso, to Puebla or DF and back to NY is ridiculously expensive. I was thinking of having him do the CDJ thing himself and meeting him with the kids in Mexico City afterwards.

Of course I am way too much of a control freak to be ok with that....and he pretty much leaves everything to me (works well for us...lol) that he would be lost in the process without me. It is a wrenching decision, because we will be really in debt when we return (after a couple of weeks and together, God willing) because we will be borrowing to be able to get everything done.

nycgrrl

[hectorswife]

I went to my hubby's first appointment, and then didn't go to his visa pick-up after one year appointment (pre pilot program). I wasn't needed at all for either one. I had better peace of mind at the first appointment by being there, and I was a crazy woman while he was at his second appointment. I had no idea what was going on. You could take the littlest one and leave the others at home... maybe that would work?

[nena08]

I am planning of going with my husband when the time comes but who knows...depends on how far the interview is form the waiver appt..

[mouse7r]

I was planning on going... but I was also planning on this happening in 2 yrs when our youngest was 3... now his only going to be 1.5 if everything goes as it has been.... He doesnt take a cup well, he just loves to BF soo I have a lot to work on. Our daughter will be just fine with my parents, I just dont know if our son will be.. or if they can handle him. But I cant imagine taking him with me, he would be so bored. HOWEVER my hubby needs me there to hold his hand, as PP said I am the one that organizes and basically he couldnt pay a bill without me walking him through it :) Its just how we are! So I cant imagine him being down there by himself. I guess we will wait and see how we feel closer to the time... but hubby is planning on me being there!