Venting about stupid family member!!

[tasksgirl]

Hubby has this cousin that ughhh he drives us crazy..

He came somehow on a tourist visa I think.. and married a citizen.. they were married for a few years and then got divorced.. of course after he had adjusted his status..

They had a daughter together and the girl REALLY thought the marriage was real.. then after they divorced he petitioned to bring some OTHER girl (apparently his REAL girlfriend) from Mexico (either that or he had her come EWI who knows..) .. so now he is legal but he has said he is going to go back to Mexico so he doesn't have to pay his child support anymore :wha: !!! He is so crazy that just makes me so mad !! And see the government thinks that just because someone came on a visa that makes them better for the country?? He is going to just run out of the country just to avoid paying child support! If he was going to leave this girl and bring his REAL girlfriend from Mexico then WHY oh WHY did he have a child with the first wife ??

Then hubby tells me that a looong time ago, when hubby and I were together but the extended family didn't know yet, this cousin told him just to marry some white girl for his papers cuz that's what he was doing !!

I hate this guy he is such a jerk.. and his mom in Mexico has been trying to put curses on the rest of the family just so she can get the inheritance that the family has been fighting over for years.. and she keeps trying to get everyone's shares.. they are just BAD apples !!

[TorresSanchezKing]

:hug: Sorry, nothing much I can say to make it better, but wanted to send that along!

[MARIPLAY]

not not bad apples ..

bad seeds ..

no your right ..these seeds have grown into apples ...they are bad ..bad people ..

[Autumnstarr71]

I think the child support can catch up to him in Mexico to. So he better watch out..Poor child.

[tasksgirl]

I just can't believe he would go through ALL of that just to get legal and then run out just to avoid paying child support for a child he shouldn't have had in the first place considering his evil plan !!

[DeBenny]

Okay...(I am not sure of about this) If he plans on leaving to Mexico w/o only being a LPR after a period of time w/o entering back to the USA he will lose the status, right? So he is risking that.

[tasksgirl]

I have nooo idea but he is an idiot :(

[J3NNI]

What a low life

[DeBenny]

I think that there is one in every family...and if you aren't very lucky you could end up with a few of them. People like that are bad news.

[fernandez's]

WHAT A LOSER!!! WHY DON'T PEOPLE THINK ABOUT THEIR KIDS AND IF YOU DON'T WANT ONE HERES AN IDEA DON'T HAVE ONE..SORRY THAT YOUR FAMILY IS FULL OF BAD APPLES.

[YRuth]

What a jerk, he doesn't have feelings for his child, his blood. Man like this should rot in hell. I wish his child and the mom good luck, their better off with out him. Just remember what goes around comes around, therefore he should watch out!

[Kikigurl1]

This guy is obviously an extremely selfish person. I just don't understand how people walk out on their own kids just because of money or other stupid circumstances. Makes no sense at all. Hopefully if this guy does return to Mexico something will happen where he won't be able to come back here. Just remember what karma is and does lol... So try not to worry about him and let him get you all angry (even though I understand why you are) He'll get his share later on!

[AGJB]

Taskgirl,

Karma is a b*atch!

[discoviking]

Okay...(I am not sure of about this) If he plans on leaving to Mexico w/o only being a LPR after a period of time w/o entering back to the USA he will lose the status, right? So he is risking that.
That's correct. If he is out of the US for 6 months, it is considered intent to abandon LPR status. If he is out of the US for over 12 months, the green card is invalidated unless he has a valid re-entry permit. Not maintaining continous residence will affect his ability to apply for citizenship - which is why they ask for number of trips and lenght of stay on the N-400. Not paying child support will affect his ability to apply for citizenship as well.

It is up to you if you want to let this *****h*** know this information or not, Task.

