Good bye guys

[Venus and mars]

I am done with it.. yes, am quitting, but I wish the best for all of this people who is still waiting before the pilot program and for the rest that were backlogged due to lack of evidence. Hope that go back with their love ones soon.
I am not strong as thought it once.. , bye, bye
And God bless you

[hilarya]

What is going on?

[~MP~]

I believe I understand...I am nowhere near as strong as everyone is here...but I got attached to the forum and here I am...
Who knows if I will ever start the process...I am hoping something good will happen in the future.
GL...I wish you the best.

[H Suarez]

Venus and Mars, I do not know you because I am new to this discussion board, but I saw your post and the picture of your beautiful babies....I just had to reply and say, "Don't give up!" I'm not sure what your situation is, but let us help! Even if the site can't help the situation, it can help you.

[Laura]

Oh Venus and Mars! What do you mean quitting? Whatever is going on and whatever you decide we will miss you!

[hilarya]

Please don't leave!

[Brisa6]

What's wrong? Don't give up.

[stephanie]

don't give up. we can't

[monki12]

i understand you venus and mars....and mostly everyone here who feels like their life is on hold and are waiting for this system in order to have our lives begin. I wish you the best venus and mars, you guys have been waiting a long time for a decision. I hope things are well with you guys.....

[UnsureSmile]

Don't leave...:please:

Hang in there...I am sure your approval is on its way to you right now....hang in there!!! :o

[ccdc]

Why are you quitting? Is there anything that we can do to help?

[joy&pain]

Venus&mars,

Did you ever contact your senator's immigration liason? I had to and they were a big help.
Please don't give up, for the sake of your daughters and your future, Don't give up.

My husband and I have been separated for 26 months and he is flying in this weekend. This will be the first time he has slept in our bed, watched our tv, opened the fridge, etc in more than 2 years. There were SO many times I wanted to give up. But I didn't. And you can do it too! There's nothing special about me, YOU can do this! When this process is all over, you will be so thankful that you didn't give up. It IS worth it!

[shelia1963]

you will be in my prayers

[shelia1963]

you are in my prayers please dont give up

[felixthecat]

Please listen to joy&pain.
I understand what you are feeling.

Did you get a denial? Is that why you are giving up? Or are you just tired of waiting?

Please think carefully on this and let others help you through this dark night of the soul. We know it is bad. But if you didn't get a denial you must be so close....isn't it worth hanging on a little longer?

[llanderos11]

Don't give up yet. I know that it's hard but you have come so far already. This is just a part of the process that we have to go through. We are all lonely, frustrated, broke and unhappy. There have been times that I could not even pay the bills. I am in debt and still without a husband. Can you talk about why you made this decision?

And if it is truly the only option that you have, God bless you and may you be happy.

But talk to us some more. We're here for you.

[tasksgirl]

Girl please tell us what happened?? What are you quitting? The site? The process? We are all here for you !!

[2004mms]

Lord, please don't give up!!!! We are almost at the end. I am sure that you have a good reason for your decision, but please give it a second thought.

May God bless you and give you the strength to keep going.

[gaby]

You should be strong where ever you go good luck

[christytorres]

I am sorry to hear you are feeling bad..and please don't give up..its easy for anyone to day that..but don't..I know the feeling...it takes you to that breaking point..and trust me, it not a good feeling...like no way out..my husband was gone almost 2 years..and it was crazy..going back and forth..struggling to pay bills..and not having him at home PERIOD..its hard..I will continue to pray for my forum family..and hope that they will all be with there loves one's soon..good luck with what ever you decide..we don't judge...have faith...

[sandra191406]

Don't lose hope! :)

[Dorothea]

V&M, I hope you'll let us know when you get your approval... we'll be thinking of you.

[losguerra]

Hang in there Venus and Mars. I'm sorry it's gotten you so down. :(

[hilarya]

Please come back.

[Glühbirne]

Don't give up. It's hard, but it's not impossible. I'm not extra strong or extra smart and I was able to do it. It's at least worth a try.

[chulatica]

Noooooo...don't leave.
Hang in there just a little bit more. You know what I exactly feel like you at times I just break down and say Im done with it I can't take it anymore we need to go back to the US. But my husband is the one who always tells me that things will be better later on. Right now they suck but he promises that as soon as we come back to the US we will be so happy! Its your decision but please there so many of us waiting probaly not as much as you have but you are a very strong person!

[y14gemini]

Things happen in life for a reason! Please do not give up!

[aprilstorm]

I hope that you continue on your case. No it's not easy. My hubby was gone close to 3 years..there many times I felt like you. It was so very hard..but finally we got the approval letter and the joy you will at the end will make it all worthwhile.

[lamartinez]

V & M
I just went back and read a few of your previous post to see what your timeline was. I noticed that alot of your post was you congratulating someone else on their approval, which I know cannot be easy since that is the thing you are waiting on. Please hang in there, I hope you get your approval soon.

[sam1010]

V&M, I have been waiting for almost SIX years. I moved to my hubby's country so that I could keep our family together. No, it is not easy, but I refuse to give up. I love my husband. We have been married for nearly 11 years. V&M, think about your happiness and the happiness of your children. You DESERVE an approval and to be with your husband. Don't give up. Don't let immigration win. That is what they want. Don't let them split your family apart. It is SOOO not worth it. I wish you the best. May God be with you and give you a million blessings. Good Luck.