[tasksgirl]

haha! Thanks.. I doubt he would listen.. he's that big of a jerk I bet he'd be willing to lose his whole PR just to get out of the money.. and then want to EWI agan a year later.. jerk.! lol

[DeBenny]

haha! Thanks.. I doubt he would listen.. he's that big of a jerk I bet he'd be willing to lose his whole PR just to get out of the money.. and then want to EWI agan a year later.. jerk.! lol

I dont think his little trick will last him long with all the anti-immigration laws that are being considered. He will come to a really rude awakening.

[discoviking]

haha! Thanks.. I doubt he would listen.. he's that big of a jerk I bet he'd be willing to lose his whole PR just to get out of the money.. and then want to EWI agan a year later.. jerk.! lol

Good riddance, then. I am normally very pro-immigration, espescially family based. I think most people here know where I stand on the issue by now. But after hearing this guy's story, I belive he did not deserve to get a greencard in the first place.

It will catch up with him. What goes around, comes around.

[discoviking]

I just don't understand how people walk out on their own kids just because of money or other stupid circumstances.

Me, neither. I get very angry when I hear stories like this. We tried for years to have a baby, but my wife has some issues that makes it impossible for her to get pregnant. I know everything is in order with me, but what I am supposed to do, leave her for some younger, fertile woman? That would be a heartless thing to do. Besides, I married my wife because I love her - and I do take my marriage vows seriously.

When I came here almost 24 years ago, I brought with me some childrens books, toys and other items that was special to me when I was a kid. I figured I would pass it on when I had a child of my own, so that the kid could learn a little bit of the language and traditions from my country. All that stuff is still in boxes, collecting dust in my attic. One day I will have to give it a proper Viking funeral and burn it all, but I have not been able to bring myself to do it yet.

Then I read a story about some jerk like this who has a child with a woman he married just to get a greencard. I know life don't work on checks and balances, but stories like that gets me very angry.

Sorry for the rant, I just had to get that out of my system.

[Kikigurl1]

When I came here almost 24 years ago, I brought with me some childrens books, toys and other items that was special to me when I was a kid. I figured I would pass it on when I had a child of my own, so that the kid could learn a little bit of the language and traditions from my country. All that stuff is still in boxes, collecting dust in my attic. One day I will have to give it a proper Viking funeral and burn it all, but I have not been able to bring myself to do it yet.

Then I read a story about some jerk like this who has a child with a woman he married just to get a greencard. I know life don't work on checks and balances, but stories like that gets me very angry.

Sorry for the rant, I just had to get that out of my system.

Maybe it'd do you good to go ahead and have that funeral you speak of.... You know what could happen once you burn that stuff?? Your wife will probably get pregnant! I'm just kidding but for me... Murphy's Law gets me all the time. I could save something for years and years, not use it, and then if I get rid of it... like 2 weeks later I'll actually wish I had it because it was something I ended up needing. :waiting: Funny.

Don't be sorry for your rant DV... we are definitely allowed to do that here!!

[arcoiris]

Aint that always they way? Folks that try so hard to do right can't get ahead, but it seems like people that go out of their way to be jerks always slide right by in life.

[DeBenny]

Aint that always they way? Folks that try so hard to do right can't get ahead, but it seems like people that go out of their way to be jerks always slide right by in life.

My God! Aint that the truth. http://smileys.on-my-web.com/repository/Unhappy/unhappy-033.gif.

[Yadira86]

What a jerk...I just know that someday he will definately regret wat he's going to do..What ever goes around comes around..Poor child..I hope he doesnt plan on having anymore at all..being a ******* that he is..If he does i hope his future children aren't Aholes to him cuz then he'll really regret leaving a precious child...

[discoviking]

He probably didn't even plan to have this one.

[jveli]

What an A******!!!!! Citizen or not...there are tons of deadbeat parents out there. Shoot...my two little ones father is a born here citizen and we were married, and from the time they were born to this day he has not done one positive thing for them, but pay child support. And their REAL father, the only one they have ever known is my current husband, the one the government is trying to deport. And I put all of that in my hardship letter too. The way I see it dontating sperm does NOT make you a father!!!