[ctorres]

V&M don't leave, don't loose hope pretty soon you'll recieve that letter from CDJ.:o Pretty soon you will be reunited with you hubby.

[J3NNI]

Ditto, why , what, how, keep your head up, all will go just fine, you just cant give up.
Jenni

[Venus and mars]

I appreciate your courage, thank you for your great messages, I want to let you know, haven't gotten any letter yet. I know , am not the only one who is going thru this process, but it has been so much hard on me lately, my husband is depressed , so do I. My little girl keeps telling me that wants to be with her daddy,everyday, and I don't have words to tell her my situation, the kids at school keep bothering her thinking that she doesn't have a dad. Also , she has forgotten to speak english, and my little boy doesn't know english at all.So when my husband calls, our kids doesn't know what is going on,because he doesn't know to speak any spanish either.
But you are right guys, I can't give up right now, we are going thru hell right now, but I keep my faith that will get some good news soon. God Bless all of you , who are with their family now, and also the ones who are still waiting as me. See you soon..

[LilB]

Glad to see you back! Girl, we're right her by your side, u know it.

[J3NNI]

I am so happy you changed you mind. This is a very stressfull thing to go through, but someday you will look back and realize it was worth it.
Jenni

[felixthecat]

My little girl keeps telling me that wants to be with her daddy,everyday, and I don't have words to tell her my situation, the kids at school keep bothering her thinking that she doesn't have a dad. Also , she has forgotten to speak english, and my little boy doesn't know english at all.So when my husband calls, our kids doesn't know what is going on,because he doesn't know to speak any spanish either.

Do you both have internet access?
If not, can you get it?

I could not handle the seperation from my son without Skype (internet video calling). My son is almost 3 but not very verbal, and sometimes I just need to see him.....
Just a thought.

I am very glad you didn't get a denial or anything...
I was just worried that was why you were giving up.

Hooray for you for keeping on, though :thumbup:
it breaks my heart hearing how your kids feel.
This is all just so awful!
But they have suffered so much already and it would be for naught if you give up now. SO keep up the faith and take it one day at a time.

I know there will be those times....but just remember that you may regret it if you act in those moments.
You have your childrens future in your hands and it is hard sometimes to keep the long term goal in mind when their short term needs are so strong. But it WILL be worth it someday.
And I pray that your day comes soon.

[aprilstorm]

We are all here for you!!!! Anytime!!!

[joy&pain]

We're glad you didn't leave or decide to give up, V&M. Take it one day at a time.

[stephanie]

You are not alone. And thanks to God and this site - I am not either. Cause it is very hard and some days are hell.
But we will make it. The when is the hard part.

[2004mms]

I am so happy to hear from you!

I have been wondering about what your situation might be like. I was afraid that you might have received a denial and I am soooo glad that you did not.

I am sorry that you are having a difficult time right now, but please, just keep in mind that WE WILL get an approval soon and all of our suffering will be nothing compared to the joy and happiness that we will have when all of this is over and we are home with our families.

Everytime you start to feel overwhelmed, take a look at your kid's beautiful, innocent faces and feel proud that you and your husband are enduring all this pain so that they can have a better future. Rely on your faith for strength. So far, it has worked for us. We have been very low, at times, but we want our children to have the best possible future that we can provide so we hold tight to our faith and get back up.

Its tough, but you can do it. God will never abandon you. Hug those babies and hold them tight. Their smiles will fill your heart with joy and ease the pain a little bit.

[TorresSanchezKing]

I'm so sorry to hear that things are so difficult for you and my heart definitely goes out to your and yours. I wish there was something brilliant that I could say that would make the pain all go away. Just know that everyone here is rooting for you and will help any way that we can!

[dnatej]

I am soo sorry things are very difficult for you, just no you are not alone, and we will get thru this together, hang in there!

[mamacita]

V&M,
PLEASE HANG IN THERE OUR AMIGA! You are NOT ALONE! There are many of us still waiting, and some that have already crossed that bridge.

Remember your children:cath: and know God isn't going to put you through more than you can handle!;) He is the one in control!

My husband was gone to MX for 14 months 1 wk and there were many dark days that I swear I couldn't continure and would become so depressed I'd stay in bed the entire weekend, but you know what when I least expected it I found out right after Thanksgiving he was approved, and that was a total surprise!
You too will experience this very soon, so please realize you have many friends here on this web site to keep you going and help you throught this!
Your NOT ALONE!:thumbup:

Keep the faith and God is going to provide your with that last push to make it to a successful outcome to this long journey we have all been through or are there along with you now!

Mamacita:go:

[China]

I want to wish you the best and dont loose hope. You have to be strong for yourself and your kids.

[Venus and mars]

Any word from your messages made me cry, I have not words to tell you how much thankful I am with everybody for your courage,
God bless us and keep praying for getting our approvals soon.

[sam1010]

I am so glad you returned. Please keep trying. We are here for you. I hope that you hear of an approval soon!

[jessfs8]

We will be praying for God to give you and your family the strenght you need to go on. Have faith in him and he will take care of everything. Everything happens for a reason and sometimes we can't see it at that time but God is with you and with your family. God bless

[Cynthia]

VandM, ~hugs~...keep on pressing forward and chin up. We're here for you.

[llanderos11]

Venus & Mars, thank goodness you are still here. Believe me that we know how hard it is but we need to keep going. Dios te bendiga a ti y a tus ninas preciosas.