So DiscoViking...I am unsure of you and your wife's view of adoption or being foster parents and I do not wish to pry at all, but the thought that ran through my head when I read your post was "God, we need more men/women out there like that...who WANT to be parents, have children...to take care of those lost children with no family."

[Brisa6]

I understand your anger. You poor thing, you get mad a lot, you're going to age I tell you. Don't worry he'll get what he deserves and that girl he left, she'll be ok, even without his money. I have a friend who is succesful, has her son, and doesn't need a man to help her. Pero, por favor calmate mujer. That means please calm down. Or do you speak and read Spanish?

[discoviking]

So DiscoViking...I am unsure of you and your wife's view of adoption or being foster parents and I do not wish to pry at all, but the thought that ran through my head when I read your post was "God, we need more men/women out there like that...who WANT to be parents, have children...to take care of those lost children with no family."
I have mixed emotions about adoption and the issues that comes along with that. I don't doubt that we could bond with an adopted child just as well as with a biological one, but I don't like the idea of having some government agency scrutinize my life to decide if we would be suitable parents or not, and then there is the possibility of the biological parent(s) entering the picture at some point. I doubt we would even qualify as adoptive parents, given that we are both in our 40's by now.

[jveli]

I have mixed emotions about adoption and the issues that comes along with that. I don't doubt that we could bond with an adopted child just as well as with a biological one, but I don't like the idea of having some government agency scrutinize my life to decide if we would be suitable parents or not, and then there is the possibility of the biological parent(s) entering the picture at some point. I doubt we would even qualify as adoptive parents, given that we are both in our 40's by now.
Yes, I have heard the same sentiments from a woman who I know, and she said it is so expensive to do a private adoption, so to test the waters they trained to become foster parents, figuring they could be parents at least in some way, and found out that their age, same as yours, was not a disqualifying factor for adoption, and that it was easier to adopt through the state system, than privately...

I respect your thoughts because I imagine it is a hard place to be...

[tasksgirl]

Disco - I'm so sorry to hear your story that is exactly what I was also thinking of .. that people out there want children and can't have them while he just wants to abandon his.. I hope something can work out for you..somehow..

[discoviking]

Pero, por favor calmate mujer. That means please calm down. Or do you speak and read Spanish? Hablar Espanol pocito. Just what I taught myself, but I did understand what you wrote. Thanks :)

[discoviking]

Disco - I'm so sorry to hear your story that is exactly what I was also thinking of .. that people out there want children and can't have them while he just wants to abandon his.. I hope something can work out for you..somehow..
I have a bunch of nieces and nephews, so it's not like there aren't any kids around. And being childless does have it's advantages, too. When my sister's boys were smaller, I used to make a point out of getting them christmas presents that required batteries and made a lot of noise. Drove my sisters nuts, but they had no way of getting back at me. And I am still my nephews favorite uncle..... :yay2:

[discoviking]

Yes, I have heard the same sentiments from a woman who I know, and she said it is so expensive to do a private adoption, so to test the waters they trained to become foster parents, figuring they could be parents at least in some way, and found out that their age, same as yours, was not a disqualifying factor for adoption, and that it was easier to adopt through the state system, than privately...

I respect your thoughts because I imagine it is a hard place to be...
Yes, it's tough sometimes, but we have kinda resigned ourselves to the situation by now. We did look at private adoption, but as you said, it's prohibitely expensive. We might have to take another look at state run adoption again, though. We'll see. Sometimes things happen when you least expect it.

[KE06]

Tasks...I can see why it ticks you off. Seems there is one (at least) in every family!

Discoviking - I particulary feel frustrated about folks like that having kids that they don't seem to really want when there are those of us trying.......

Mariplay Girl, I love, love, love that avatar! That Gustavo is just.... whew! (Shhh don't tell my hubby. Just kidding, although he doesn't see what the big deal is)